Love brings behavioral changes in human beings. If we observe a person who is in deep love, we would definitely find the basic changes in him/her at the first glance. However there is no certain set of rules that can be applicable to fathom out whether a man has fallen in love with another woman or vice versa. During our childhood days, we get contented with the sense of material love but with the passage of time, it is the fragrance of romantic love that allures us the most.
It is utterly important that you know the mindset of the person with whom you want to make love. Otherwise all of your emotions for your desired man would be lost in the long run. So to understand whether he loves you or not, you need to interact with him, spend long hours and also make him realize that you have a soft feeling for him. Talking to him intimately and showing interest in his personal preferences and tastes will help you come closer to your man. When you are judging your partner's feeling try not to reveal your intention to him.
The first thing that you must consider is his verbal comments. This may be of various types like ?I love you?, ?I like you?, or any other comments that sounds good and expresses his feelings for you. Try to understand his voice along with his approach of saying ? measure whether it is passionate, direct from heart or it is any artificial gesture. Though it is really difficult to make out anyone's intention right from his speech, still you should carry on speaking with him in the hope of unearthing the real truth. If he continue speaking in the same way and show his interest to you, be sure that he has some soft corner for you too.
There are many people who lack expressing their feelings through words; instead they express through actions. Suppose you meet a boy who could not express his feelings to you in words but gifted you something very romantic, you must praise his action and speak about that gift while interacting with him afterwards to carry the relationship further. If he has feelings for you, he would definitely gift you on many occasions in future too.
A man truly loves you if he makes you feel special by offering you flowers or any special item whenever you meet him. He would ring you not only at casual hours but also in odd hours?even at the dead of night. It is because he wants to feel your presence and would like to spend some moments with you. He would even sacrifice his other friends for you, because he values you more than anyone else. He would always pay heed to your words - what you say and what you feel. The sound of your television set may be at the peak but he would find way to listen your words.
If you find that he shows interest in spending long times with you and talks to you more like a friend, you can obviously go further with him. If he is in love with you he would definitely feel for you and would arrange to spend special times with you. If you feel sick promptly tell him and observe how he reacts. He would definitely nurse you with great love and care, and would do exactly what is required at that moment. If he behaves otherwise?keep in mind that he does not love you at all.
You can also get to know his intention from behavior of his friends and close relatives with you. If they respect you and hold you in high regard, you can be sure that he has spoken to them about his feelings for you. Try finding out how he spends his leisure time. If you realize that he spends thinking of you for hours together'do not go for other person; keep settled with this man. He is the best man, who can give you pleasure and satisfaction in life more than anyone else in the world. At the time of taking any decision if he asks you for your opinions and follows that, it is a sign the he needs you at important times also. Difference of opinion occurs mostly at the time of watching television. In every crisis and hours of confusion he will respect you ideas and likings if he is in love with you.
Apart from all these characteristics, he would be passionate for you, would show interest to hug or kiss you, touch you and would like to have a very intimate and personal relationship. So, if you find any of the above ideas similar with your present boyfriend, you can rest assured that he truly loves you.
What makes this fact particularly dangerous is that we have all come to take stress for granted, and in so doing, we have gradually adjusted to the physical and mental toll stress can take on our bodies and minds.
If you have a job, a relationship or a life that is particularly stressful, you may find yourself wondering if the stress you endure is hurting you.
Will you know when the damage is irreparable before it is too late? Is the stress as bad as you think it is, or are you overreacting?
These are good questions to ask. Answer ?yes? or ?no? to all of the following questions and keep track of your answers. Then total your scores in each section, as instructed, to see how you did!
