Now you may be thinking, ?Yeah, yeah.. ?Love yourself?. Huh. That's what everyone says. But talk's cheap?all these gurus are probably happily settled with partners.? But stay with me on this, because as a former unhappy singleton turned happily-married person, I know that this works.
The trick is in how you learn to ?love yourself?. All too often, the self-help manuals make it seem like a mystical and far-fetched process. As an alternative just ask yourself this question,
?If someone else truly loved me, how would they treat me??
Then, give yourself a generous dose of that same treatment. For example, if you feel that they would, ?Cook me delicious dinners? do that for yourself. If they would, ?take care of me?, work out how that ?taking care? would work best for you and do that, whether it means an adventurous jaunt to Rome or just getting someone else to help you with chores.
Loving yourself may well also mean taking up an interest or activity that's always fascinated you. Do it now-there's no need to wait for your ?perfect partner?, because if you love an activity, you'll be fascinated, and fascinated people tend to be fascinating to others, too.
The benefit of doing all this ?self-love? also completely practical. It helps you to feel good, which will attract more people to you anyway. Additionally, when you do find yourself in that great relationship, you'll know that you deserve to be treated well, and revel in that treatment when you receive it from others, instead of unwittingly pushing it away.
2. Experience Your Perfect Partnership
Yes, I know. You might be reading his and thinking, ?Trust me, I dream about Mr/Ms Right everyday, and they haven't showed up yet!?
The problem is that when people dream in this way about a potential partner it tends to be with an inner sense of, ?This is what I'm hoping for but I'm pretty certain it won't really happen'It?s just a nice fantasy.?
What I'm suggesting is that you use the power of your imagination to experience with all your senses, exactly as if it's happening to you, what it's like to be with your perfect partner.
What's great about this is that what you're really going for here is the inner feeling of that partnership experience, which is guaranteed to be utterly different to those hopeful fantasies. So it's also something that you can do easily, even if you're one of those people who feels that they ?can't visualise.? The only rule is that you determine to experience what the sensation of great partnership is really like, with no ifs, buts or doubts about the possibility of it.
Once you get in touch with the feeling practising it a soften a you want will become a cherished activity. And as a mentally pre-rehearsed state can be 90% as effective as the real thing, you'll also be putting yourself in the very best state for attracting your real partner.
3. Show Love to Others
Too often, people tend to say, ?But I can't show any love'no-one loves me? Granted, you might want to reserve ?romantic? love for that special someone. But singleton or no, there's nothing stopping you or anyone else from cultivating a loving attitude towards others, and putting it into practice.
There are probably a many different ways to do this as there are people. But a technique that works for many is to carry out two simple steps with everyone you meet or have contact with in the course of a day:
i) Smile at them and assume that they're a great person. ii) Actively search for something within them that you really love. Eg. even if the stranger next to you seems not to have washed for longer than is good for them, they may have a really kind smile. Or maybe someone in your family normally drives you crazy?but care about your well-being too. iii) Acknowledge what it is that you've found in the person, even if just to yourself. If you can, find a way to connect with the other person too, even if only by a kind gesture or compliment.
At the very least, you'll make yourself and others feel wonderful. It'll also help you to see past appearances, which may be crucial if your perfect partner is in fact hiding within the kind of package you've ignored up to now. Many people now happily settled with significant others admit that ?He/she wasn't my usual ?type? at all?.
What is certain is that if you carry out these simple steps on a regular basis, you'll begin to feel so contented that finding the perfect person matters a lot less. And the irresistible confidence and happiness of that state is very likely to be just the thing to bring Mr/Ms right into your life.
Nowadays most of the "good old ticks" don't work and the majority will get your pages banned. This is great news for you. Over the next few minutes I'll show you how to make Google absolutely LOVE your web pages and help you jump to the top!
This is all you need to know... Search engines today place 90% or more of their ranking priorities on content and links. Keywords are still important, but more so in the text of your pages than in any sort of META tags.
