I'll be completely useless without her. She was everything to me. She was the best thing that ever happened to me. There's no one else as good as her. I'll never be happy without her.

These thoughts aren't helping you in the least right now and they really aren't true either. You can absolutely be a happy guy again without her, and if you don't understand this you're going to have a harder time whether or not you do succeed in getting your ex girlfriend back.

If you go on thinking that you can't possibly make it without your ex or that you don't want to be alone then you will continue to have problems in this relationship and in any relationship in the future. The truth is you must be OK with yourself first. Not only will you be a happier guy but you will be more attractive to your girlfriend and to women in general.

So if the reasons above are the only ones you have for wanting to get your ex girlfriend back you need to ask yourself whether you really do need her or you need to find yourself instead.

You don't want a relationship based on neediness, but rather on love. Although many romantic movie cliches portray romantic love as two people who confess how much they need each other, this is a co-dependent type of relationship instead of a healthy, whole relationship that will last and make you both happy.

So if you are feeling more needy than loving right now, that's OK. Take some time and work on yourself and allow real love for your ex girlfriend to unfold. You can choose to love instead of cling and this will boost your confidence enough to give your ex girlfriend the space she may need right now. And it will give you time to reflect and plan before you make your next move to get your ex girlfriend back.

When you choose to let go of the needy thoughts and feelings and focus instead on the things you love about your ex girlfriend and some of the positive reasons why you want to get back together you will be amazed at how much better you feel about yourself. And this is a much SMARTER way to go about getting your ex girlfriend back!