The feeling of falling in love is of the most exciting, thrilling and life changing events. Falling in love can change your entire outlook on life. Falling in love can occupy your mind and seem to take away all of life's problems. However, falling in love can bring about a serious problem of endless heartaches if a person falls in love too fast. Let us look at what brings about the feeling of needing to fall in love, what defines true love and the string of broken hearts that can occur if one falls in love too quickly.
With these key elements examined, a person may realize that they are too rapidly generating the feeling of falling in love, and in doing so, producing unfortunate consequences. A life filled with a great amount of broken hearts predictably points to a great amount of relationships in which the person fell in love too quickly. Once acknowledged as a source of heartaches, one can achieve a more realistic approach to falling in love and finding someone special.
The majority of adult single people undoubtedly desire the ultimate feeling of being in love with another person. Instilled in people's minds is that love will bring happiness, safely and security. Most people are witness to a loving relationship from a very young age, as we witness the love of our parents. As adults, the media overwhelms us with love stories. Countless advertising bombards us to find love. When one is single, it may seem that everywhere they look; there are couples holding hands, talking and laughing together. This can produce an overpowering desire for a person to find love.
Real and genuine love means connecting in ways that are almost indescribable. Present are the key elements that each desire in a relationship. There is a strong emotional attachment, as well as an intense physical attraction. The two people in the relationship spent time thoroughly getting to know the each other. These people will understand each other quirks and habits. They will learn each other's history and the life that they lived up until they met. After sometime, a feeling of comfort and admiration occurs. As clich? as it sounds, if love is going to happen, both will have a feeling of "fitting together" and "finding their better half". If both people involved in the relationship are content and their desires fulfilled, as time moves on, an increasing feeling of devotion and affection will change into a deep and strong feeling of love.
Without these fundamentals in place, having the feelings of falling in love exceedingly prematurely can result in needless heartbreaking outcomes. It is true that being single can sometimes produce intense feelings of loneliness. These feelings of solitude and wanting acceptance into a loving relationship can make one push for a relationship that is not correct for them. Beginning to spend time with another, sometimes a person will mistake the feeling of acceptance for the feeling of love. Love is not something easily obtained. For long periods, love can escape us, as we search for that someone special that we wish for in our lives.
Telling yourself that you are in love, does not create love. If not all of the essentials of genuine love are in place, convincing yourself that you are in love does not magically produce those necessary elements. If in almost every relationship you enter, you fall in love within a couple weeks or even days, you must ask yourself; are you really in love?
Undoubtedly, falling in love produces a magnificent euphoric high. The emotion of finding one's "soul mate" fulfills a deep desire to bond with someone. True love is such a rare find. In terms of realistic expectations, one simply cannot sincerely be in love with every person they meet or date. Allowing yourself to feel you are in love with almost everyone you connect with, in a small measure of time, only will lead to ultimate disappointment. Sincerely asking yourself the question, "Was it really true love?" may give you the knowledge that perhaps you did not actually experience love. This is not to imply you did not admire someone, like spending time with him or her or had lust for him or her. However, did real love exist? Comprehending that it did not, may lessen the sense of feeling betrayed and the feeling of being wounded from relationships gone astray.
To free yourself from being the victim of lost "love", give yourself the time to unequivocally get to know and appreciate someone, allowing love to happen in it's own due course. Do not impulsively rush into a state of feeling in love. Seriously consider all of the factors that ensure a real and lasting love. Give this feeling time to develop. Only then, can you truly know that you are in love.
Our current world is increasingly isolating. Fewer and fewer of us know our neighbors. More and more of us work behind computer screens - and even play behind them.
How do we find love?
The more we become, as individuals, increasingly interested in 'things holistic', the less likely we are to meet significant friends and our soul mate through traditional avenues such as bars, sporting events and loud, noisy socials.
So how do we find love?
If we're lucky, our perfect match is a good friend of someone we already know. And that someone we already know is keenly attuned to their intuition, such that they perceive a natural connection between us and their good friend. And they take action on their intuitive sense - and set up a meeting between us. And we both trust ourselves and have courage - and we agree to meet.
