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[H1674]How To Talk People

by Ron Leblanc, Ron

I am convinced that there would be lots more people involved if they only knew that it wasn't that hard to do. One of the biggest fears most no-sales and marketing people have is talking to people, and specifically selling. Go ahead and admit it – you don't have the skills that car salesmen have – well that's excellent! That type of thing doesn't work well in other industries and even car salesmen are becoming a thing of the past as the internet brokers and eBay grow in popularity.

Most home based businesses have a system in place for you. I can assure you that when people start these companies they don't neglect to think long and hard about how to make doing their business easier for people who get started. They have you in mind.

Always look for a company that has lots of training on how to talk to people and minimizes the amount of presenting that you have to do. Some have it so you bring a more experienced person with you. Some have online presentations and some have live conference call presentations.

Let's assume that you really don't need to do the selling – it's done for you by the company leadership. You will have to bring people into that system, so you will have to talk to people! Those companies that rely on a completely “automated” system have a hard time getting people to give money to a website, hoping it's not in Russia or Turkey.

So how do you talk to people? You've probably heard the numbers before that only about 5% of how you communicate is by the words you use. The other 95% is split between body language and tone. If you are not meeting someone in person, then tone is even more critical!

A better way to say tone would be energy or vibe. Have you ever talked to someone who sounded like they just got out of bed or their dog just got run over? I don't talk with people like that for long because unless I find out there was some reason for their low energy, I just don't want to pursue it.

You have to be in the right vibe as well. Your best bet is to have a relaxed confidence. No matter what is going on in your life, you must never sound needy. When they say that they work until 3AM and you bend over backwards and offer to call them when they come home, why would they want to work with you?

Your best bet is that of relaxed confidence. You know what your goals are and you know where you're going. If they want to get on board fine – if they don't – hey, you'll find lots of others. Verbally wrapping your arms around their leg as they try and walk away would be the opposite.

Even if you have no real results yet, you should at least be excited about the opportunity that you have your hands on and transmit that to people you talk to. That kind of vibe is picked up by people you meet and will go much further at making you attractive to people than a desperate one.

We admire those who know how to talk to people, or have the innate ability to easily engage in a conversation even in an unfamiliar gathering. Others believe that some are born with the natural ability to talk to people or they have what they call the gift of the gab. However, the ability to talk or convey ideas whether in a small group or up on stage before a large audience is not an innate ability but an acquired skill. It can be learned, enhanced, and perfected. All you need are the right information and the determination to do it.

Were you disappointed before because you were not born with the gift? Then worry no more and start to learn the skill. To begin with, here are some helpful tips on how to talk to people.

1. Be presentable. You do not need to get the best couturier in town to have you packaged. All you have to do is to be dressed appropriately. It is one way of building your self-confidence and it will help you to act confidently.

2. Keep a pocket full of information. Be up to date with the current events, and keep a mental list of good topics of discussion. These are handy tools to keep you ready to talk to almost anybody.

3. Get yourself centered and focused. This is a basic if we want to establish connection with the person or people we are talking to. Develop the ability to shake off recent events that somehow ruined your day. Take a few minutes if you need to before engaging in any conversation.

4. Be respectful. Respect the feelings, emotions and opinions of others. Everyone has the right to their opinion and it is healthy to agree that we disagree. Let every one have their moment to be heard and sincerely listen to them. That way it would give them a sense of importance.

5. Maintain eye contact. It is one way of showing interest in the person we are talking to. Women, they say, maintain eye contact more than men but men could acquire the skill through practice. Movements or stray thoughts tend to sidetract a person. Be aware of them and learn to ignore them.

6. Listen. Listening is a serious business. It is easy to talk and talk but we defeat the purpose and lose the chance of establishing rapport. There are
situations that are more important where active listening is imperative. You will not miss the cue for your turn if you listen attentively.

7. Establish rapport. It is not an easy thing but sincerity is the key that unlocks the door in establishing rapport. Synchronizing behavior or mimicking the pose, facial expression, gestures, body language, and tone of voice of the other person are ways of building rapport.

8. Adopt a positive attitude. Make sure your words, tone and gestures are all saying the same thing. Find out what you have in common, or if you seem to have nothing in common, adjust. Try to become the other person for a short time.

9. Always ask an open ended question. This will help the continuous flow of conversation and will help you and the group to keep the encounter alive and flowing with information.

Discovering how to connect with others and employing these strategies will make one successful in talking to people. Talk means to express, exchange ideas by means of spoken words or to convey information or communicate in any way. Take these simple steps and you are sure to make the act of talking to people fascinating and memorable for all. One day someone may come up to you and ask where you learned how to talk to people.

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