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[L498]Long Distance Romantic Relationships

by Hagop, Hag

Weall wish we could have that fairy tale relationship, where we indeedlive happily ever after.

Effectivecommunication is essential to the strength and longevity of anyrelationship.

Almosteveryone knows this, but does every one know how to apply it?

Whatexactly do you have to communicate to your lover?

Hereare some tips on how to open up and strengthen the lines ofcommunication in a romantic relationship;

Giveimportance to openness. The foundation of effective communicationwith your lover is that you are always honest and open. Don't beafraid to express your feelings, whether they are positive ornegative. Also, feel free to share your ideas no matter how silly orridiculous you think they are. Being open to each other is the firststep to truly loving each other, especially because openness meansthat there's a fair amount of trust in the relationship.

Everytime you feel a fight coming on, ask yourself "Is thisimportant?" Nothing's worse than hours of shouting insults andharsh words at each other. Although both of you could just be caughtup in the moment, the words you utter in these moments of anger willbe remembered forever. So before a small argument grows into afull-blown fight, ask yourself first whether the argument isimportant enough to risk losing the relationship. Usually, it's not.After all, even if you "win" an argument, you know that noone truly wins in these situations.

It helps to talk with yourlover daily about your everyday life.

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Eventhe little things count. Whether they're funny, silly, touching,mundane, or annoying, anything that happens you will allow you toconnect more deeply with your lover. You should also encourage yourlover to talk to you about their day. Sharing these details is one ofthe ways in which you can share each other's life. They may seemunimportant and irrelevant, but discussing these little things willencourage you to communicate about the bigger, more importantthings.

Talkingabout your problems is always healthy and helpful.

Whetherit's your personal problems or the problems in your relationship,talking about them is a way of getting things out in the open andresolving them.

Forpersonal problems, it's a way of reaching out and getting support.Your relationship will be much deeper if you go through the badthings as well as you go through the good things. If you're havingtrouble discussing relationship problems, get a mediator or acounselor to help you verbalize your thoughts without gettinghostile.

Listeningto your partner is important aspect of communication.

It'snot really communication if only one person is talking. Make surethat you give your partner the time and opportunity to talk to you.

Payattention to signals that they give off as well.

Doeshe or she look tired? Has your lover been hinting about spending moretime with you? Paying attention to what your partner says and whatyour partner shows you, is the key to being an effective listener anda treasured lover.

Livelong and prosper.

Everywhere you turn these days, someone is talking about "The Secret". I knew it was definitely in the mainstream when Saturday Night Live recently did a skit on it! However, the law of attraction is not really a "secret". I've known about it for almost 10 years and have occasionally mentioned it in my writings. When I first found out about it, I felt as if I'd been given the key to life on earth. Since that fateful day, I've manifested everything from a soup spoon to money, trips to Hawaii and my current vehicle.

"The Secret" is not just about manifesting material objects. You can also use it to attract a partner into your life or improve your relationship with a partner you already have. The key to the law of attraction is that you use your feelings more than your thoughts, to create. Feelings are feminine, thoughts are masculine. Females give birth (create), not males.

If you are looking for a partner, make a list of the qualities you would like in that partner. Be very specific, because the universe takes things literally. Be sure to include qualities such as: single (you don't want to manifest someone that has everything you want only to find out they're already attached), heterosexual/homosexual (depending on your orientation), financially stable (you don't want someone that is one step away from living in their car), faithful, lives within (fill in the blank) miles of you and is ready for a committed relationship (they may be perfect, but if they're not ready, it's not going to happen).

The next step is to clear a space for that person in your life. I find the best way to do this is to make sure your bed is free of clutter when you go to sleep at night. As you lay there, imagine that they are lying beside you. How would you feel if the man/woman of your dreams was sleeping next to you? That thought should instantly make you smile. Feel the fulfillment of your desire. Love that person, even though you have no idea who they are.

You should not be thinking of a specific person. You will be interfering with another's free will and it will backfire. I once used this technique on someone I was seeing who did not want to sleep over (hard to believe, I know). My visualization worked, but the reason he was now sleeping over was because he had been evicted and had no place else to go. These were not the circumstances under which I wanted him in my bed. I lost respect for him and eventually relegated him to the couch.

If you're already in a relationship and are unhappy about something your partner does, the last thing you want to do is focus on it. What you focus on expands. By constantly complaining about it to your partner, yourself and anyone that will listen, you continue to give it life. Instead, focus on what you want. Create a scene in your mind of how you want your relationship to look and feel the fulfillment of it.

I have been recommending the book, "Excuse Me, Your Life Is Waiting" for many years on my site. I have read many books on the law of attraction and this is the best one by far. As you can see, "The Secret" isn't really a secret after all.

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