Due to man's never-ending quest to understand the Life Matters that are only better understood from a spiritual standpoint, "Does Marriage Work?" has become one of the most pondered question in life. Despite the increasing number of divorces in our societies, I say yes, Marriage Works! What do you say?
Regardless of the number of years that you have been married, you will agree with me that marriage is the most delicate undertaking in this world, and for it to thrive and survive, it requires consistent nourishment, unabashed attention, constant compromise and the daily renewal of our marital vows. But with the world experiencing the HIGHEST level of stress, how do we make our marriage thrive and survive when statistics indicates that one in every two marriage NOW ends up in divorce?
No doubt a tough question when we consider the never-ending challenges that we face in our marriage; but it is a 'yes' nevertheless, Marriage Works ' when viewed from a spiritual standpoint only. Look at it this way: Nothing created by God has ever been recalled because everything God created, including you and me, are 'good', and meant to work. And he will not recall marriage even though some people have tried expanding it to include what Apostle Paul called "unnatural relations". In fact, if God were to recall any of His creation, it would be you and me for it does not seem that plants and animals 'grieve' His heart like we do.
I strongly believe that the three most challenging Life Matters are Marriage, Parenting and Spirituality; and they are all meant to work. And for you to be qualified to say otherwise, you must be ready to tell God that you have consistently followed ALL His 'not burdensome' advice about how to make your Marriage, Parenting and Spirituality work. Or don't you think it is only fair to have tried everything to the specification of the Creator before saying that His creation doesn't work?
This is why it is absolutely necessary to start seeing things from a spiritual perspective rather than from how the world sees it. In the words of Apostle Paul to the Corinthians, "Let us not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day; for our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So let us fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen; for what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal."
The question should not be whether marriage works, but rather what are we yet to do to make it work! As a Life Coach who has worked with many people in many countries to energize their marriage, I hereby affirm to you that Marriage Works. In fact, my marriage to Stephanie remains a testimony for those who saw us turn our it around for the better ' and we have never looked back ever since.
Does marriage work? Yes, it does.
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Or what would happen if another employee with martial problems came into your office every day for at least fifteen minutes to talk. It wouldn't be long before the other people in the department were complaining that the one who was confiding in you was receiving special treatment. Remember that by spending personal time with any employee, you are:
Taking other employee's valuable time away from what the company is paying them to do since they are gossiping about the non work related relationship that you've got with the troubled employee.
Tying up your valuable time and taking away from what the company is paying you to do
Increasing the chances that you will be charged with favouritism
The point is that a professional distance must be maintained by supervisors and that neither managers or supervisors can be effective councilors. Trying to do this will only harm employee relations and performance evaluations. An Employee Assistant Program allows the companies who use them to deal with personal problems indirectly. Using this method company time is not used to council these troubled employees and issues of favoritism are therefore not raised.
As well, an Employee Assistance Program ensures that the employee will get the qualified help that they need that will generally make a difference.
There are three areas that are considered a managerial role when it comes to these programs. Managerial people should,
Provide information about the program Encourage their use Refer the employees that need these programs
However, there are several barriers that the manager may face when attempting to refer employees. First, they may be reluctant to get involved. If a manager notices that any employee is becoming more and more withdrawn at work, he or she may hesitate to approach that employee. The manager might feel that it is inappropriate to discuss a personal problem with any employee.
As well, there are other instances where an employee's problem may not seem to be directly tied to their work performance. The manager may not want to interfere unless the issue is directly work related. However, if the problem is left alone, it's often the case that it will eventually affect work performance.
There is also a reluctance to insult people. We've been taught to remain politely distant, especially in the workplace. Approaching a employee that might have a personal problem may appear to be the ultimate insult to many managers or even fellow employees.
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