When husband and wife decide to split up there are questions to be answered. One area is that of child custody questions. Each individual should take it upon themselves to do some research on child custody. By doing this research they will have a better understanding of what the process will be. Both parties should try and work out an agreement for child custody.

This will take a lot of the stress in dealing with this situation off of both of you.

The judge when hearing a case about the custody of a child wants to know first and foremost, which parent is really putting the childs best interests first and doing their best to keep their kids out of the custody fight. The she said this and he said that approach is a sure way to loose favor with the courts as judges hate that . A history of putting the child or children first is a great way to winning the approval of the courts.

Another child custody question is visiting rights for the parent that does not have custody. These rights are determined by the courts. The schedules for visitation can vary a great deal depending on the circumstances. A typical schedule could be anything depending on the work hours of the parents. It could be every other weekend, 4 weeks in the summer, every weekend etc. The other parent visiting the child or children is in the best interest of the child. Unless of course there was some kind of abuse going on.

In the case of parent who commits violence visitation may be allowed, but only if the judge believes that certain measures can be taken to make sure the child is going to be safe. This may consist of visits that are supervised.

When you have child custody questions it is always a good idea to consult a lawyer. The lawyer has taken an oath to take you, his/her clients interests , and promote them. This is even if it effects the interests of others. Before seeking the services of a lawyer, there is something you can do. Do some investigating on your own. This will give Ideas and have you better prepared for the long road ahead. Joint custody should always be considered as best for the child unless there is some kind of abuse going on by one of the parents. One parent being absent from a childs life sets up this situation. The parent with cusutody is left to do all the work raising the child and disciplining them. The absent parent that only sees the child sporadically is viewed as the fun one.