Simple, right? It really is. The first step is to find the best keywords and place them just right in your web page text. Next you need to get great inbound links. And finally, you need to monitor your progress closely (and that of your competition.)
Part 1: How to Find the Best Keywords
Google gets more searches than any other search engine so let's peek into their database. Check out https://adwords.google.com/select/KeywordToolExternal and type in any keyword or phrase you can think of that you believe your target audience is looking for. Not only will it give you tons of data on that and related keywords, it will also provide "Additional Keywords to Consider", which is a section at the bottom of the page.
BIG TIP; Try to use specific keyword phrases whenever possible. Let's say you have a web-page dealing with floral delivery. Instead of just the word "flowers", which has 233,000,000 competing pages on Google, try "send flowers", which has 1/10th the number of competing pages. Better still, think like people speak (I.E./ I'm sending flowers to my mom.) As you would soon see, many more people are searching for "sending flowers" than "send flowers" and here's the best part; "sending flowers" has less than 1% of the competing web pages as the search term we started with, "flowers". Now that's impressive! You have an advantage over about 99.5% of your competitors with just that single tip.
Now take the top three or four keywords (and keyword phases) and list them in order for best to second best and so on.
Part 2: How to Develop the Best Possible Content
Content is king! If you take nothing else away from this article, make sure you take this. Producing search engine friendly, optimized real-person content is key to your success. Today's search engines can read a page just like a human would. And thanks to natural text algorithms, the can easily tell if you are writing your pages for real people or just trying to get better ranking. With this tip, you can do both!
First, call a good friend and describe exactly what you want to tell your web visitors. Now write it down, word for word, as close as you can remember it. If you can record it, that's even better.
Now go back through your text and fit your top keyword as close to the beginning of the first sentence as possible. Now place your number two keyword someplace else toward the beginning of your first paragraph. If possible, try to get your third keyword into the end of your first paragraph or the beginning of the second paragraph.
Repeat this concept using only one of your keywords for each of the next three paragraphs. Try to make it fit naturally toward the beginning sentence or two of each paragraph.
Now do the reverse for the very last paragraph. Place your lowest priority keyword near the beginning of the paragraph and then end the paragraph with the most important. This shows consistency.
Finally, try not to repeat any keyword more than three or four times per page. Make it flow naturally.
Part 3: How to Get Great Links and Monitor Your Site
Having quality inbound links can account for more than 75% of you search engine optimization success. Getting these links is the crucial step that will get you over the top. Next you need to monitor your progress and your site's status (how search engine really see it). This will not only tell you not just where you are, but with practice, where you are likely to soon be. In the old days, we used to do all link work and monitoring by hand - and it took a long time (I averaged about 16 hours per week - per site!) My advice to you is to find a good SEO tool and let it do the work for you. If you get the right product, it's the best money you'll ever spend.
I used WebPosition Pro for a couple years but switched to SEO Elite because it has automated linking, which I find to be the most time-consuming aspect of SEO. Both are excellent products for tracking and reporting however.
#1 Pick: SEO Elite http://www.SeoEliteWeb.com Cost = $167 (lifetime free upgrades and no annual fees) My Results: 121 top 5 placements on Google in three weeks - Typically 1's and 2's. Top Features: Finds best link partners; Automates link process; Provides great Site Monitoring Comments: I bought SEO Elite in 2005 and have used every upgrade - never spending another dime. I retired my other three programs after using this for just three months.
#2 Pick: WebPosition http://www.webposition.com Cost = $389 WebPosition Pro or $149 Standard (plus $99 per year subscription fees for either) My Results: 44 top 5 rankings in Google in eight weeks - Mostly 3's and 4's. Top Features: Site Monitoring; Great reporting; Site Critic Comments: I stopped using WebPosition because there were no automated linking capabilities. I did however really like the reporting.
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