Routines and Habits 1.My sleeping patterns have changed (I sleep a lot less, a lot more or at different times of day) 2.My eating habits have changed (I eat a lot more, a lot less or under different circumstances, I have problems with digestion, pain in my stomach, etc.) 3.My weight, exercise or recreational activities have changed (I exercise less, I am obsessive about exercise, I have gained or lost a lot of weight, etc) 4.My social life has changed a lot (I go out less/more, talk on the phone less, don't feel like seeing anyone)
Thoughts and Feelings 1.I am tired all the time, I have no energy 2.I am worried a lot 3.I have knots in my stomach a lot 4.I feel anxious even when nothing is happening 5.I feel depressed or ?blue? a lot of the time 6.I feel overwhelmed much of the time 7.I cry too easily 8.I don't laugh often anymore 9.I don't care much about my appearance or what people think anymore ? I'm just tired of trying to please people 10.I often feel like my brain is racing in 20 different directions at once
Relationship Problems 1.I have problems with my boss or co-workers at work 2.I have problems with my girlfriend, boyfriend, spouse, etc. 3.I have problems with my children 4.I have problems with in-laws 5.I have problems with others (friends, neighbors, club members, associates) 6.I often find myself in arguments with others, or feeling angry or hurt by the behavior of others 7.I feel like I never have time for myself 8.It is hard for me to focus or concentrate 9.I miss a lot of appointments, or I'm late a lot because I have too much to do 10.I find it hard to say ?no? when someone asks me to do something, even if I don't have the time to do what they are asking
Changes or Life Events 1.I was recently separated or divorced 2.My child is having problems in school or in life in general 3.I lost my job 4.I have recently been ill or hospitalized 5.A family member has recently been ill or hospitalized 6.There has been a death in my family or in my circle of friends 7.I am having financial difficulty 8.I am having problems with sexual performance or in my sex life in general 9.I or someone in my family have recently had legal problems or been in jail 10. I recently moved or relocated or started in a new school or a new job 11. I recently had a new addition to my family (child, relative moving in, new dog) 12. There is a lot of disruption where I live (new neighbors, increased noise level, crime, remodeling of home 13. Our family or circle of friends does not seem to get together as often anymore 14. I just got engaged, married or entered into a new intimate relationship 15. I just got a promotion, raise or a lot more responsibility at work 16. I just took on a lot of new responsibility at school, in the community or with family (caring for an older relative, etc.) 17. I just retired 18. My child just left for school, got married or moved out of the house 19. I just changed careers 20. My spouse just started working outside the home, or got a new job 21. I just took on a large loan or financial responsibility 22. I just suffered a major setback (default on a mortgage, repossessed car, didn't get the promotion I wanted, failed the bar exam, dropped out of school, etc.) 23. I am pregnant or about to adopt a child 24. I just got back together with my spouse or girlfriend, boyfriend (after separation or divorce) 25. I am working or studying a lot more hours during the week
Routines and Habits If you didn't answer ?yes? to any of these questions, skip to the next section and continue adding your totals. If you answered ?yes? to 1 of these questions, add 2 points to your score. If you answered ?yes? to 2 of these questions, add 5 points to your score. If you answered ?yes? to 3-4 of these questions, add 10 points to your score
Thoughts and Feelings If you didn't answer ?yes? to any of these questions, skip to the next section and continue adding your totals. If you answered ?yes? to 1 of these questions, add 2 points to your score. If you answered ?yes? to 3-4 of these questions, add 5 points to your score. If you answered ?yes? to 5-6 of these questions, add 10 points to your score If you answered ?yes? to more than 6 of these questions, add 20 points to your score
Relationship Problems If you didn't answer ?yes? to any of these questions, skip to the next section and continue adding your totals. If you answered ?yes? to 1 of these questions, add 2 points to your score. If you answered ?yes? to 3-4 of these questions, add 5 points to your score. If you answered ?yes? to 5-6 of these questions, add 10 points to your score If you answered ?yes? to more than 6 of these questions, add 20 points to your score
Changes or Life Events If you didn't answer ?yes? to any of these questions, you can now begin to total your scores for each section and proceed to the TOTALS section below, to see how you did. If you answered ?yes? to 1 of these questions, add 1 point to your score. If you answered ?yes? to 3-4 of these questions, add 3 points to your score. If you answered ?yes? to 5-6 of these questions, add 5 points to your score If you answered ?yes? to 6-8 of these questions, add 10 points to your score If you answered ?yes? to 9-12 of these questions, add 20 points to your score If you answered ?yes? to 13-15 of these questions, add 30 points to your score If you answered ?yes? to more than 15 of these questions, add 50 points to your score
TOTALS Total your points for each section and add them together. Now look at the list below to determine your stress levels.
0-10 - Your long-term stress levels are low. You are doing just fine!
11-30 - You have moderate levels of long-term stress in your life. You should look for ways to reduce stress (time management, more aggressive negotiation of deadlines, training in conflict management, etc.)
31-60 ? Your long-term stress levels are a real concern. Review the areas in which you feel the most stress and work on those to improve your quality of life. Consider a meditation, exercise program, and/or counseling to help you reduce stress more quickly and analyze the areas you may need help so you can set goals and work toward reducing stress in the short term and long term.
Over 60 ? Your long-term stress levels are VERY HIGH. You should immediately assess the areas of stress in your life, talk to friends, family and co-workers, and begin a program to reduce AND to handle stress better. Consider exercise, meditation, counseling and other stress management techniques as appropriate (time management, training in conflict management and assertiveness, career change or counseling, etc.)
As you assess your stress levels and consider options for dealing with your stress, remember that everyone is different. Each of us has a different capacity for handling and tolerating stress. If you have a high score because of temporary conditions that you KNOW will change soon, you need not be as concerned as if you have stress factors that are longer term. These will, over time, affect your mental and physical health and your relationships, unless you address these stressors and find a way to deal with them or get rid of them.
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