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In today's fast changing world, where many unfeasible things happen, many people claim that they are falling in love with their friends or best friends.

Of course, there are those who would say that in friendship, there is also love. Hence, you simply cannot value the friendship that you have if not for love, right?

But the argument is based on the concept on the possibility of a man and a woman's friendship will just stay that way.

In order to understand this argument, one should understand first the true meaning of friendship. The reason why many people are confused with love and friendship is that they cannot distinguish the two conflicting situations.

Generally, in a solid friendship between a man and a woman, love cannot be denied. There are instances wherein both of them could feel strongly for each other, feel jealous if their friend goes out on a date, or even feel emotionally attached to the person. But as long as their relationship remains outside the boundaries of sexual intimacy, then, their relationship remains as friends.

The problem with most people is that they are so confused in giving love and sex a distinction. The society understands that if a man and a woman are friends, and they were seen holding each other's hands in public or was known to express such intense affection for each other, they are already considered as lovers.

What these people do not know is that pure love and affection can thrive in friendship. It is the bond that keeps them together. What they do not know is that as long as a man and a woman is at ease with each other, enjoy each other's company, and a special link keeps them together, it is rightful to say that they have a strong friendship based on love.

However, it does not necessarily mean that a man and a woman who have relatively solid friendship would not lead to being lovers. There are many instances wherein a girl and a boy who once were the best of friends suddenly became lovers.

This idea is not so surprising because there are some surveys that could attest that it is really impossible to have friends falling in love with each other. Surveys show that in 100 respondents that were interviewed if they will ever fall in love with their friends, almost 75% answered yes.

The theory here is that for two people who have heterosexual friendship, it is really possible to fall in love because of the strong affection that they have for each other. There are instances wherein a girl, who knows her male friend is so understanding, caring, and seems to possess every trait that a girl could ask for, would suddenly feel that he is the moan he wants to marry someday.

There are also instances wherein the other party or both parties will eventually develop sexual desire for each other. However, this is based on different factors. These are:

1. The situation or the condition, in which the closeness has been generated

This means that if the friendship of a man and a woman was based on certain situations that where not ordinarily constitute friendship, then, there are higher probabilities that they develop into lovers.

2. The purpose of the two persons involve with regards to their friendship

There are instances wherein some men are too shy to ask a girl out, or there are girls, who are so in love with a guy and yet she feels that the guy will not give her the attention that she needs. And so, they would choose friendship as a way to their love one's heart.

The sense of being close to their love interest is enough to compensate the feeling that they have. Some surveys show that 54% of women and 78% of men use friendship as a way to get close to the person that they love.

Given all that, it is really not impossible to see friends blossoming into a more wonderful relationship where love and affection was even made greater by creating a deeper kind of affection.

The bottom line is that whether it would be better for a man and a woman to stay friends or lovers, the choice is definitely up to them. The important thing is that whether they are friends or lovers, they should always stay attached with each other and support each other whatever happens.


Moving from friends to lovers with a man is not always easy. It can actually be very frustrating for some. It is not always easy to make this transition happen in most instances. In fact, it can make or break a relationship if a woman is not careful and does not do all the right things to make sure that it is moving in the right direction.

There are a few things that a woman should and should not do when she is trying to turn her friendship into much more with a man. She needs to think about this carefully and move at a comfortable speed for both people involved. I would say that this is not only scary for the man but also scary for the woman because she is not sure how he will react to her feelings of love.

The one thing that a woman does not want to do is use this as a time for a one-night stand. The last thing that a woman should do is breaking her friends heart. You have to be very careful so that you are not using this person to fulfill some sort of pleasure. You have to take their feelings into consideration so that you are keeping the friendship level there and just helping it to move along in the right direction a little better.

A woman should talk to the man first and see if she can get a feel for what they are thinking. Try to get inside their head and see if there is any way that the feelings are mutual. See if you can get a sense that he maybe having the same type of feelings for you and that this may be the right step to take. However, you may not want to be too pushy or seem too interested in this subject. You might just end up scaring him away from this entire subject.

I would recommend that you get closer to the man if you can. You want to make sure that you are getting to know him even more. You may think that you know just about everything now, but there is always so much more behind a man that you should know before you even think about dating him. Make sure that this is something that you really want to try because usually if things do no work out between a man and a woman it is hard for them to go back to being friends like they were before. You do not want to risk losing a great friendship over this.

Make sure that you are ready and when you are there has to be a time to sit down together and communicate feelings. You should never keep your feelings inside. You need to express them and get them out in the open no matter if he feels the same way or not. You should think about what you have to do in order to keep this thing under control. You may be excited but you have to know when you should and when you should not say anything. Make sure that the time is perfect and move on from there. This is he best way to get things moving along in the right direction just as you were hoping for.

Do not expect too much. You should not think that everything is going to go smoothly and that you are both going to be in this great relationship together. You need to be realistic. Think about positive things and hopefully they will go that way but always prepare you for the worst possible scene. You should be aware that it might not go as you have planned, but at least your feelings are out in the open.

Let the man know that if he feels the same way great, but if not, you still want to have them in your life. It is so important that you are not pushing them out of your life if things do go as you expect. Be patient and considerate of their feelings and you may be surprised at the happy ending that you get. It may be worth the time and all the anxiety that led up to this one perfect moment between you both.
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