[I527]Is Husband Having An Affair

It seems to be that your significant other has become a different person! He no longer acts as the attentive, affectionate and loving guy that he used to be. Not only that, your mate often seems bored and distracted - remaining somewhere 'far away' in his head. You may sometimes feel like you are getting this secretive vibe from him. Even your mutual friends and acquaintances may seem to be vaguely uncomfortable in your presence! You are usually feeling really confused and try to talk to your partner about these nagging doubts but, he just keeps changing the subject or pulling away even further.

Your mate may stop talking about your future together. He may forget your birthday or stops doing something special for anniversaries or Valentines Day. Once he may have acted like a Bengal tiger towards you in the bedroom - now he always seems preoccupied or is never in the mood! Or, he goes to the opposite end of the scale and is always turned on. Now, he can't keep his hands off you and is showing different bedroom behavior. It is like your partner's sex drive has been suddenly ignited with a stick of dynamite.

*Tip: Ladies - keep your eyes out on condoms missing from their packet. This is a sure-fire indication of knowing if he is creeping off to get his satisfaction elsewhere. Be even more suspicious if you come across a condom in his trouser pockets - especially when you are on the pill!

Your man may become more selfish about things and start snapping at you - whereas before he was basically considerate and easy going. If you have children together, he may lose his former interest in the family activities that you usually do together. He may seem less understanding and tolerant with you and the children. It may even seem like he has started to pick fights with you - just so that he has the excuse to go elsewhere. On occasion, he has left the house to go pick up a snack at the corner store or to run a quick errand. It should have only taken him about 20-30 minutes - he returns home hours later. This has happened more than once!

The relationship starts to feel stagnant and you don't seem to be doing anything together much anymore. He may also start spending a lot more time at work, as well as start coming up with more frequent excuses to spend the night away from you or the family. Whether it is due to a business trip, or a night out with his pals - when he arrives home the following day - he sometimes insists on doing the laundry.

You may start receiving flowers from him when he rarely buys you flowers. Or you start to get far more gifts from him than usual. This is because he may be giving them to you simply to try & assuage his own guilt. Another way a man may relieve his guilt about his infidelity is to be much more attentive towards you. Even so, it usually doesn't last.

A cheating partner often starts to take a lot more pride & care in his appearance. Don't be at all surprised if he goes from being almost a couch potato at home, to being a fully motivated guy who is obsessed with his image. Out of the blue, he may start getting up early to put on his gym clothes & go work out. There is usually this sudden urge for a cheating man to get more 'buff'! Often, there will be additional trips to the shopping center to get a more trendy hair cut, for some new clothes & a nice cologne. (I won't forget to mention - more attractive looking underwear!)

One day, you may walk into the living room to find him listening to a new music CD or to some new downloaded stuff on his i Pod. You know his tastes and he is now listening to music that you thought he hated! Or this may be a music genre that he knew little or even nothing about. You may catch your mate using expressions of speech that are not common for him or he may give an opinion that surprises you. His former hobbies and interests may change too. Even more unusual or spontaneous behavior.... he pulls up in the driveway with a brand new car! If you are married, he may stop wearing his wedding ring. When you ask him about it you get a feeble excuse.

Just recently, your man may have bought another cell phone. One was enough for him before, now he has the need for two. He may give you the excuse that it's only a 'business phone'. You can't help but notice that there are a lot more text messages being sent his way. Then, you see that he is almost diligent in deleting these text messages as well as, the entire caller IDs that he gets. Why is it that you can't seem to ever get hold of him lately? And, when you need to catch him on his cell - it's almost always switched off. His work schedule and daily habits have become much more erratic and unpredictable.

Mmmm. The home phone will ring & when you go to pick up the receiver, there is nothing but silence on the other end. Another thing is that; when your partner is answering the phone, he will hastily make an excuse so as to leave the room. The times when you have walked in on his phone conversations, he abruptly hangs up. He may talk in whispered tones when usually he is louder and open. You may also have come across these little pieces of paper with a number scrawled on them, in a hand you don't recognize but, there never seems to be a name.

This brings me to the home computer. Your S.O may start to spend a lot more time tapping away on the keyboard. He may start using a web cam. Whenever you get curious about what he is doing, he becomes annoyed and evasive. He even minimizes the screen window! You may notice that he logs on at particular times of the day and you even saw him a couple of times, smiling at the screen. In a way that makes you think he is communicating with a woman. You found out recently, that he opened up a new email account. You knew nothing about it before - as he never told you.

Sometimes its getting late at night and you make a suggestion that both of you turn in for the night. Your mate doesn't accept your suggestion of going to bed as he has gotten into this strange new habit of staying up till almost midnight - even later. The types of reasons he gives you are: he has to 'study', he needs to do some business research or he wants to play some internet games. When he does come to bed and falls asleep, sometimes you are woken a few hours later by him talking in his sleep. He keeps mentioning another girls name!

He may start taking more showers. He may start showering each night, keeping his wallet right next to him in the bathroom. You may think it strange that credit card statements and phone bills seem mysteriously to never arrive in the mail! Money may sporadically vanish from the joint savings account or you have noticed that portions of your partner's paycheck seem to be un-accounted for. There may be other things happening with money that that just don't make sense.

Your mate may even start to accuse YOU of cheating but, has no real reason to ever make him really think that. There is no evidence. This is another way of assuaging his guilt! But, if you question him about his behavior he gets very irritated and defensive.

You may just have this gut feeling inside of you that something isn't quite right. Don't ignore this feeling. I have to say that a woman's instincts are usually pretty spot on. Pay attention to your intuition!