Be nice.

That might go without saying, but some people think nagging is the best way to get what they want. It is not. If you nag, complain or act unpleasant, you're just reminding them of the things they want to get away from. If you make things uncomfortable every time you see them, they will only want to see you less often.

The last thing you want to do is drive them farther away. Be as kind as you can whenever you are around them, unless the only way to do so is to be absolutely fake.

If you're wondering, can I get my ex back by pretending to be this way or that way? Then you have to wonder why you want to be back with him anyway. You might be better off finding someone who does not make you need to pretend.

If you can be pleasant, then whatever problems you had before the breakup probably do not seem nearly as important now. You might find yourself wondering why you weren't more pleasant when you were together.

You can't change the past, but do remember that later when you're back together. Point it out to them, and let them know that you did take them for granted. They probably took you for granted too, but don't expect them to admit it now.

Some other things you might be thinking of trying could either be dangerous or they could work in your favor.

Can I get my ex back if they have a boyfriend or girlfriend?

This is probably the hardest situation to overcome. Not only is it difficult to be alone with them if they have someone else, they've focused on the new relationship. You're part of the past, and not a priority. Being nice right now is crucial. You have to make them see how wonderful you are and how much they are missing.

Can I get my ex back by trickery?

No matter what kind of deception you're thinking of, even if it doesn't seem harmful-forget it now. Even the most innocent-seeming lie or exaggeration could backfire later. What's the point of figuring out how to get them back only to lose them a little while later because they find out about your dishonesty?

Can I get my ex back by making them jealous?

It is possible, but it could also backfire and make them think you've moved on. If you really feel the need to date, then do so if you need that to be happy.

But if you're considering going out with someone just to make your ex jealous, that's not really fair to your date, or you. Games like this usually don't work. Be honest with yourself and others, and you stand a better chance of getting back together with your ex.

These are just the beginning steps in winning your Ex back. They are the initial steps I followed when I lost the love of my life. And frankly these aren't my original ideas. I turned to T 'Dub' Jackson when I had no idea of how to get my true love back.

T 'Dub' authored a simple, down to earth step by step plan called "The Magic Of Making Up". And you know, it worked like magic for us. Now we are more in love than ever.