How often does this happen in our current society? So many of us have - just like concrete over grass - paved over our intuition and our sensitivity to our subtle energy 'signals'. We live in a 'gross energy' world, relying on things that have already happened to be our 'truth'.
So how do we find love?
We bite into the new ways of this world. We allow someone who has dedicated themselves to linking us with other mature, sensitive, 'green singles' - people who are interested in the values and ideals that we hold dear.
Dating Online - Wow How Times Have Changed!
Online dating sprung into being in the late 1990's. With the advent of the worldwide web and its brilliance in enabling us to connect with like-minded souls around the entire globe, it was an obvious tool - ripe and ready for use in finding love.
Web dating allows incredible privacy - superb for people who are typically shy when it comes to finding love. Without disclosing anything about yourself that you choose to reveal only once you've gotten to know someone sufficiently well for your liking, you are completely in charge of the pace by which you meet singles. You can share things that are special and private to you through communicating on the site in ways that may not come up in face-to-face conversations. Or you can slow things down to your very own pace, taking time as you send winks, smiles and brief emails to your prospective partner via the site's instant messaging, chat rooms and forums.
It's all up to you. You choose. You're in charge.
What a relief!
You can even explore a more empowered sense of yourself through choosing a User Name other than your first name - the one given to you at birth. If you've felt yourself glowing like sunshine, you can call yourself 'Sunshine'. If you love hiking in forests, you can call yourself 'Forest Hiker'. If you're a vegan interested in astrology, you can call yourself 'Vegan Astrologer'. It's all up to you. You decide how you want to present yourself to the world - and to your prospective new friends and perfect match. You can share things that are dear to your heart through communication on the site in ways that may not come up in face-to-face conversations. You can go as deep as you like in your presentation of yourself - or skim the surface for awhile.
It's all up to you. You choose. You're in charge.
What a relief!
Green Singles - a New Wave of Love
With the proliferation of web sites offering online dating as a way to meet your soul mate, a gap soon became evident.
Many people searching for love via the web are actually seeking just sex. Online dating, for many, has become a worldwide access to personals focused on the bare minimum of what intimate encounter with another human being can offer - sex.
There is so much more of value and meaning in a relationship than this.
Sex is a crucial aspect of how we connect deeply with ourselves and with our partner. Yet a relationship which is based solely on sex becomes swiftly dissatisfying to many people.
Here's where 'green singles' come in. A small handful of web dating sites have been designed specifically for Singles interested in ecology, spirituality, soulful relationships, nutrition, holistic health, global peace, awakening human consciousness and more.
This small handful is unique in that they're all about assisting you to swiftly find your perfect match - and great new friends - near your current home and around the world.
It's about you meeting the right people for you - people who enrich your life, make you laugh and relax, connect you to a deeper sense of who you are and to the tremendous meaning and value of your life.
Law of Attraction - Magnetize Your Perfect Match!
'Green Singles' sites are more apt to teach - and model - the Law of Attraction.
The Law of Attraction is so incredibly powerful.
It's not just about 'thinking about' who you want to meet as your perfect match. It's about becoming the parallel energy of that person. Here's the key: When you become the energetic vibration of what you want, it comes directly to you.
We're talking energy - subtle energy - vibration. Vibration is what the Law of Attraction is based on. You magnetically attract to you the things, people, events and opportunities that match your vibration.
This is the 'science' of the Law of Attraction.
I once had the pleasure of hearing Len George, a son of the famous Chief Dan George, speak. He said, "When I became the man I wanted to marry ? I met my wife." That's it, in a nutshell. That's the Law of Attraction in action. When you are able to clarify who you want to be in your relationship; how you want to feel; what kind of outlook you want to have on yourself, life and the world around you through being in that relationship - then you begin to move yourself into the energy field of being that relationship.
You become it, energetically. As you energetically become it, you attract it effortlessly to you.
This is the essence of more holistic approaches to web dating - the opportunity for you to easily, effortlessly meet 'law of attraction singles' - other people like you who are interested in attracting the best, most meaningful, most respectful and empowering heart-centred relationship possible.
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