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[A537]And Let Them Eat Cake
by Margene, Mar

Sharing the first piece of wedding cake is a wedding tradition beginning in early Roman times. The Romans believed that by eating the wedding cake together, a special bond was created between the couple. The wedding cake, as we know it today, was originally made of many little wheat cakes. These were broken over the head of the new bride. This tradition was meant to bestow fertility and good luck to the new bride for her married life. The wheat used to bake the cake was symbolic of fertility and a "fruitful union", while the cake's sweetness was thought to bring sweetness to all areas of the couple's new life. The guests would eagerly scramble for crumbs as good luck charms. During the Middle Ages, it became traditional for the couple to kiss over a small cluster of cakes. Later, a clever baker decided to cover the cluster of cakes in frosting. Thus, the modern tiered cake was born.

Your choice in wedding cake design makes a statement about your personality and sense of style. It should reflect you and your good taste. You may choose a sophisticated elegant look. Or, show your playfullness and sense of humor with a whimsical style. It should also fit well with the season, location, the decorating and ambience which you have created for your reception. The top tier of the wedding cake was traditionally kept and used at the christening of the couple's first child. But today, this tradition has been modified slightly, and the top tier is saved to be eaten at the couple's first anniversary.

Wedding cakes take center stage in the traditional cake cutting ceremony, symbolically the first task that the bride and groom perform jointly as husband and wife. Cutting the cake and sharing the first bite with each other, symbolizes that the wedding couple promises to share a whole new life together. Today's couples cut a slice before anyone else and feed it to each other, symbolizing the support and respect they'll provide through their many years together.

The cutting of the cake is a tradition that occurs during the reception. The groom places his right hand over the bride's right hand, and together they cut into the cake and the couple proceed to feed one another from the first slice. Please don't smash the cake into each other's face. Instead, the groom should feed the bride her first bite and the bride should feed him. This provides another lovely piece of symbolism, the mutual commitment of bride and groom to provide for one another.

I have a true story to share with you.  An extravagant wedding reception was held at a reception center in our area. The bride planned the day carefully and with much thought to detail. She warned her husband-to-be in advance that when it came time to cut and eat the cake he was not to smash it in her face. He agreed he would not. The time came to cut the cake and feed each other, and as you can guess, the groom smashed the cake in her face. After a few moments, she excused herself and went to the bride's dressing room. Quite a bit of time passed by and concern set in with the groom. He received word that she left the reception center. Within days the marriage was annulled with this simple statement from the bride: "If he cannot respect my wishes on my wedding day, how can I possibly expect him to respect me in our marriage".
 


It's a fact, however odd it seems, that some brides don't like cake -- and don't want one at their wedding reception. Others like cake just fine, but prefer to serve something a little more distinctive for dessert. On the whole, brides pass up cake at their wedding because they:
  •  don't like it
  •  want something nontraditional and edgy and are bored by "the norm"
  •  want something that more personally represents them or their geographical area
  •  attended too many catered weddings where no one touches the cake because they'd already had a full meal plus dessert
  •  have a venue that tacks on high cake serving fees

I must admit I'm tempted to stare when someone tells me "they just don't like cake." Because, as everyone knows, wedding cake is no longer just cake. Wedding cake has morphed into something that, in the right hands, borders on a religious experience.

Today's chefs know that a good cake -- one light years away from the "packing material" type cake of old -- is full of delicious, creamy fat. And not that horrifying vegetable shortening, either. The modern wedding cake is loaded with real butter, moist base material (poppy seed cake, pound cake, carrot cake, banana, chocolate, red velvet and more) and tempting fillings (amaretto, chocolate mousse, tiramisu, raspberry, white chocolate).

The exterior, too, has gotten sleeker and lovelier in response to today's streamlined bridal fashions. All the former hallmarks of questionable taste -- fountains, pillars, mugging couples on a cake topper -- are gone. So how can any bride resist?

Many don't, but a few persevere in wanting something else. Fortunately, weddings these days are about personal choice and individuality -- they don't have to have one. And the alternatives to cake are many.

The secret to a satisfying wedding cake alternative is simple -- presentation. Whatever you're serving, stack it in tiers. Follow this simple tip and you can turn almost anything into food fit for the most special occasion.

Tiered puddings and mousses

Pre-chill wine or champagne glasses, and fill with:
  •  Chocolate, chocolate orange, lemon mousse
  •  Rice, coconut rice or wild rice pudding
  •  Raspberry, hazelnut or regular tiramisu
  •  White chocolate, key lime, blackberry or biscotti parfaits
  •  Heavy whipped cream, topped with sweet in-season berries

If your budget's ample, you can also stack up individual-sized
  •  Caramel, anise, pumpkin flan
  •  Crème brulee -- regular, eggnog, blueberry, espresso, coconut

Tiered Pastries

Cream puffs are the staple -- and for good reason. Remember that cream puffs don't have to be round; you can use cookie cutters to fashion them into lots of creative shapes. You can also go beyond them and stack up:
  •  Gooey cinnamon rolls
  •  Funnel cakes
  •  Baklava
  •  Soufflés served in individual custard cups
  •  Cream horns, éclairs, St. Joseph's pastries, sfogliatelle, cannoli, napoleons, baba rum

Straight from the Shelf

You won't be the first bride to try this. Stack those tiers high and proud or create an entire freestanding "cake" with:
  •  Sno Balls, Suzy Qs, HoHos, Ding Dongs, Twinkies
  •  Krispy Kreme donuts, Moon Pies

Other Options
  •  Chocolate-dipped fruit
  •  Chocolate truffles
  •  A chocolate fountain
  •  Sugar cookies or brownies with your initials in cellophane wrappers
  •  Fancy pies: key lime, lemon, chocolate pecan, coconut custard, cranberry apple, macadamia nut, peanut butter and white chocolate cream.

Whatever you choose, try to retain the cake-cutting part of your ceremony. The cutting of the cake is an ancient ritual and a powerful symbol of unity between the couple and their guests. It doesn't matter if you're really digging into a lemon meringue pie -- your guests will still want to ooh and ahh as you cut it together and feed each other.
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