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[L597]Love And The Marriage

by Arvind Kumar, Arv

It is often being said that love ends with a marriage. But is it a reality that love ends in a marriage. That not true. Rather we should come out with a statement that love progresses with the passage of time and people are more into a state of bliss. We all know that love marriages are more in these days and people are more tending towards love marriage as the falling in love is more common these days.

“Its love that makes the world go around!” and it is truth also. Love is the pious bond happens between the lovers and they are sharing it more for with the person with whom there compatibility matches. There has been a tendency amongst people in love to take each other for granted. However, there is nothing wrong in taking the person you love for granted as long as you understand that what is he loves and what is going to hurt him.

I know as a woman you must be relenting under lot of pressure that she is the one who has to face all the brunt in a relationship. So, at-least if she is doing a love marriage she should not face any kind of pressure and rather enjoy her life freely and trust me there is no harm if you are seeking this from a love marriage. But then you have to remember that in a relationship some new responsibilities knock at your door. If you are intelligent enough you would know that you should not succumb to pressures and rather take it as the opportunities to make your house a home rather then shooing it away with a comments that why I have to face it again and again. Onus is on you to take it or ignore it.

Remember this that woman has a major role in the home as a home maker to see that her love marriage should not be put to risk just because a thing has happened. It is a tender relationship and responsibility is on both of you. A little bit of understanding and communication will going to do wonder for the relationship to work like magic and will fill it will gusto of enthusiasm. Love marriage or no love marriage, a marriage is a holy bond and try to enter into the holy alliance of marriage with a clear head that you will going to put your hundred percent into it to make it go. Love marriages are ending more in divorce these days as partner felt it humiliating and put there ego first in case a misunderstanding crops up in the marriage.

A little bit of maturity and understanding can play a vital role in saving a marriage from derailment and that's where the woman's impression hit the mind as she is the one who has all the power as to take things positively in her stride. Often she has to go through tribulation as in love marriage it is her who takes more challenge by going against the wishes of her parents. Therefore, love marriage may be risky for a woman but she should not under any circumstances lose her dignity as once her dignity is lost she would really find it hard to gain the lost ground.

You can find proof of this by looking into the traditions of other cultures. In the western tradition we love and decide to marry. In the eastern tradition they marry and decide to love.
Oh, but you say, "we have fallen in love and decided to marry". It is a common default in the way we understand love. It implies that we really have no control and besieged by the compounding physical effects and modern confusion. We have decided to legally join ourselves together and hope that nothing changes.
Something changes. In this country more then fifty percent of the time something changes. Because we made the second decision, to marry, assuming that a mystery made the first decision, to love, for us. Now, we have a mess, often an extended, expensive mess that can be bitter and unhappy and affect the lives of children for generations.
Love and marriage are both decisions. It does not make much difference in which order the decisions to love and marry are made. It depends more on where your traditions come from, eastern or western. But, you can not successfully build a healthy relationship unless you consciously make both these decisions.
The only way to make good decisions is to have a good understanding of the nature of the issue. Marriage is pretty easy. It is a contract. Love is much more difficult. It is an abstraction.
When you promise to marry, you step up to the judge or preacher and pay a few dollars for a license. When you promise to love, you step up to yourself and pay whatever it costs for a heart.
There are a number of other things a novice at love should know about how love works. They can be stated as a set of rules or helpful guidelines for those who dare to accept the challenge of learning about love. Behind each rule exists several thousand years of human experience with love captured in music, art, literature and sometimes modeled in noble men and women. Because love is the most profound and desirable of human experiences it would serve each of us to search out the rules and then study the experience and wisdom behind them. It is a fundamental of love that we can only be better for having dared to explore and understand the power of love.

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