You see a beautiful woman that you want to meet and date right? The first question you want to ask me is "so...what do I say to her?". Ahh, a nickel for every time somebody asked me that :)
Okay...How do you make sure you say the right things? What are the best lines you can use?
The golden rule of flirting is NOT to use mainstream pick up lines. Yeah, you heard me right the first time. Don't ever let me catch you using some cheap line you picked up from a forwarded email, a magazine or a website.
They don't work.
Everyone knows what they sound like and they are very, very lame! You know, chat up lines like "hey, can I have your number, I seem to have lost mine" or "wow I didn't know angels were flying so low these days".
You see, women don't like those lines because they make you look cheap. If you use a fabricated pick up line from a magazine for instance, then you will not make her feel that magical gut level emotion called attraction.
Attraction can be TRIGGERED in any woman if you know how...and let me tell you it is NOT by using lame chat up lines.
It is possible to make a woman feel attracted to you if you know the structure behind it, and every single pick up line out there doesn't do that. That's why women think they are boring and cheap.
If you want to be able to flirt with women, then you will have to create YOUR OWN pickup lines. But it's not the line itself that makes a woman attracted to you, it's the structure behind it.
So here's the deal.
If you said to a woman "Was your daddy a thief? Because I think he stole diamonds and put them in your eyes" ... it just sounds very needy, desperate and wimpy. A woman will NEVER flirt back or get attracted to you that way.
But if you understand the secrets of attracting women, all sorts of new doors open up for you. Here's what you should have said:
"So ... why do women like shiny and sparkly things so much? Oh I know, because they put them in pink cereal boxes when you were little"
Or
"How many hours you go shopping a week? I think you're a little shopping addict that loved to borrow credit cards. You are sooo bad you know that? I think we're gonna get along just great"
If you want to flirt with women and get them attracted to you, be CHEEKY!
To be honest, I can tell you from my own experience that there is NOTHING more powerful than being a cocky but cheeky lil' bastard when you want to attract women. They will tell you that you are mean, bad, have a big ego and hit you on the arm.
But guess what? They LOVE it!
So make sure you keep doing THAT from now on.
Do you have a favorite woman, yet despite all your romantic efforts, you remain just friends?
Well, there is a reason that happened!
More than likely you did know how to flirt with her properly.
You should know that flirting is essential in the attraction process. If you do not do it at all or do it wrong, you may blow your chances with a woman.
What is the importance of flirting?
This is simple flirting creates sexual tension.
When there is no sexual tension within your interactions, there will be no attraction. When you do not have attraction, this places you in a different category.
You guessed it - A FRIEND!
Your attraction enhances when you know how to flirt with women properly.
And the secret is - flirting isn't really as hard as many people think. In fact, it can be a lot of fun. The only time flirting doesn't work is when it's done WRONG.
The art of flirting with women is all about communicating your romantic interest in the woman rather than just letting the cat out of the bag.
Mixed signals are what this is.
Your words communicate something different than your actions are communicating.
Some of the most common mistakes men make while flirting with a woman include:
MISTAKE #1: They Are Way Too Obvious
Many men are caught up in the excitement of being attracted to a woman, and then they say exactly what they feel. They do not realize that this type of information presentation forces the woman to decide how she may feel about him.
Keep in mind, by not laying the groundwork properly beforehand, you risk the chance of finding rejection from the woman.
MISTAKE #2: They Are Not Obvious Enough!
There are men who communicate no interest at all, since they assume the woman knows how they feel. This catches a woman by surprise because she has not clue of his interest.
MISTAKE #3: They Rely On Words Instead Of Actions
A great deal of flirting has to do with what you say, but the more powerful techniques are NON-VERBAL body language stuff. Little things like an eyebrow raise, a head tilt, or a wicked smile can give new meaning to an otherwise benign remark.
MISTAKE #4: They Take Things Too Seriously
Flirting is fun and light when done properly. When men begin adding serious romantic gestures with flirting, the sexual tension begins to break down.
If you're not having fun when flirting - and more importantly, if the girl isn't having fun - then you are doing something WRONG.
Although, there are other mistakes, these few should give you some ideas. Would you like to learn the proper way to begin flirting?
Use as much innuendo as you can while you are flirting, however the secret is in keeping it subtle.
Here is an example, if you are in a bar and the woman with you orders a drink and then asks if you want something, you can jokingly say, You are not trying to get me intoxicated so you can take advantage of me, are you? Say all this of course, with a wink and a nod.
Flirting communicates your attraction, although you never come right out and say it. Flirting is a lighthearted fun form of insinuation.
On the other hand, when a woman says something temptingly naughty to you, you might say to her, Stop trying to seduce me, you minx! You know I don't do that on the first date.
See how that works?
Then, as you begin to flirt more and more, you can start getting a little more obvious about your interests, while never really crossing that line.
As you do this, you'll begin to notice how the attraction between you and the girl starts to build and build. And before you know it, that harmless flirting becomes an outright SEDUCTION.
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