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[H1293]How To Interpret Body Language

by Wyatt Lee, Wya

But do you really know how to interpret this kind of non-verbal medium? In this dating tip guide, I will show you how to read these signals which your date will be displaying, so that you are always one step ahead in this non-verbal aspect of the dating game.

Eye Contact

This is one of the easiest aspect of body language. Let's say that you are now sitting with your date at a Starbucks caf? sipping mocha. Now, notice the way she look at you, when the both of you are conversing with each other. She may be sipping the mocha, but if her attentions are not on that cup of drink, then her eyes will be fixed on you.

This is a sure-fire hint that she feels comfortable and interested in you. She would want to constantly get involved in the interaction by making good eye contact with you. In this way, she is also indirectly signaling to you that she is honest and sincere about you.

On the other hand, if your date is more interested in her cup of mocha, or that kid with the balloon, or that hunk with the suave and cool look, or anything else around her except you, then there is only one conclusion : she is not interested in you. She will not want to make proper eye contact with you, because that will make her really uncomfortable.

In the end, you just hope that your date is the shy type. And you continue to hope, but the situation is close to hopeless. If this is your first date, then you are sure as hell that it is going to be your last.

The pre-occupied mind

If you happen to go out on a date who always seem to have a pre-occupied mind, then you will know straight away. She keeps adjusting her body while she is sitting as if there are ants beneath her feet. She keeps looking at her watch to check if it has run out of battery. There she is, sitting right in front of you, but you know that her mind is just not with you ? it is definitely drifting somewhere else. She may not offer a satisfactory explanation. But since you are not interesting her, she don't see a need to.

This kind of behavior is a clear indication of a lack of interest, or a mind fully pre-occupied with that sexy male American Idol. Someone, or somewhere else, is on her mind. But definitely not you.

Silence is a deafening word

Yes, silence is deafening, because it can speak a thousand words. You may have a lot to say about your date. You will tell her that she is so demure and cute, she is as sweet as candy, or as hot as chilli padi. But she is not listening. She has very little to say about you. Whenever you are talking, she just kept silent. It is as if you are talking to the wall. Perhaps she thinks that you will not appreciate hearing what she is thinking? But the fact is, she is just not very interested in you.

You can try to console yourself that maybe she is not in a good mood. Maybe her dog accidentally peed on her shoes just before she left home to meet you. Maybe you can console yourself for the fact that it is time to move on to look for someone who will appreciate you more.

However, it is a different story altogether if she constantly keeps up with you in joining in the conversation. Very often, she will nod her head in appreciation. She will agree with and believe in anything you say. Even if you tell her that you are going to fly her to Mars tomorrow, she will believe that too. She will laugh heartily at your jokes, even if they are the most lame in the world. She will start to ask more private questions about you, like your sleeping habits, or how often do you shave. These are clear indications that you are halfway there.

Tensed-up body posture

You may not realize what you do when you are tensed-up. But then again, the situation is so uncomfortable, your mind may just go blank. These are the possible things that you would do : You keep adjusting your shirt. You keep looking down on your shoes, but you had just polished it yesterday. You fold your arms so tightly across your chest that you have breathing difficulties. You turn away from the person you are facing, because this person is causing you so much distress. If your date shows any or all of the traits above, then you can start to think about that lonely journey back home.

End of part 1.

Hence, you would tend to think that with their knack in lip fluttering, they would find the other mediums of communication completely useless.

However, man's fine female friends are a “bilingual” to a certain extent, and she is as articulate in body language as she is in the words on paper.

Therefore, when it comes to feelings and relationships, women would use other forms to convey their message. They would use such tools to convey their message without going into trouble. They would literally try to do it on their own little way.

According to some experts, the only problem is that even if women have their own set of language, it is still hard for the amateurs to decode the body language. In fact, body languages are only seen clearly in about 1 out of 1,000 contacts with men.

Hence, the only way to succeed in analyzing if the woman really likes you is to decode the body language that they may have been projecting but were taken for granted because you do not understand its meaning.

So to make certain you do not make a hash of translation, here is a list of definitions that would identify the most common moves that would literally tell you that she is interested in you an dhow to react on the actions.

Self-stroking

You are talking to a chick at a bar, and you notice her slowly running her hand up and down her forearm. It is a rash! It is a twitch!

No! It is a tactile woman!

She loves the feel of things on her hand, and most probably the rest of her body. A simple movement like that speaks pages. It is like telling you, “Look at my hand, pretend it is yours.”

What to do: “Look but do not touch” does not apply here. Give her a few strokes but keep your hands on neutral territory.

A touch on the shoulder, a tap on the top of her hand would be enough. If she is telling you what you hope she is telling you, she will easily focus her tactile fixation on you.

The Hair-Behind-Ear Tuck

Most women have this technique down pat. It may be an affection of the typical and much sought-after demure lady.

For the most part, it shows that your girl is a preneer. She likes to have every strand of hair to be in place; and a single one of them is out of line. That is the ear tuck power.

What to do: Pay her a compliment. Any compliment will do, but a “I like your hair like that” may just be the ticket that she has been waiting from you.

Of course, you have heard that flattery would not get you anywhere, but it will be a good start. Do not start off with it, though, because it is just a damn lame line. But throw it into a crucial part of the conversation, and hopefully, she will soon be doing her preening for you.

Puppy Dog Eyes

Awww! She is so cute. Those big doe eyes are practically begging for assistance. She needs your help and you must willingly give it.

Gotcha!

Although this tactic is used mostly for flat tires and bus seats, it works quite well in the flirting and pick-up scene as well.

What to do: When the puppy dog's eyes come on, jump into action. Snap your fingers and order a drink for her. Offer her a chair. Do not overdo it though, because women are totally capable of themselves, and the only reason why she appears like a damsel in distress is the fact that she likes you and she is interested to know you better.

The Laugh and Touch Combo

At an appropriate time in the conversation, you whip out your favorite gay bar joke to seal the deal with your date. She laughs unabashedly, leans towards you, and plants an unassuming hand on your thigh, arm, or shoulder.

So she thinks you are funny, right? Wrong. The upside down, though, is that she is into you, downright interested in you, despite the lame-ass joke. This is her way of showing you that she is easy to get along with and open to possibilities that involve you.

What to do: Talk about things that border on the intimate, but end with a self-deprecating joke. This will keep you from going too heavy but at the same time, it sends out the signal that you like her too and that you are comfortable with her.

The bottom line is that men should not be more focused on decoding the body language alone. Trigger the quest by providing appropriate responses in return. That would surely end you both in such an exciting world of “getting-to-know-you-better” stage.

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