It is said by many dating gurus that being a cocky and funny male attracts women. These are known as alpha males. It is a known fact that both men and women are attracted to leadership. No one really likes a follower that can't think for themselves. So how can being an alpha male benefit your dating life? Well, you will have to balance out your leadership. By being the strongly guided male with a strong set direction, you must also have a side to you that listens to the other person and connecting with them. Boasting about yourself and being comedic will only get you but so far. If you take time to listen to the girl, you will be able to figure out what she is about and how you can move on that.
The combo of being the cocky/funny guy who listens will earn you major points with the ladies. This shows them that you are confident, yet easy going. Power attracts women, it is a known fact. Another option you will need to make is whether you want to be the nice guy or the jerk. By being too much of one of the above combos can leave you on either side. By being cocky and somewhat mean, you will be portrayed as the jerk and if you are quieter and listen often, you will be known as the nice guy. There is a problem with both scenarios.
Being the nice guy can be a problem because while listening to the woman's problems, you may get caught up in the woman's emotions. When she is angry, you will be so as well and if she is sad, it will rub off on you. When she shows anxiety about becoming sexually involved with you, you will become anxious as well. This can make your romance with her a complete bust.
Now, by being the jerk, you will be the headstrong guy that steps all over any and everybody to get where you're trying to go, no matter who you hurt in the process; even the woman you're trying to court. For a jerk to win others have to lose and no one wants to be a part of that option.
It is important that you remain confident and strong about your decisions, but you must also take heart to what others are feeling and what they have to say. This will make you the ultimate guy to be around. You will be admired and desired by the lady you are dating or trying to date. By listening to the women you are trying to attract, you will earn points for being a nice guy and by staying strong and confident throughout the conversation will boost you up there with the jerk category, but they simply cancel each other out; making you the alpha male. Being a little of both is the way to go. You can be the joker and cocky guy, but you need to know when the joking stops and when the substance begins.
You should also be open-minded at trying new things. Guys that aren't afraid of taking risks attract even the hottest of women. This also goes for taking risks with women. Put yourself out there and women will surely scoop you up.
Female attraction to the alpha male is as embedded in they psychology as our attraction to women with a pretty face or large breasts.
So, what exactly is an alpha male and how do you become one? Well, the first step toward learning how to be an alpha male is to learn how to describe one. They have what is called the "alpha male personality" consisting of the following characteristics fundamental to all alpha men.
* Confident at all times and in all situations, regardless of what happens
* Knows he is desired, but does not need to prove it to those around him
* Is viewed as an "authority" in all situations
* Takes initiative and leads people
* Provides exciting, interesting experiences for women
Now that you know the fundamental characteristics, you can focus on becoming an alpha male yourself. The most important thing to remember is that you will learn how to display the alpha male body language everywhere you go and in all situations. I describe five steps below to help you demonstrate the alpha male personality traits with your mannerisms, movement and general body language.
Step 1: Say Goodbye to "Beta Male"
Before you can become an alpha male, you need to let go of your beta male characteristics. Certain body language traits can make you appear to have inferior status, a definite turn-off to women. For example, you need to consciously stop the following things:
* Folding your arms * Looking uncomfortable * Slumping your shoulders * Placing your hands in your pockets * Fidgeting * Afraid to take up space
Once you detect which habits you tend to do, you can begin to correct them. By avoiding the mannerisms above, you are already showing more of the alpha male personality.
Step 2: Be confident at all times
Women love confidence! There is not way around this truth. The alpha male displays confidence in all situations and does so by his body language. This easily impresses women.
If you really want to show the alpha male personality, you must learn to be calm, cool and collected at all times. Remain poised and confident in all situations, regardless of what happens.
If you are a guy who really isn't that confident of himself, I highly recommend you do something to change this. Women will see right through you if you do not believe in yourself first. Take a deeper look within yourself, identify the root of those unconfident feelings and work hard to fix them.
Step 3: Don't worry about the outcome
Men portraying the beta male characteristics often display nervousness, especially when they are interacting with a woman. One reason is that they are too focused on the outcome of the conversation. On the contrary, the alpha male is not focused on whether or not he will "screw up" but rather removes all such thoughts and just focuses on enjoying the conversation.
Remember, it is not a life or death situation. Learn to sit back, relax and enjoy talking to an interesting woman for the pure sake of conversation.
She will see on your appearance what your mind is thinking. By letting nerves take over and worrying about whether she is attracted to you, you will unknowingly display an inferior body language. Go ahead and eliminate this anxiety, enjoy the conversation and introduce her to your alpha male personality instead!
Step 4: Relax
As you may have gathered in step three above, the alpha male is not only confident in all situations but simultaneously portrays a relaxed attitude in every situation. It is important that you learn to display a comfortable attitude, especially around women.
You can accomplish this several ways. First, ensure that your eyes are concentrated on whomever it is you are conversing with. If you are engaged in conversation with an interesting woman, be sure your eyes are focused in on her. Do not let your eyes dart around the room as you talk.
Second, learn how to learn back naturally and look comfortable. Third, be sure you do not breathe through your chest. Rather, learn how to breathe through your stomach. This can help keep you relaxed throughout the conversation.
There is no easy way around this step, though. To gain the benefits of the alpha male, you must learn to relax. When you are relaxed, women will be more comfortable around you which is an important first step in building attraction.
Step 5: Move with deliberate action
You could be making a serious mistake without knowing it. By always being ready to please those around you, you are displaying the beta male personality. To women, this portrays an inferior status behavior and does nothing to build attraction. Actually, one of the fundamental characteristics of a beta male is someone who is always ready to help and do favors for anyone who asks.
As kind-hearted as this appears, it is not a positive trait for the alpha male. Now, do not get me wrong. Taking on the alpha male personality does not require you to become an arrogant jerk. You must avoid portraying an inferior status by moving at your pace and a bit slower. By taking deliberate actions with each step, people will pay attention to your schedule, have more respect and not demand you follow theirs.
Simply put, you must learn how to become an alpha male if you want to become unbelievably attractive to women. Learning how to demonstrate the traits above, you can enjoy the alpha male personality and the many benefits of this magnetic personality. Soon, you will find that you have to put little effort into meeting, attracting and seducing women!