In this article, let us address one question regarding emotional state. It is very important that you managed your emotional state well just after your break up so that you will be able to make a better decision.
Question:
Hi, my girlfriend just broke up with me a few days ago and I am really confused about it. I have been treating her very well and I just don't understand why she chose to left me.
I tried calling her many times but she refuses to answer my calls. I have been drinking recently hoping to drown my sorrows but it just seems to get worse. What should I do now? How to get my lover back?
Answer:
From your question, I can see that you are almost out of control of your emotion. First, you must know that it is definitely not a good idea to call your girlfriend so many times in one day, especially when both of you just broke up.
The fact that she did not want to answer your call shows that she is trying to avoid you. Therefore, by persisting to call her, you are only driving her away. I suggest you send her a note instead and tell her that both of you should not meet for a period of time, say one month in order to think through things. This will allow both of you to cool down.
I can see that you are almost out of control of your emotion and is resorting to alcohol. Try to stop doing that. Instead, the number one thing that you should work towards now is to improve your emotional state so that when you meet her the next time, you will give her a more positive impression.
If you feel really bad, try getting some physical exercise. You may not believe it, but don't be surprise that you will instantly feel a lot better after just 20 minutes of good exercise.
Just make sure that you hydrate yourself properly and do not injure yourself. Keep yourself positive and you will be able to plan your next move in one month's time.
If that is the case, do not worry too much about it now. What you can do is to immediately stop doing those things. There are also certain remedy actions you can take to improve the situation. In this article, we will explore what you must not do to get your girl back.
So, how to get my ex girlfriend back without doing the wrong things? There are many things that you should avoid doing. We will just look at three of them here.
1)Don't argue about the breakup
A lot of times, people will try to argue or beg with their girlfriend about the break up. It seems the logical thing to do anyway, isn't it? Unfortunately, the most logical thing is usually not the most correct thing to do.
In this situation, being logical and arguing with your girlfriend is going to make the situation worse. This will only drive your girlfriend further away and make it more difficult to get your ex girlfriend back. What is most unfortunate is that we all know that love is one of the most important aspects of our life. Yet, we are not taught about this subject in schools.
2)Don't spy on her
You may be tempted to spy on her. You may want to find out the real reason for the break up. So you secretly stalk her. Don't ever do that. If you are caught in the act, it is really hard to explain yourself and that can jeopardize your chance of getting your ex girlfriend back. If fact your girlfriend may even want to cut off all contacts from you in the future. Don't take that kind of risk.
3)Don't vent your anger on other people
You may feel sad or even angry about the break up. However, never vent your anger on others, especially your girlfriend. Don't do that to your friends too. News can spreads very fast, especially with people who like to gossip. Who knows what you have done may reach the ears of your ex girlfriend? No matter how angry you are, learn to control your own emotion. You still want to get your girl back.
By not doing the three things above, you will not spoil your chances of getting back your ex girlfriend.
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