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[L173]Learn How To Talk Dirty

by Phoebe Aimes, Pho

Words are powerful in the boardroom, but they can be magical in the bedroom. If you are looking for ways to spice up your sex life, learn to turn him on the next time you get together with a little bit of dirty talk. Here are 5 tips for opening up a new chapter in the book of your lovemaking with him.

Tip #1: Set the tone for your encounter: Breaking into this new territory will be easier if you set the right ambience for your intimate encounter together. Try lighting some candles, buy a new piece of lingerie, or maybe put on some mood music. Of course, make sure that you choose a time and place where you will not have any interruptions and where nobody can hear your murmurs of pleasure.

Tip #2: Give him a little teaser: If you fear you might embarrass him the first time you try talking dirty, try working it slowly into your lovemaking the next time you get together. As things are starting to warm up, encourage what he is already doing by whispering passionately, “I love it when you do that." This will give him confidence about his prowess and also provide him with a teaser of what is to come.

Tip #3: Tell him what you want him to do to you: Once he confidently knows that you think he already has some great skills in bed, try dropping a hint during foreplay about what you want him to do. Something as simple as whispering, “I would love it if you did [fill in blank]" will do just fine. Say it with a surrendering tone that tells him you will soon be putty in his hands. Hint: to keep things moving, be sure to give him plenty of feedback along the way.

Tip #4: Ask him what he wants you to do: For your next lovemaking session, ask him what he wants you to do to him. This will get him talking dirty, which should be one of your goals. Do not expect poetry from him (or yourself) and be sure not to make light of his words if he sounds awkward at first. Just like you, his ego in certain areas is fragile, so make sure to make him feel comfortable saying whatever comes to his mind.

Tip #5: Turn up the heat with new vocabulary: Now, it is time to turn up the heat by using words you would never dream of saying outside of the bedroom. There is no need to “go XXX" here (unless you sense the mood is right for both of you). But, do start referring to each others’ bodies and body parts in new and colorful ways. For example, instead of just telling him what you want him to do in general terms, be more specific. Describe what you desire in vivid detail, telling him step by step what you would like him to do, or what you want to do to him.

Talking dirty with you man in bed is one of those things that may sound awkward or even silly when you are not in the right kind of mood. But, once you get things going with your man, slipping in a bit of dirty talk will do wonders for your sex life. Soon, you may find that it becomes a regular part of your sex play.

If you can put society's somewhat blinkered and reactive view aside for just one minute, just ignore it, then you might realize that using dirty talk inside a relationship between two consenting and involved people can actually do a lot to deepen the bond.
Learning how to talk dirty to your partner can not only re-energize a staid or placid relationship, it can also build your confidence and self belief beyond what it is normally, based purely on the fact you are trying something new and "daring".
But you do have to learn how to talk dirty to your partner the right way, not the wrong way. Right way equals looks of amazement and, potentially, lust. The wrong way equals looks of disgust, puzzlement and an early trip to a relationship counselor!
So step 1 - decide just how dirty or raunchy your partner is likely to go and stay just under that fine line.
If your guy or girl is used to you helping out at the church social each week and watches you baking cookies for the neighbors, (or if they actually do the baking themselves!) then having you suddenly trip out a string of expletives and lustful stories as you snuggle down together under the duvet is likely to make them reach for the phone and the nearest help line!
Work out what sort of things your partner finds erotic - not lusty - erotic, there is a huge difference here. Think less brazen and more suggestive, half hidden as opposed to fully exposed!
Use a soft voice and gentle approach and set your dirty talk at a level where you know they'll still be comfortable but also intrigued.
As you talk, move in towards them, allowing them to feel the heat from your body, the smell of your perfume and the warmth of your breath as you almost whisper to them provocatively.
As you talk, carefully watch their reactions. If they relax and sink into what you are saying, then you have the level of erotic v comfort just right. If they tense and try to flee or just lie stiffly and have a nervous look on their face, you have either pitched into talking dirty too strong or you haven't reassured your partner with the right amount of closeness and intimacy needed for introing something this radical and new into your daily life!
Warm them up - make them aware of just how electric you can be and you'll find the combination of your closeness and your suggestive talk will really get them straining at the bit to hold you.
I'd get started if I were you, it's well worth it!

Article Source : Pregnancy Week

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