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While no one ever plans on being arrested, it is a good idea to know what you should and shouldn't do in case it ever happens. By understanding what is expected of you and what circumstance can make your situation worse, you will be better able to handle the distress and fear that comes with being arrested.
First of all, there are certain things that you should do if you ever find yourself in this scary situation. Do attempt to stay calm and try to only speak to the police officer in a respectful, polite manner and tone of voice. By staying calm you will be better able to assess the situation for what it really is and better able to recall all of the details of your arrest later for your attorney. By being polite and respectful you will cut down on the chances that the arresting officers will become angry or aggressive, which could lead to your being injured or harmed.
Do give the basic information that the officers are asking for without being surly or rude. This information includes your name, address, and telephone number, the name of an immediate family member and their phone number and the name of the place of your employment. Not only do the police officers need this information to file the forms of your arrest, they will also need it when setting your bail.
Do exercise your right to remain silent. You are not required by law to answer any questions that could incriminate you and you do not have to speak to the police, district attorney or anyone unless you are in the presence of your lawyer. If the police continue to ask you questions or harass you for answers, you should simply keep repeating the phrase, "I wish to speak to my attorney".
Do exercise your right to make one phone call. This call should probably go to your lawyer but in a case where you do not have a lawyer, you should call a close family member and instruct them to obtain legal counsel for you as soon as possible.
Do attempt to get the names and badge numbers of the police officers that arrest you. You have a right to this information but for various reasons, some officers may attempt not to disclose this information to you.
There are also a number of things that you should not do if you ever find yourself under arrest.
Do not resist arrest. Even if you believe that the charges held against you are false, insisting on your innocence at this point will not help you or stop the arrest. Wait until you are taken to the police station and allowed to call an attorney. Once your attorney arrives, speak through him or her to defend you innocence.
Do not act in an aggressive manner or yell out threats about filing harassment complaints. Aggressive behavior will only cause the police officers to try to restrain you and your bad behavior could be held against you later when you are trying to fight the charges in court.
Do not complain when the police officers handcuff, search, fingerprint or photograph you. All of these processes are a normal result of being arrested. Go through the process with as much cooperation with possible.
While being arrested will never be a pleasant experience, the way you act and the things you choose to do and not do while going through the process can go a long way toward easing the pain, inconvenience and humiliation of the experience.
One of the biggest problems for people with disabilities, particularly those with a learning disability like autism is the limited opportunity for social inclusion. People don't always appreciate how capable they are, and despite having autism I've always known my son was very clever. Last night he proved it.
I decided that at the age of eighteen my son ought to be "out there", doing things his peers might, so last night I took him along to the local badminton club.
I was a bit apprehensive because there are clubs and there are "clubs" - you know, those cliquey places where the members are seriously competitive and never seem to enjoy themselves unless they are winning.
My son doesn't understand competition. Neither does he understand the rules of badminton, i.e. how to score, which side of the court to stand or when. All he knows is when playing badminton he stands one side of the net, usually more towards the right hand side; his opponent stands opposite and they take turns to hit the shuttlecock to each other.
This doesn't usually require a lot of movement - at least on his behalf because he has very good eye/hand co-ordination and long arms, so last night's experience was totally new to him.
It started off well enough. The club was more of a social enterprise and everyone seemed very friendly and accepting. I explained to anyone who would listen about his autism, and that he didn't really speak. I didn't want them to think he was being rude if he ignored their attempts at conversation.
There were five courts, four players on each and several others waiting in the wings ready to play when the opportunity arose. We got on court almost immediately and our first partners, a male and a female just knocked up with us. This was fine, as apart from there being four players instead of two; it was what Jodi was used to.
The second "match" was a bit more eventful. Again a male and female partnered us, but these were obviously a bit more serious and wanted to play a proper game.
I explained to Jodi's partner that whilst he could hit the shuttlecock, he didn't understand the rules or that the idea was to win. Since I didn't feel she had any chance of being on the winning side I asked if she would like me to play with my son.
She assured me it was fine, and we'd just play and see how things turned out.
It started off well but then Jodi got really confused because you have to keep swapping sides when you serve. This means of course your partner also has to swap.
The first few serves were okay although he did get hit in the face with a speeding shuttlecock but shortly afterwards he lost it. No sooner had he walked across to where his partner had told him to stand than he had to move back again. When she gently tried to guide him to where he needed to stand, he lashed out and hit her on the arm.
He's a big lad and very strong. I felt mortified. I rushed around the net to him apologising profusely to his partner as I went just in time to stop him from tipping the whole net over.
He was not impressed and I had visions of us being banished before we'd ever really got started. However, he soon calmed down and stroked his partner's arm saying "Sorry".
She was just wonderful and despite the huge red handprint on her arm kept reassuring me it was alright. It appears she worked in the "community", whatever that means. I just know I was extremely grateful for her understanding.
After that we played three more matches but no-one asked or expected Jodi to swap sides so I guess word must have got round.
I did suggest to him at one stage that he should "move his feet" and he responded immediately with a shoe shuffle the like of which the penguin in Happy Feet would have been proud. It wasn't quite what I'd had in mind though.
Still, everyone was very impressed with Jodi and whilst he didn't physically move around the court very much, he rarely ever missed a shot. He didn't even appear to be watching the game either. He'd just raise his racquet and swing.
Often he casually had one hand on his hip as if to say "Why am I waiting?" or his finger in his right ear to shut out the noise echoing around the high ceiling sports hall, which did make things a bit awkward since he is right handed. Still it didn't appear to affect his ability to connect to the flying plastic missile.
One player suggested I get some earplugs for him to wear to shut out the noise and I may just do that when we go next week. Yes, we have been invited to go again!
So now I suppose you want to know why I think my son was very clever last night, don't you? Well, this morning I can hardly move. All that running around and swapping sides has taken it's toll and my body aches in places I didn't even know I had muscles.
Jodi, however, is as fresh as a daisy - Guess who's the intelligent one?