As we are growing up we take for granted the thing we have. We do not understand that things cost money; in fact we do not know what money is. Even if a 3 year old boy or girl can ask his or her parent for a few dollars, they still do not know what it is, they do not know where the dollars come from and they do not know how hard we need to work to get those dollars. So we buy furniture to go with our lifestyles. And we are not talking about the lifestyle of people without kids, who can buy designer lounge furniture or bedroom furniture, we are talking about the lifestyle of peopled who have kids and have to buy dark colored furniture so that when the kids draw on them it will show as bad, people who need to put washable paint and the walls and just in case keep an extra can of paint in the garage. It is very difficult for people with ids to get nice furniture, even when the kids grow and become teenagers as they insist on doing.
Having teenage kids is worse than having toddlers, because they like getting their feet on everything, they stand on your furniture and lie on your furniture and do all sort of teenage things in the most inappropriate places. Once your kids have moved out, hopefully after they have gotten a good education and is set in a good job, you can go out and splash your saved cash and flash your furniture to all the people your came to know over the years, called friends.
There are many different types of furniture you get for a home, to start with you will get things for your dining room, and these are called dining room furniture. You will then get things for your office, or home office, these are called office furniture. You will then get things for your living room, these are called living room furniture, the main units in the living room are called the sofas or the lounge suite. Other types of furniture you will get are things for your bedrooms, these are called bed room furniture, with the main piece in the bed room being the bed. Then you get TV room furniture, as the name suggest this will hold your TV, which is also a piece of furniture, you could also have a TV in the living room if you do not have enough space for a tv room. With a tv room it does get a bit expensive, as you will have to buy two set of living room suites or sofas, so that you will have something to sit on in the TV room and in the living room, so you have to be careful when you are setting out or home, check and budget and then recheck it just to be sure, if you are clear then you can go ahead.
Kids love to think they can put one over on their parents and have the upper hand. Let's face it most kids think you were put on this planet as an adult and you were never a teenager, you dont have any idea what they are going through and they have no idea the cons they are trying to pull on you have already been tried by you when you were their age so you know exactly what they are attempting to do and are two steps ahead of them.
The sad thing is that your kids wont realise what they are putting you through until they are your age and have their own kids then sit back and wait for the apology from them because you wont get one until then. They may apologise for isolated behaviour but half the time kids dont mean it they just want you to give in and let them off their grounding but dont do it.
The best way to get your kids to accept your boundaries and rules is to first find out what your kids most treasured activities and possessions are and let them know quite firmly that if they dont follow the rules some items or activities will be omitted from your kids weekly routine and stand firm for example you may have noticed that you child after being grounded for a week is very loving and doing everything you have asked them to do and you are feeling like a big mean ogre for keeping the grounding going. Now you need to go to a childs mind set and think if I give in this time are they going to learn the lesson I wanted them to learn and the answer is no they will know how to get their punishment shortened but not that you mean what you say.
Remember the old saying you have to be cruel to be kind its true when it comes to kids and believe me kids will make you feel mean when you enforce your boundaries but will get over it Plus it will give them tools on how to raise their kids without having to use the wooden spoon like we were taught as kids. Taking away a kids ipod hurts more than a smack. Gee they may even be forced to have a conversation with you.
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