She sounded desperate. She had met some unexpected resistance in interviews . . . two in a row. Turns out prospective employers were questioning her about how her background could possibly fit into their organization.
She clutched. She stumbled. She came away from the interview feeling totally defeated. Of course, this colored her enthusiasm for continuing her job search.
Keely's story is not unique. It happens to all of us in one way or another--especially when we're looking for a job. The question is: how you respond to it?
Are you going to be a victim or a professional?
1. You're a victim if you start putting yourself down. You're a professional if you acknowledge that there's something you need to learn so this doesn't happen again.
2. You're a victim if you blame the employer for failing to see how good you are. You're a professional if you take the time to understand what an employer's needs are.
3. You're a victim if you throw in the towel because you're discouraged. You're a professional if you pick up the pieces and move forward to the next encounter.
4. You're a victim if you let your friends make excuses for you. You're a professional if you ask your friends to practice with you so you can do better the next time.
5. You're a victim if you get angry and just give up. You're a professional if you understand why you would be angry. And then get over it ands move on toward your goal.
Finding a job is never easy. There are plenty of bumps in the road that can discourage you. On the other hand, there are wonderful strategies and techniques that can get you past the bumps and turn you into a job search professional.
When you determine to take the professional approach no matter how many obstacles come your way, you've dramatically moved the odds in your favor. And you WILL get a great job offer!
I would like to share a personal story with you. I remember a couple really lean months after I started my business. My husband and I would sit down at the table and I would start to tick off all the things I had done to market my business properly. "I have done everything right...so, what's WRONG!?" I would exclaim.
The truth of the matter was, I hadn't done anything wrong, per se, it just felt like that because I didn't have the amount of clients that I had expected.
Interestingly enough, in all other ways I had succeeded in meeting all of my business goals and timelines. However, those achievements were overshadowed by the anxiety caused by not having a long line of clients waiting to work with me.
Turns out after about 6 weeks (which felt more like forever), I had plenty of wonderful clients.
You would think as a job search coach I would not fall into this trap! But the point is, when we are going through "the fire" it's easy to panic and quickly loose perspective.
When you are in a job search it's not much different. There are highs and lows. Sometimes the phone never stops ringing; sometimes it may feel like all potential employers are purposefully avoiding you. Inevitably one wonders, "What have I done wrong?" No doubt, it can be a confusing time. So here are some tips that provide the job seeker with a very helpful dose of reality.
Tip #1: Expect the peaks and valleys
It's true. Every job search or career transition has its peaks and valleys. And yes, its uncomfortable.
If you are experiencing a dry spell in your job search you need to look at a few things before you can accurately determine the cause. These include: Is your resume powerful enough to get you attention? Have you had it professionally written? Do you have a plan to focus on a particular industry and position? Does that plan include strategies that you are implementing? Have you investigated the health of the industry you are targeting? Is it in a growth mode or is it shrinking? Do you know how to tap into the unadvertised job market and, if so, are you been using those strategies consistently and persistently? Have you given your job search enough time? The average search in a good market can take 2 to 4 months for a mid level professional and 6 to 12 months for a senior executive.
Tip #2 Get realistic about marketing figures
Direct mail campaigns do the heavy lifting for you and I recommend them. They usually yield a 1% to 7% return.
Unadvertised job market strategies can take your positive responses to 20% to 60% in a good market and slightly less in a bad economy. Regardless, pursuing the unadvertised market beats out job boards by a long shot. Job boards are the toughest job market in which to compete. Period.
The bottom line: even still, most companies are not going to respond to you. I am not trying to be negative, but rather to demonstrate that it doesn't mean your not good enough or not doing something right. Job searching is marketing. Job searching is a numbers game. The solution? Check your search against tip #1 and then increase your numbers.
Tip #3 Don't Get Down On Yourself
There are loads of things you can do that actually do help emotionally, mentally and physically in a job search. A few of these include:
Use a coach to keep you motivated, make sure you are using the right techniques to leverage yourself in the market and to keep you on track with setting and reaching your goals on a weekly basis.
Work (i.e. job search) and life balance are incredibly vital! Set several hours aside each day to work on your job search and write out what your main activity is for each day. Take the rest of the day off (yes you heard me right!) to rest, relax, to be with your family, to enjoy sports or other activities, work on continuing education read or whatever else you like to do. This will keep you sane and balanced while you are waiting for your efforts to pay off.
Join a church group or a support group. The positive support helps, just trust me on this one.
If you hit a dry spell, remind yourself that its not you and its not personal. Getting depressed and feeling desperate is not the vibe you want to be taking into your upcoming interviews.
Do what you have to do. One executive client I know took a part-time job in a grocery store while he was looking for a full-time executive position. He said it helped him feel like he was still contributing monetarily to his family and just getting out and working part-time kept his head clear.
The wise job seeker and career changer know that dry spells in a job search don't signal the end of a career as it is known :). They use the time to market even harder.
Remember that every marketing effort is an accomplishment in and of itself and does contribute to action, forward movement and future activity. By looking at the situation realistically, using techniques to boost your activity and keeping your focus on what you want (not what you are afraid of) you will maximize your leverage and move consistently forward to the results you want.
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