Your body language is the most effective weapon you have when interacting with a woman. Women make approximately 30 judgments about you within the first 30 seconds and most of it is portrayed via your body language. Women will listen to your words but if you can learn how to use your body it can work to your advantage. You can create enthusiasm by using your body, you can build anticipation, build attraction, come across as confident, strong, mature and MORE.
Everything matters with body language from your hands to the stance of where your feet are and YES all women notice this. Women can feel your energy and power when you portray good strong body language and you will send chills down their neck.
So how do you use your body when talking to women? Well if I got you to imagine a depressed person, I am sure you would be able to do it. Head down, shoulders shrugged forward, body stiff and closed in, eye contact at the floor.
Now if I told you to imagine yourself as if you had just won a championship how would you be holding your body? Head up, shoulders back, chest out, eyes level, stance.
So how do you approach women? First of all I will suggest what you must not do when talking to women. Don’t fidget, all guys make this mistake and it is not attractive, guys will sway, play with their jewelry, look around the room, hands in pockets, lean in toward women, stand too close, touch woman too early on, hold eye contact for too long.
You need to find the balance for body language and you need to get a woman to believe that you are way too comfortable for the situation, that nothing bothers you about talking to her as it shouldn’t. You should be powerful having your shoulders back and your feet should be shoulder width apart taking up room. When standing still you should always have one leg in front and shoulder length apart and one leg slightly bent. When talking to women always lean back and make eye contact but don’t stare, look at let her know that you are comfortable and she does not intimidate you.
Having your hands in the back of your pockets works and using your arms and hands when talking will stop you from fidgeting, try to always keep your hands just above your waist when interacting with a woman. Never walk straight toward a woman and get right into her face always talk to a woman from the side at the start and then slowly turn in towards her or more so the women will turn into you.
By doing all of these subtle little movements with your body you will come across as strong and powerful and a man, without even having to OPEN your mouth. So be confident with women and remember that confidence is nothing but a state that you put yourself in. You can’t get confidence it is something that you create inside of yourself.
Loneliness is a painful, empty feeling. It is based on a belief - or set of beliefs - that you are unloved and unwanted. It is not a pleasant place to be at all, and indeed may even be a component or forerunner of depression.
Where it comes from may be interesting, but it won't take it away, and to keep this article brief, let's concentrate our efforts there, shall we?
Essentially, loneliness has three components, and the good news is they're all under your control.
The first of these I've mentioned already, and it's your beliefs. To feel lonely, you'll have to believe that no one understands you, wants you, could love or even like you! You may have your personal variations, but underneath your rationalisations, you'll find I'm in the right ball park.
The second element will be your thoughts - your inner dialogue if you will. You might be the kind of person who asks yourself negatively charged questions, such as, "Why doesn't anyone ever seem to want me?" Although it may feel reasonable to ask yourself questions like that feeling as wretched as you do, actually your subconscious takes everything literally and so it'll give you an honest, almost childlike, answer. You'll get something like this: "Well, you're not exactly God's gift are you? And you know how hopeless you are with money/kids/nerves/fill-in-the-blank, it's no wonder you're on your own!"
You get the picture. Of course, it doesn't come out as neatly as that in your head, but that again will be in the right area.
The third, and perhaps most powerful element, will be your body language. As a lonely, ("unwanted"), person, you'll avoid eye contact, slump your shoulders a little and maybe hang your head, (as if you're ashamed of yourself). If you're a woman you might even hunch a little as if hiding your bust. (You can't possibly afford the risk of being sexually attractive! Imagine the pain of rejection!)
Your physiology is the most powerful element because it's the one that will produce the fastest change. I can argue with you till I'm blue in the face that you're truly a lovely person, but inside you'll leave feeling much the same as when we started. Your thought processes will still be similar, and you'll find questions forming in your mind such as, "Why is this guy saying all these nice things to me? If he really knew me ..."
But your body language, now that's different.
Square your shoulders, sit or stand just a little straighter. Breathe ten percent deeper than you were now, and let yourself have this thought: "Actually, I've got a lot to be proud of myself about."
How many times a day can you do that little process?
It's only a beginning, but you know what little acorns turn into, don't you?
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