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How many of you have actually TOLD women this? How many of you have had a woman cry on your shoulder because her boyfriend is being a jerk, and you tell her you'll treat her like a queen, but she always leaves you and goes right back to her jerk boyfriend.
I'll tell you why.
Nice guys are boring.
That's why women are with jerks. Nice guys are too boring and predictable. Women love the sense of danger and excitement. Why do you think women go crazy over James Bond? He is a dangerous and mysterious guy.
Don't worry though, this happens to men more then you think.
I don't have the intentions of changing your personality. You can be a nice guy and still be a jerk at the same time. Now you're asking yourself, how is that possible? Look at the qualities of jerks. They attract women because they are usually spontaneous, they don't let the women walk over them, they are assertive, and they take the role as the alpha male.
A nice guy though will usually give the woman whatever she wants, even to the point of letting the woman walk all over him. The fact of the matter is: nice guys are boring and mundane! Women don't want to sit on their ass and watch T.V. with their ‘loved' ones all day. They want to be out and about, living an exciting/glamorous life. Nice guys cannot deliver this.
When seducing a woman, most nice guys will be very gentle. This is great and all, but most women want you to take charge and actually ACT like a man. If they wanted someone to be gentle with they'd call one of their girlfriends. Here are some quick tips for learning how to act more like a jerk without actually being one:
- Don't be afraid to tell a woman no. This shows that you are assertive and stern.
- Don't be afraid to act like a man. Women love sex just as much as we do, so if you act sexually interested and make her aware of it without harassing her, this increase your chances of successfully seducing and attracting her.
- Be spontaneous. Nice guys want to be romantic all day everyday. This might be good at first, but this gets boring FAST for women. Women love excitement and drama, so give it to them.
- Don't EVER get hung up on one girl. This is sometimes called pedastaling. This means that you are head over heels about one girl and one girl only. This is fine if the feeling is mutual. However, if the feeling is not mutual do NOT get hung up on a woman. You will end up scaring her away, I promise.
- Always keep other women in your arsenal. Don't be afraid to live life and play the field. Women love drama. They are also VERY competitive. So if they know you are not dating them exclusively, is it their natural instincts to try harder!
If you follow these tips, I guarantee an increase in your success rate with women almost instantly! Just remember, you do NOT have to be a jerk to act like one.
If you are looking to find a date or perhaps have not been as successful as you would like with your previous dates then perhaps it is time that you sought some advice. Looking for the right woman can be a difficult and moral sapping experience for some men but this can easily change if you follow the correct advice. This article aims to provide some tips on how to approach women, how to deal with the first date and how to behave generally.
The first thing to say about dating women is that it is important to not to get too hung up about meeting them. Quite often the more that you want something, the less likely it is that you will get it. Try to see women as friends and firstly get to know them because you have similar interests or hobbies.
When you decide that you want to approach a woman and ask for a date the first thing that you need to remember is to be yourself. I know this sounds a little corny but there is no use in pretending to like something that she likes or exaggerating past achievements. This is simply a disaster waiting to happen because at some point she will realize that you have not been entirely honest with her.
The best approach is one that is truthful and honest. Display confidence about who you are and what it is that you like talking about. At the end of the day, if she does not share your interests then the relationship is never going to get past first base.
Once you have successfully approached a girl and hopefully she has said yes then we need to think about how to make the right impression on a first date. The first thing to say is that by saying yes to the date the girl is demonstrating her interest in you. So whether it's your personality, your looks or your sense of humor, there is something there that says I would like to get to know you better.
For you this is a great confidence booster and as such you can approach the date knowing that you do not have to overdo it. This is important. During the date you should just be yourself and try not to be over confident or cocky. Make sure that you listen to what she has to say and also show an interest in her.
Your general behavior is also very important. She will already think that you are on your best behavior during the first date and so will be looking to see how you behave once the relationship moves in to the next stage. In this situation, there are a couple of things that you should never do.
Firstly do not be too clingy or possessive over her. No woman will be attracted to a guy who displays these personality traits. It is important to be independent of your date and show that you are more than comfortable with the fact that she has other people who are just as important to her in life besides you.
Secondly, you need to ensure that you are not too predictable. A woman may find you attractive or funny initially but if you are still using the same jokes or taking her to the same restaurant every week then her attention may start to wander.