Lets face it, when if comes to confidence no one is perfect. But it seems to me like one of the biggest factors in having high levels of self confidence comes from knowing exactly what you want out of life. I mean think about it, when you are not very sure about what you want, where you are going, or what kind of results you would like to achieve. That leads to a fair amount of uncertainty which can be a total killer of confidence. That is why certainty is the first key; it is because it is so important. Your action activity for this first key is to set some time aside and really focus on what you want out of life, where you want your life to go, and what kind of experiences you would like to have and make sure to be a detailed imaginative as you can. You will see your confidence level rise; because you will be completely aware of how you want to walk through life.
2. Fearlessness
Now when I speak of fearlessness I am not talking about having a total absence of fear. I am talk about your association to fear. Many of us live far below our potential; and it is not because they are not smart enough, or able, yet it is because they are just too afraid to try something new, ultimately they are afraid to fail. Yet the psychology of someone who has a great level of confidence does not see failure as something that is negative or to be feared. Ask your self this question right now. Am I willing to learn from my mistakes? True confidence comes from the ability to make mistakes, learn from them and use what you learned to take a better action next time. So go out and make some mistakes!
3. Awareness
Have you ever been looking for something and not been able to find it, and become upset and annoyed because you know this thing you are looking was "Right there!!" just two minutes ago? Just to have someone else point the thing out right in front of your nose? Well it can work the same with confidence, often times when we find our self in a state that is not confident we spiral further down into a negative mindset. Yet the whole time there is our confidence, our power, right next to us the whole time. So now it is time to become aware of the fact that we choose our thoughts and that confidence can be ours at any moment as long as we just make a strong decision to take a step back, take a deep breath, and reset our thoughts. Action step? Work on being aware of when your confidence starts to flounder, and ask your self some empowering questions like, How in this moment do I have power? Or what would it take for me to have more confidence right now?
4. Self Talk
The next key goes hand in hand with the one before it. Along with being aware of your confidence when it starts to slip, being aware of your own self talk. That is the way you communicate with your self. Sadly people tend to be very negative in how and what they think. They ask questions to themselves that require a negative answer. Like I always say your brain is like a machine, it has no bias what ever you put in is what you get out. So make a point of only asking questions or making statements that are positive. You will find your confidence going up because you constantly will be receiving information that makes you feel good, rather than information that makes you want to crawl under a rock. The homework for this one is to take complete ownership of your thoughts, remember you are the boss! If there are thoughts going on in your mind that do not support you, instantly make a statement that is the opposite. You will be amazed at the results!
5. Practice
In this day and age of instant Email, instant messages, I want it now, give it to me now. It can be difficult to have to have patience. We all want the results but no one wants to do the work. Often times it is the very thing that people do not want to do, the thing they wont do, that is exactly what the need to do. How many of us do not exercise? How many of us to not deepen our relationships when we know we should? My point is, there is not quick fix the only way you can have substantial results is to practice, practice, practice. Make a conscience and intentional effort every day to use these keys, and to commit to practicing if nothing else than for the sake of practice. This change in your belief and how you construct your thoughts will lead to a shift in your life that will knock you off your socks! Guaranteed!
Disclaimer: If you follow the 5 Keys to Unstoppable Confidence with passion and determination you may encounter the following side effects: Abnormal Joy, decreased stress, problems complaining, lack of nervousness, increased sex drive, feeling empowered upon arising from a sitting or lying position, racing heartbeat, manic intensity,
So, I already know the first thing you're thinking, "When will I find time to massage my child?" And, I will tell you that you need to find the time. Massage not only holds lifelong benefits for your child, but also for you. Babies and children who receive massage score higher on intelligence tests and are healthier in many ways as compared to other children.
Now, do you have to find an hour everyday to massage your child? No! You have probably felt the relaxation associated with even just a ten minute shoulder rub, imagine sharing this with your little one too.
Okay, so how do you get started? First, don't worry if you missed the ever popular Baby Massage period. It doesn't matter. You can start massaging your child at anytime, and the great thing, it's easy to do.
You might be saying, "My child isn't going to lay down and stay still for a massage." As children grow and become more active, you can easily keep up with their busy bodies and adapt the massage to continue with this nurturing touch.
Here are some easy steps so you can start using massage with your child right now:
Getting Ready:
* Relax! Take some deep breathes, turn off your cell phone and take your time. Be calm and flexible.
* Allow baby to move to different positions if she chooses to. You can massage whatever part of the body is in front of you, even if your little one tries to roll over, sit up or stand.
* Before you begin, talk in a calm voice and smile at her. This will help stimulate her senses and make her feel more comfortable. Permission is important. Always ask your child if they would like to receive a massage by making eye contact and verbally asking out loud, "Is it okay if I give you a massage?" Remember, don't take it personally if your child doesn't want to receive a massage. Respect their independence, right to say no to unwanted touch and ability to make choices.
* Keep baby warm and cover areas you will not be massaging. You can massage over clothing (without oil), or by placing your hands directly on your baby's skin. If you want to massage directly on the skin, I would recommend you use a little oil. The warmth of the skin to skin contact can be very helpful for relaxation, stimulation and constipation.
* Warm your hands by rubbing them together. This will help your baby to recognize this cue as "massage time".
Massage Time:
If your little one is laying down facing you,
* Start by placing your warmed hands around the top of baby's leg at the hip
* Cupping her leg, gently stroke downward towards her foot
* Do not put any pressure on baby's knee or ankle
* Then stroke the bottom of her foot and gently hug each little toe
* Next kiss her feet, babies love this!
* Repeat these strokes on the opposite leg.
The tummy should not be massaged right after eating. If baby has not recently eaten (within 30 minutes), go ahead and introduce your touch to her belly.
* Place your hands at her belly button and move them in a clockwise motion
* This movement can help ease the pains associated with gas, constipation and has been known to ease colic
Next, go ahead and move on to her arms.
* Repeat the same soothing strokes that we used on the legs
* While doing massage, continue to make eye contact and check in with her. If you like singing or telling stories, go for it. Whatever makes you both feel relaxed is perfect!
Continue massage only as long as you and baby are enjoying it. If she is still enjoying her massage, continue. If not, feel free to let her be the boss. Babies are experts at letting us know when they've had enough.
Now, move on to her back.
* Stroke her back, starting at the shoulders, over bum and down the legs, showing extra care not to put any pressure on her spine
* Continue stroking her back a few times
* End with a hug and kiss!
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