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[E211]Emotional And Psychological Abuse

by Peter Blake, Pet

Children can often be the most effected by divorce, and recent sudies have found that children from broken home are more prone to violence and substance abuse than those from a happy, family home. In many instances children who are products of broken homes are so filled with guilt and anger they become self-destructive,

What makes a sad situation even sadder is that parents going through a divorce are usually under so much emotional stress they are able to be of litle help to their children. There is often a heightened risk that children will self-harm if they are deprived of the emotional support of their parents.

The Fear Of Being Alone

People going through a divorce experience different levels of emotional stress, and women - especially those who have been homemakers for several years - are often at a loss as to what to do with the rest of their lives.

For women homemakers, the fear of losing a loved one and the fear of having to raise the children on her own is so overwhelming that a lot often experience emotional breakdown at this point. According to experts, even some women who have been abused by their husbands find it difficult to accept the divorce because they cannot picture themselves raising their children on their own. For them, living in an oppressive situation is better than taking on the challenge of living on their own and raising their kids single-handedly, especially if they do not have a steady source of income. Women having lost the companionship and love a good marriage can bring cannot help but feeling helpless and alone if the marriage fails; raising children is never an easy task.

Dealing With Emotional Stress

Since divorce is such an emotional time for both the spouses and their children, a strong support network is very crucial to help the all concerned cope with the situation. Counseling is very important at this point. Talking to children, and allowing them to express their feelings about the divorce, can often be beneficial to all concerned. According to experts, talking about the divorce together with the children and their parents often help the parties come to terms with the situation. Talking problems through is always a good idea, though obviously can be painful at first, especially when children are involved. They may have a problem accepting the inevitable fact of the divorce.

Avoiding Divorce

Avoidance is much better than any cure! Resolotion of problems in a mariage is a far better, and less expensive, solution than breaking up the family by getting divorced.This may be best achieved with professional help. Such help can be accessed online.

Wishing you success in resolving your differences, and a happy future together!

Copyright (c) 2007 Peter Blake

Research has shown that 75% of rosacea and acne sufferers have reported psychological effects such as lowered self-esteem and self-confidence that lead to a reduced quality of life. As a former rosacea sufferer for 27 years, I can deeply relate to this statistic which has led me to write this article from personal experience stressing the importance of seeking medical advice if you feel your are suffering from psychological effects.

My rosacea symptoms started at the beginning of the 1980's when I was in my late teens. It began with a light redness in the cheeks that became more intense as the day progressed. At first I thought I had contracted some sort of viral infection and tried to forget about it. However, after several weeks I continued to suffer from frequent flushing, which then lead to a permanent red complexion.

At that time little was known about rosacea and the symptoms were considered to be a form of acne and were treated as such with sulphur based remedies. My doctor even recommended hot baths to relieve the symptoms; little did they know that these remedies actually made the condition worse,

After a while I became very self-conscious of my appearance and had to endure the daily jokes such as: "Don't stand on street corners you might stop the traffic" or "Are you sun burnt again?" Even social occasions or nights down the pub with friends became a challenging event, as I continually found myself searching for the darkest corners to hide my flushed face.

Back in the 80's there was no Internet so the only source of trying to find a suitable remedy was through books in the library, a quest that proved to be hopeless.

The years passed by and my condition neither worsened or improved, but thread like blood vessels were now visible on my cheeks - which people wrongly presumed to be a result of heavy drinking.

Then in 1999 I experienced Internet for the first time, and to my delight through AltaVista, I discovered a rosacea remedy based on vitamin k. This was apparently used by plastic surgeons to quicken the healing process of plastic surgery. I eagerly applied the créme as per the instructions and checked my face at least 20 times per day, every day to see if there was any sign of improvement. After about 8 weeks my redness had not subsided but to my delight, I did notice that some of the blood vessels had disappeared. However, my excitement quickly turned to misery when blisters started appearing on my cheeks which was a side effect of this créme on sensitive skin; so I had to stop this treatment.

I once again scoured Internet for other suitable remedies and tried most of them which cost a lot of time and money, but none of them worked. My disillusionment grew and my self confidence diminished as the depression caused by my rosacea condition began to take hold. I could no longer hold eye contact with people feeling inadequate, especially at social occasions - little did I know that I was developing symptoms of social phobia.

Ways of Treating The Emotional Impact

A few years ago through a skin problem forum eventually found a rosacea solution was recommended by one of the users. I purchased and applied this treatment expecting the same ineffectual results as the ones I had tried. After several weeks my disillusionment was confirmed as I could see no difference in the mirror,

My social phobia symptoms had now reached their peak, I was suffering from deep anxiety as well as frequent panic attacks. My doctor recommended that I seek psychological advice treatment and cognitive therapy at my local hospital, which I did. I was prescribed anti-depressive medications to alleviate the psychological symptoms of anxiety.

My cognitive therapist looked at me with incredulity as if she was disbelieving me as i described my skin problems and the emotional impact they had on my life. My cognitive therapist then used Anorexia as an analogy, at first I did not get her drift. But then, the light suddenly switched on and the reason for this unsual comparison became clear. My long term rosacea condition had caused such deep rooted emotional scars that it prevented me from seeing that my facial redness was actually no longer very prominent.

Within a short while after my first therapy session, I could finally see that she was right - my face was in reality no longer flushed, this Zenmed rosacea treatment had unbelievably worked. My self-confidence and self-esteem grew quickly as my social phobia symptoms quickly diminished.

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