"I still think twice before I buy anything," writes Oprah. She always asks herself, "How will this fit in with what I already have? Am I just caught up in the moment?"

How will a woman with this attitude react to the constant male push in our industry, to close close close, and the sooner the better, and the bigger that first package you push onto the woman, the more there is to gloat about?

How many of you, the women (80% of the industry) agree with Oprah? And is there ANY sales training directed at this majority? So we learn how to stop turning off all those women? And yes, I include the women culprits who have fallen into this pushy style unwittingly.

Oprah writes that she can now afford anything she wants, BUT one of her "I know for sure's" is "that you enjoy everything a lot more when you're not overreaching. This is how you know you've shopped smart: You bring home a purchase and there's not a tinge of remorse, and whateever you got feels better to you ten days later than it did when you first bought it."

Her concluding advice to women about spending money without thinking twice: "You're a smart cookie. Let the world know it."

Shall we learn to plan for a second date?

"Did they teach you to find her "hot button"?

Have you been told that the way to sell your company's products is to find the other woman's "hot button" and when you do, push it and go for the sale?

That may take a few conversations. Plus it's kind of fake, isn't it, to make friends so you can find their hot button and then try to sell the person something...?

Lots of women tell me they don't like making friends just so they can sell them, so they don't do it.

Here's an alternative. Use your hot button. Yes.

When someone asks you what you do, instead of mumbling the name of the company, or some other type of seller talk, try leading with YOUR hot button. E.g.

THEM: So, what do you do?

YOU: I market a product for someone who has achy knees going up and down the stairs, like I used to. And they don't want to use drugs or do surgery, like me. Do you know anyone who might like to know about a product like that?

You are telling YOUR personal story. No hype, no promises. Just your story.

And who do you think will respond? EVERYONE? Or just the ones where there's a match, like when you find that right pair of shoes? Or perhaps, they refer someone who knows someone like the person you have just described?

That way you find people like you to begin with. :)