She's attractive, intelligent and you feel great whenever you're around her, but she only likes you "like a friend".
Well if you have these feelings then you're not alone...
In fact, there are many guys who want to go from being friends with a female to something more physical. Perhaps even leading to a relationship!
However most women brush off any advances from their guy friends because they've grown comfortable with the friendship and want to jeopardize it.
The good news there is a step-by-step system you can follow that'll turn that female friend into your girlfriend. Now I have to warn you some of these techniques are a little intense. So if you 're not a brave person then I recommend you read no further...
But if you're tired of watching other dudes hang with the girls you secretly like, then I recommend you implement this five part system:
Step 1- Don't be a friend when you first meet a woman
The first step is to never become friends with a woman. Instead of acting like a woman's buddy when you first meet her, you should act like a guy she would want to date. In other words, there are certain things women observe that help them place guys into either the "friend" category or the "boyfriend" category.
I'll give you a hint- if you're always there for her and treat her with kindness and respect then you'll probably end up in the friend category.
In order to prevent this, you should act in an aggressive and sexual manner from the moment you meet a woman. In essence you will want to act in a way that a friend wouldn't.
Step 2- Remove yourself from her
Now if you're already in a situation where you're *just friends* then you're going to have to do something dramatic.
You have to stop hanging out with her!
This means you stop calling her, emailing her, and hanging out. Do everything you can remove yourself from the friendship.
While it's important to never be a jerk to her, you have to become a "really busy" guy who doesn't have much time to hang out. You can return her calls and messages, but make sure you do it over after a couple of days.
Bottom line is you should stop being the guy who is always there for her.
Step 3- Date other women
When you've stopped talking this girl, you have to date other women. In order for this system to work, you should make a decision about your friend. Either you can decide to stay friends or continue working towards making her your girlfriend.
By dating other women, you'll start to develop a more confident attitude about women. In essence, you'll start to see how she compares with other women.
Step 4- Contact her after a period of not talking
Once you've dated different women for a couple of months, you should make a decision about your female friend. You've can either choose to be friends or try to develop a relationship. If you want to make your friendship more physical, then you should contact her.
Now when you initially talk to her, make sure you speak to her like a potential dating partner, not like a friend. In other words, don't be all buddy-buddy with her. Instead act in a way that a guy she would want to date.
Step 5- Treat her like a woman
Now that you're talking to her again, start behaving in a way that'll make her attract to you. Ask her on dates, flirt with her and treat her like a woman. The more you can do to act like a MAN, the more she'll see you in a new light.
Turning a friend into a girlfriend is a hard thing to do. Women are naturally inclined to categorize men to the friend or boyfriend category. So it's up to you to make a dramatic turnaround and transform yourself into the kind of guy she'll want to date.
While these five steps are pretty extreme, it can be your best solution for transforming a casual friendship to relationship.
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