When you've been married for a while and then have gotten a divorce, it can be easy to feel a little 'rusty' when it comes to the dating thing. When you want to meet someone that you really like, you may have to do a little flirting to get her to notice you! If the thought of this makes you get that 'clueless' look on your face - no fear! Here are some really great flirting tips for divorced men.
Flattery Will Get You Everywhere -
Women love compliments, but believe it or not - there is a technique to it! The first and most important thing you want to remember is to always be honest when you're giving compliments. Look for the things that stand out most about a woman - perhaps it's her eyes or her lips or maybe she is very intelligent - whatever it is, use that as your compliment. Never, ever be dishonest when you're giving a compliment because she will pick up on it right away. Women are perfectly aware of their flaws and positive traits - so beware!
Make Eye Contact and Listen When She's Talking -
Another very great tip for flirting is to make eye contact with a woman while she is talking to you. Don't look away and let your eyes wonder off. If she says something you find interesting, lean in a bit and keep eye focus. Also, ask follow-up questions so that she knows you're really interested in what she has to say. This is a great way to get her attention and make her feel special! Women love to know that when they are speaking, a guy is actually listening to her, so remember this one!
Avoid Pick-Up Lines -
'You're so hot I would drink your bath water.' Yuck! Whatever you do, avoid pick-up lines. They scream teenager or college boy and they are very unattractive for mature, confident women. If you want to approach a woman, simply walk up to her and say hello. One of the best pick-up lines on earth is a simple smile! Ask her if you can buy her a drink or if you can sit next to her. Mature women can pick up on flirting very easily and you might be surprised how many of them take the lead and you will not feel so uncomfortable!
Using these flirting tips for divorced men, you can meet some great women and have a fantastic time - without looking like a fool! Most of all, just be yourself and you will see how easy it is to get back into the 'flirting' state of mind. It's more than just memory - you've got instinct on your side, so don't worry too much!
If you can make a woman feel aroused by your touch, then she will see you as someone who makes her feel physically aroused and thus consider you as a potential lover. However, if you are too afraid to touch a woman in a flirting way, then she will often see you as "Just a friend".
The reality is that - as long as you have sparked attraction - a woman will appreciate your touch and won't see you as a sleazy pervert who just wants to 'feel her up' or 'get lucky.' Here are some tested examples to get you started.
Put Your Arm Around Her Waist: If a woman makes a joke or says something cool, be comfortable enough to put your arm around her waist and draw her closer to you while smiling/laughing.
Assume that the right amount of rapport and attraction is there to do this, even if you've only known her for a few seconds. Note: Don't overdo this move. A couple of times in an interaction is plenty.
Fondle Her Earrings or Necklace: In the midst of talking about something, be comfortable enough to reach straight up and fondle a woman's earrings while making a comment on how you like them.
Don't hesitate, don't get nervous and don't use apologetic body language when you do this. Do it as her father would do and make her feel like your little girl. Brush her hair back a little and make gentle contact with the side of her neck and ear.
You will be amazed at how women respond to this. When you do it, notice how a woman will automatically assume more submissive body language and behavior around you for a few moments.
Note: This whole process of fondling her earrings or necklace should only last a few seconds. Don't linger there too long, or she will pull away.
Give Her Chin a Little Squeeze and Gentle 'Shake': If a woman says something cute or submissive, look her in the eye, grin and gently grab her on the chin. Give it a little squeeze and shake like her father would have when she was a good girl.
Don't do this with the sweaty palms of your hands! Just use your thumb and the length of your pointer finger. Note: This should only be done when you have sparked strong attraction and have started to connect with her.
Play Slapsies: Play hand slaps (slapsies)! This is the game where one person holds out their hands with palms facing horizontally to the floor and beneath the other person's hands. The person on top then tries to slap your hands before you get them away.
It's a fun little game and it helps to build fun and positive tension.
Break-Up Hug and Kiss: When a woman says something silly or stupid, reply with something like, "Look, this relationship isn't going to work out. We're going to have to break up. I'm taking the house and the dog. Come here, give me a hug goodbye."
Be playful when you do something like this. It's fun, especially when you've only known each other for a few seconds/minutes. Get her to kiss you goodbye on the cheek by pointing your finger to your cheek and saying, "Here!"
Hug For a Random Reason: If a woman is complaining and playfully seeking pity, give her an "Awwww" hug. If a woman tells you it's her birthday, give her a birthday hug.
Push Her Away: If a woman says something silly or flirtatious, every once in a while you can playfully push her away with your hands. Shake your head, shrug your mouth and pretend as though you are ashamed of her.
Smell My New Aftershave: Point to your neck and say something like "Hey, smell my new aftershave. What do you think?"
When she has finished, ask, "So, do you wear nice perfume?" and then lean in and smell her neck without asking if you can.
Just brush her hair away from her neck and hold her in some way (arm around the waist, hand on bottom of back, etc).
So, there you have it. You've just read some highly-tested flirting tips for men, which focus around the subject of 'touch'. As I said early on in the article, be sure that you have attracted a woman before trying any of the techniques. If you haven't, you may be rejected.
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