Well, if you are really serious about getting your ex girlfriend back, and believe that getting back together is the best thing for both of you, then you shouldn't give up so easily. The fact is there are probably many couples in this world who may be trapped in an even worse situation than you. Yet, some of them still manage to salvage their relationship.
What you must understand is that getting back with your ex girlfriend require patience on your part. Certain things should never be rush. We all know that it takes around 10 months for a child to be born. Rushing the process would be destructive.
This is also the same for your relationship. If you try too many things too fast, they will only backfire on you and make your situation worse.
Perhaps I will just give you one example to illustrate.
You keep on calling her over and over again. You keep on sending her text messages again and again. So, what is going to happen here? Instead of getting your ex girlfriend back, you will only push her further and further away.
A better way to do it is this. Call her once and see if she answers your call. If not, wait a few more days before you call her again. This will make it more likely for her to call you back. The important point here is that you do not want her to think that you are desperate.
Once she has this perception, you will instantly lose your attractiveness and make it much harder for you to get your ex girlfriend back.
I hope you learn something from the example mentioned above. This does not only apply to phone call and text messages. The point I am trying to bring across to you is that you must not do anything that shows signs of panic. You must act as though you are calm and cool and that it is alright even if your girlfriend does not want to get back to you.
The more calm and cool you are, the higher the probability of getting your ex girlfriend back.
Are you trying very hard to get back with your ex girlfriend? Perhaps, you are at a loss on how to stop your break up and think the harder the more persistent you are, the higher your chances of success of getting your ex girlfriend back. So, you do things like calling her repeatedly, text messaging her until her cell phone is flooded, keep on saying you love her etc.
Unfortunately, while persistence will help you in other areas of your life, it wont necessary pay off in this situation. Perhaps, you can say being persistent without the correct strategy wont get you anywhere near your goals. In fact, the harder you try, the worse your situation can get.
Why is that so?
Perhaps, understanding this principle will start to shed some light in your relationship. The principle is this, People want what they do not have. Maybe, you might have heard of his principle before.
In other words, if people cannot have something or cannot have something easily, their desire for it will be very strong. Sometimes, they will even be willing to do whatever it takes to get it even though it may not be the most rational thing to do.
Similarly, if people can easily have something, then his/her desire for it will no longer be that strong. He/she will usually start to chase after other things that they do not currently have.
Perhaps, one very common example is in the area of money. Of course, this principle doesnt only apply to the area of money. It also applies to other areas of life, including your relationship.
If you keep on trying to get in touch with your ex girlfriend, you will be perceived as someone who is needy. This indirectly means she can get you easily. Since she can get you easily, obviously, her desire t get back with you wont be very high.
It is just like trying to push yourself towards her. Imagine you are in this situation. Someone tries very hard to push something to you. Will you feel like running away? I am sure you would.
So, what you want to do instead is to appear calm and collected about the break up. Even though it may be hard for you to act way, you definitely do not want to act like you really need her. By not trying to hard, you are more likely to get your ex back.
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