Lots of websites specialize in helping you find an "old" existing Friend. These sites are called "classmates", "reunions", "public records" or names along the lines of trying to find acquaintances from way back, from school, the Service or previous jobs.
Do we want to find "people"? We can use "publicbackgroundcheck", "usa-people-search", "peoplefinders" types of sites for finding people.
If, however, we are looking for love and are calling it friendship initially then things get really complicated. For the word "friendship" the Web comes up with 46,100,000 replies.
So we should be more specific about what exactly the "friend" word means.
"a person you know well and regard with affection and trust;", "he was my best friend at the university" ally: an associate who provides assistance; "he's a good ally in fight"; "they were friends of the workers" acquaintance: a person with whom you are acquainted; "I have trouble remembering the names of all my acquaintances"; "we are friends of the family" supporter: a person who backs a politician or a team etc.; "all their supporters came out for the game"; "they are friends of the library" a member of the Religious Society of Friends founded by George Fox (the Friends have never called themselves Quakers) " wordnet.princeton.edu/perl/webwn.
We can now of course rank friends: good friends, intimate friends, family friends ad infinitum. When we then continue to talk about "friends" and "friendship" we soon start approaching the decision we have to make; do we just want to be penpals or do we want to meet face to face at some point in time.
This brings us to the dangerous word: DATING. Yes, we have now convinced ourselves that we want to date somebody. Just on the Web or for real?
We can now play games based on the fact that most people trying to find dates on the Web are married. Does that surprise you?
Given the anonymity of the Web it is very likely that if I am fat and ugly I don't want to emphasize this fact when I try to attract a date, so temptation is very great to embellish things a bit and to say in my description that I am "Voluptuous" and "Attractive".
Who knows, in all likelihood I will never meet this person anyway and this is only fantasy. Guess what?
I now start corresponding in earnest on the Web with this person I know nothing about. I tell this person all my deepest secrets, except the fact that I am ugly and fat.
After doing this for a while my "Date" says that we should meet in person, because it seems we are really compatible. YEEKS! What now?
Well, you brought this on yourself and you have these options: 1. Go on a crash diet and get a face lift. 2. Forget about this person and try again with a new date. 3. Hope your Date is fat and ugly too so you should take a chance and meet anyway. (This takes a lot of courage). 4. Hope your Date is pretty or attractive and VERY understanding and will accept you the way you are. (Fat chance).
So, anyway, there you have it, some of the possibilities you have when you want a Friend.
One thing you should pick up from this : you are probably better off if you are honest to your future friend or date; it may prevent depression, bouts of overeating and Internet Withdrawal Symptoms.
It's probably the dream fantasy for ALL guys... You have an attractive woman in your life whose only there for sex. When you get bored, you can make ONE phone call and a willing partner will show up at your doorstep. The best part is the sex comes with 'no strings attached'. You can get it without being in a relationship or showing any level of commitment.
Sound like a dream come true? Well like I said, lots of guys fantasize about finding a woman like this, but they have no clue about how to locate her.
Whether it's called 'friends with benefits' or a 'booty call', there will be times in your life when you want a woman for just ONE thing. Now there are a LOT of positives of being in a committed relationship. But sometimes there will be moments when you want a woman who is there just for sex.
The question is: How can I find a 'friend with benefits'?
Well in this article, I'll reveal my simple plan for locating a woman like this. If you follow this five step system, you'll increase your chances of locating this type of woman.
Step 1- Find a suitable woman
You might think that only 'promiscuous' girls have casual sex. The truth is MOST women go through phases in their lives when they're not looking for a boyfriend. During this period all they want to do is have FUN.
Your goal is simple. When you're out meeting women, look for the ones who openly talk about devoting time to their careers or how they're not looking for boyfriends. Obviously the girls who are NOT looking for a relationship will make a great 'friend with benefits'.
Step 2- Openly discuss sex
If you're looking for a temporary thing, you want to focus on the girls who show an indication that they don't want a commitment. When you're talking to them, you want to display an open sexuality about your personality.
This means engaging women in conversations which concentrate on sexual topics and playfully bantering with them. However you want to avoid being perceived as a 'creep'. So when I say sexual, I don't mean you should make 'perverted' comments about her. Instead simply bring up the topic in a non-specific manner.
Step 3- Build attraction
No woman will jump in the sack with you unless she finds you attractive. So when you discuss sex, make sure you're talking to her in a flirtatious manner which she'll find attractive.
The only way this plan will work is if she is attracted to you. As a result, it's important that you know how to create that spark of chemistry. So don't act like her buddy, instead behave like a guy who can trigger her emotional and sexual desire.
Step 4- Set boundaries
When a woman meets a guy for the fist time, she'll place him in two categories: Boyfriend or Not-Boyfriend material.
You probably think being placed in the boyfriend category is a good thing. However this is not the case. Women typically hold off on having sex with guys they consider 'boyfriend material'.
Your goal is to be perceived as a fun guy, but NOT a guy she'd want as a boyfriend. This will easily increase your chances of having a sexual relationship with her.
The important thing is always emphasize your sexuality, but never act like a boyfriend. One way to do this is SPECIFALLY mention that you're not looking for a girlfriend.
By acting in this manner, you'll set a clear boundary that indicates the nature of your relationship. You're basically telling this woman that you enjoy her company, but you're both free to pursue OTHER relationships.
Step 5- Keep it Casual
If everything goes right, you'll develop a pattern where you're steadily having sex with a woman. While this is great thing for many guys, there are a few pitfalls which can complicate your life.
In order to have a stress-free 'friend with benefits' relationship you should make sure that you NEVER develop a girlfriend/boyfriend dynamic. So here are a few simple rules for keeping things casual:
* Reinforce your boundaries while treating her with RESPECT
* Understand that she's probably dating other men
* Only 'hang out' once or twice a week
* Don't demonstrate classic 'courting' signals
* Never hurt her feelings by flaunting other relationships in your life
* Make it worth her time by being an exciting AND interesting guy
A 'friend with benefits' can be a fun experience. If you know how to find her and create the right kind of dynamic, then you'll have 'no strings attached' sex.
Simply follow the five step plan I discussed in this article, and you'll discover it's actually quite easy to discover a woman like this!
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