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[H746]How Do I Get Child Support

by Ben Sidman, Ben

The type of questions that parents ask themselves:

• Why does my child need to be diagnosed?
• How is an autism diagnosis going to affect my child in the future?
• Am I labelling my child?
• What will happen after I get my child diagnosed?
• Can the diagnosis be removed?

The route for a diagnosis starts when parents believe their children may have a social problem. The likelihood is that they will look up a set of symptoms from a doctor or from the internet and try and match the child with the different types of behavior. Once the parents are fairly sure that their child fits a certain condition, they then look for some confirmation. This is where the difficulties start, because there are very few ways to get any definite assessment without actually diagnosing the child.

If you do have an assessment done which says that your child does have a social disorder, then you are faced with the question, do you get a formal diagnosis? The way parents have their children diagnosed is typically done by a specialist or group of specialists that assess them against a set of behaviors and abilities. If the child fits a certain number of behaviors or abilities then they can be formally diagnosed as having a social disorder or syndrome.

Here are some benefits and disadvantages:

Benefits

• Once you have a diagnosis you can move on and stop guessing
• Helps parents to know how to deal with the condition
• Helps Specialists and teachers to deal with the child in the correct way

Disadvantages

• Possible label they will have forever?
• Can be used as an excuse for blaming the child (e.g. at school or with siblings)
• Is it necessary? Especially when dealing with high functioning autism
• The diagnosis is subjective and may not be accurate

Getting a diagnosis is very much a decision for the parents and should be considered in detail if the child seems to be a borderline case. The best thing to do is to face realities about your child and whether they really need help. If they do then you could be making an important step forward in getting your child diagnosed because a diagnosis will probably lead to a clear plan of development. On the other hand you must not let a diagnosis be in vain.

Give it time and avoid making hasty decisions. If you feel a sense of time running out then you probably need a diagnosis to help you move on. You must also be open minded, don't make decisions based on emotion but remain factual and clinical about it. If you can do these things then you will be making the right decision.

While we still have fundraisers, the methods of fundraising have changed. Going door to door is quickly becoming outdated and the focus for methods has shifted drastically.

As a parent, you might find yourself still working in fundraisers. It's a fine line between making it your job and instilling the values of fundraising to children. While parents do need to be more involved in the process, there are still ways you can teach your child the importance of fundraisers.

Who's Doing The Selling?

Don't fall into the trap of doing all the selling for your child. Sure, it's great to solicit friends, family and co-workers, but you have to draw the line. The whole idea behind the child participating in the fundraiser is for him or her to achieve a sense of pride from a job well done. Children have to learn that not everyone will say ?yes?. Keep your child motivated, let them pitch the sales and teach them how to gracefully deal with rejection.

Competition

While fundraising does entail a good amount of competition, your child shouldn't be made to feel any less than the child who had higher sales because a parent had more contacts at the office. The child has to learn that every little bit counts towards the greater good. Their contribution and hard work is important even if they don't have the biggest numbers of sales.

Who To Sell To

Before your child embarks on her mission, take some time to discuss who to sell to. This can be difficult, considering so many children in the same neighborhood most likely knock on the same doors. The child should know that when someone says no, this person shouldn't be bothered repeatedly for future fundraisers until the person gives in and buys something. Sit down and make a list of people to visit. Keep the list so that the next time a fundraiser comes around, you can avoid asking those people to contribute again. If you have several fundraisers a year, it can get expensive for people to contribute to each one. Come up with several lists and rotate them through each fundraising event.

The Sales Pitch

Speaking to strangers (even if they're friends of the family) isn't easy for many children. Take some time with your child to practice his or her sales pitch. Do a few rounds of pretend sales before going out and fundraising for real. One site suggests that parents scope out potential customers by asking if they might be interested in seeing what products their child has to offer. If the potential customer is open, go ahead and let your child follow up.

Keep in mind that you should never allow your child to go door-to-door alone, unless you know the people well. Do allow your child to do all the talking when trying to pitch a sale. After all, even if your child doesn't sell a thing, it's the effort that counts.

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