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by Nancy Michel, Nan

Dear Dating Tips,
I've been doing the online dating thing for about a year with mixed results. Recently I met this guy and we really hit it off. But the thing is that we seem to be opposites in many ways. Yet we are highly attracted to each other. Any advice on the subject of opposites? ~ Opposite Attraction

Dear Opposite Attraction,
The saying "opposites attract" is definitely true in some instances. Perhaps it's the diversity of difference that creates the initial attraction - the other person has things (traits, etc.) that you don't and vice versa. Some people find the difference exciting.

The way you are opposites and the way you communicate as opposites is the key as to whether you can build a successful foundation with each other. Let's examine an extreme situation:

You're a republican - he's a democrat.
You're a vegetarian - he's a meat eater.
You hate horror movies - he absolutely loves horror movies.
You love romantic movies - he can't stand romantic movies.
You're an extrovert - he's an introvert.

In the short term, you may be able to work around these issues, but what about the long term? When you want to go to a party with him and he doesn't want to go, how will you feel going alone? When a romantic movie comes out that you want to see opening day in the theater and he wants to see "Freddy 12: A Murderer Has a Dozen Lives" instead, what will you do? Go alone? Split up to see different films?

There can definitely be long term consequences when a person is a strong opposite of you. Yet, the way you communicate with each other is the key as to how your relationship will work. Look at Arnold Schwartzenegger. He's a republican (and now governor of California). His wife is a democrat with ties to the democratic Kennedy clan. Yet they appear to be very happily married and she fully supported his campaign to be Governor of California.

Stubbornness in a relationship where opposites attract will bring about disastrous results. Being open and open-minded, with a strong ability from both people to compromise, can create an environment of security and contentment amongst opposites.

Here are some questions to ask yourself:

1) Can you live with the differences or would you rather share your time with someone who likes and wants similar things that you do?

2) What is the foundation of your relationship based on?

3) Does being opposite create conflicts in your relationship?

4) What is it about the differences that you find exciting and stimulating?

5) Are you both great communicators with the ability to compromise?

6) Do you find that being opposites help compliment the relationship versus bringing conflict?

Being opposites can work if they are complimentary to the relationship and both people are open-minded with the ability to compromise when needed. Not having those abilities could create potential conflict leading to a bitter breakup. You need to analyze which category your relationship falls into. Good luck! ~ The Dating Tipster

P.S. If you are in a healthy relationship where the person is opposite of you, be sure to remind him once in awhile of the things you appreciate about him! Hopefully this is reciprocated.

Karma is the universal law of equal reaction for any initial action. If you give anything, you will receive the same, or more, in return. We commonly see this effect with love, hate, and money.

Therefore, be careful to avoid having hateful thoughts or displaying hateful actions. Obviously, you should be generous about acts of kindness, giving to loved ones, and giving to charity. The person who does not share love or money is rewarded with loneliness and shallow relationships.

Regardless of your religion, Karma has an effect on your life. If you visit a church, temple, shrine, ashram, or mosque, you are taught to give to people who are less fortunate. This is a universal and ethical law: Those who give - always seem to receive.

Many people feel they live under the shadow of "bad Karma." Karma is not bad or good. This is only the human perception of Karma. Everyone has bad experiences; this is a natural part of life. Bad experiences must be addressed with solutions. Look at a crisis, cry if you must, find a solution, and learn what you can from it.

We all feel grief, but we cannot solve anything by crying about it. It is natural to cry, but we must move on. The old saying, "Don't cry over spilled milk," applies to life. Look at each situation and learn from it. Otherwise, you can fall down and the world will "walk all over you."

Why is this aspect of Yoga not taught in your Hatha Yoga class? Perhaps your Hatha Yoga teacher does not talk about Yogic philosophy because it might not be considered to be as popular as Yoga postures. Loving kindness, mindfulness, and Karma Yoga rarely make the cover of Time Magazine.

However, you should still privately mention your interest, in Yogic philosophy, to your Yoga teacher. Most Hatha Yoga teachers are very familiar with Yogic philosophy, but many "western trained" Yoga instructors do not want to be seen as guides toward spiritual health.

This situation occurs more often in a multi-cultural society where Hatha Yoga students have different religious orientations. The typical Hatha Yoga teacher does not want to insult anyone, who comes to his or her class.

There is a solution for this: When a Yoga teacher explains the commonality of universal laws - no offense is taken. Karma is just one of many universal laws. You can find more universal laws, within the Yoga Sutras by Patanjali, or take a close look at the first two limbs of Yoga. These limbs are Yamas and Niyamas.

Once you read the first two limbs of Yoga, think about each universal law carefully. Any person, of any religion, can live by these universal laws and practice Karma Yoga - Union by selfless service.

Copyright 2007 - Paul Jerard / Aura Publications

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