The truth is that your chosen message will be a major factor in whether your ex partner will call you back or not. You want them to return your phone call / text message / IM, so listen up because I'm going to give you the scoop on the magic words to say that will have them dialling you back very quickly.
But before we get to what you should say, let's first have a look at what you need to avoid.
There are two ways that everyone seems to do, but are best avoided if you want to repair your relationship. They are the message where you plead for your ex to call you back or tell them that they need to call back because of an emergency.
I'm sure you don't need me to tell you that both approaches can put you in a worse position than you started from and could potentially damage any further communication that you have with your ex, so even though you might be frustrated that they won't call you, these approaches will not work.
The best thing to do is combine both curiosity and self interest as combined they pack a powerful force.
The two combined create a powerful and compelling desire for them to wonder what you mean, and they will be thinking about it all day until they can't wait a moment longer, they need to find out what you are talking about.
Let's have a quick look at an example so I can show you what I mean.
In your best friendly tone say something like ... "Hi Barbara, it's David here, Just a quick call to let you know how much I appreciated what you did for me. Give me a call because I want to thank you in person."
Barbara is probably wondering right now what she did that you appreciated (curiosity), and will also feel good because it's such a positive message (self interest).
Of course, you will need to have worked out beforehand what that 'thing' was that you appreciated so much. It should be something believable and real although it doesn't need to be anything big, small things are fine as well.
If they do call, (and they probably won't be able to resist), then keep the conversation light and friendly. Keep the call short and make sure you remain happy and positive no matter how frustrated you really are.
I am going to let you in on this revolutionary beakthrough because this is one of the biggest questions from many thousands people from all over the world, that are trying to put their relationships back together.
So, what I'm going to do is explain to you the magic of making up and getting your ex to call you. But, first a warning. In the eBook the "Magic Of Making Up" their strategy is completely laid out and if you use this strategy alone, without an underlying plan you may destroy your relationship even more than if they never returned any of your calls.
Ok, before we get to the actual words, I want to go over what message is wrong and hardly ever will work and much worse, it will put you in a very bad 'psychological' position.
These fall into 2 categories. The pleading category- Which is when your message sounds like this. "John / Mary, please, please call me. This is the 10th time I've tried to call you. I really need to talk to you. Please call me back"
Did you get it? Now there is the EMERGENCY TYPE call which goes something like this. "John / Mary, this is an emergency. You need to call me as soon as you get this message."
Alright, did you see what was wrong with these 2 approaches? What you really need to use to gain a big advantage is to create, CURIOSITY and SELF-INTEREST. These are 2 of the most POWERFUL forces in the human mind.
Now here's the BIG SECRET! When you combine the 2 strategies, you have a recipe that will work just like MAGIC. So let's see just what you can say, that will work almost each and every time.
Now, in a friendly type of manner say this: "Hi John / Mary. This is Cindy / Bob. I just wanted to let you know I sure appreciate what you did for me. Call me because I would like to thank you in person."
OK, now you see how that uses both CURIOSITY and SELF INTEREST. Don't you agree that John / Mary won't be able to resist? He or she will think.. "What did I do?" "What does she/he appreciate?" And he/she will feel good because it is a very positive message.
Now... Before you make the call you should do the "Set Up".. And that is trying to figure out what he/she did that you appreciate. It can be any small thing...but it has to be very plausible.
This is IMPORTANT... You must have an underlying strategy OR, it simply won't work! Okay? What I am telling you is... what you do before, during and after you get them to return your call is MORE important, than getting them to return your call. Does that make sense to you. Great! Now go out and DO IT. You'll be glad you did!
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