Sounds hard to believe but there ARE words that will nearly cast a spell and make your ex feel almost compelled to return your call.
Cool huh?...
I am going to share this with you because this is one of the most common problem from people from people who are trying to put their relationship back together.
** First, a Warning....
If you use this technique alone, without an 'overall' plan or strategy...you may damage your relationship more than if they never returned your call.
So be sure you have an overall strategy, like the one mentioned about below.
** Here's What Not to Say!
Before we get into the actual words, let's go over what message almost Never works.
And worse...
Puts you in an Awful 'psychological' position.
These usually fall into 2 categories.
The Plead - Where the message sounds like:
"John, please, please call me. This is the 3rd time I have called. I HAVE to talk to you."
And the Emergency:
"Cindy, this is an emergency. Please call me as soon as you get this."
Now, I think you can see what is wrong with both of those approaches?
So, I won't go on and on...
** How To Use Curiosity & Self Interest To Your Advantage
Two of the most powerful forces of the human mind are:
*Curiosity & *Self Interest
And here's the big secret!
When you combine the two, you have a recipe that WILL work 'magic'.
So...
Let's look at what you can say that works nearly Every Time!
In a friendly tone:
"Hi John. It's Cindy. I wanted to let you know I appreciate what you did for me. Call me because I want to thank you in person."
Do you see how that uses both curiosity and self interest?
John will not be able to resist! "What did I do?" "What does she appreciate?" he will be thinking. And he feels good because it is a positive message.
Now...
Before you call you need to think about the "Set Up"...which is figuring out what he/she did that you appreciate.
It can be any small thing...but needs to be plausible.
But more importantly...
** Another Warning...
What you do before, during and after they return your call is more important than getting them to return your call.
If you apply this technique with no underlying strategy and they call you back you can do more damage than good if you do not handle it correctly.
If that is your concern, well, the good news is that it is indeed possible to win back your ex no matter how bad the situation is. In fact, there are people who are in a worse situation than you. Yet, they still manage to get back their lover.
Perhaps, I will give a few examples to illustrate.
Have you even heard of men having affairs again and again and yet still managed to reconcile with their wives? You may think it is unbelievable but what I said is the truth. Even men who have affairs with several women, over a period of time managed to get their wives back.
Let's look at another example. Do you know that there are women who are being physically abused by their husbands or boyfriends. Yet, in the end, they still went back to the relationship. Also quite unbelievable, I know. But again, this is the truth. No matter how bad the situation is, there are always actions you can take that can help you get your ex back.
Before I continue, just want to let you know that I am not encouraging you to go back to an unhealthy relationship that is filled with affairs or abuse. This is just to illustrate that there are people who may be in a worse situation than you but still managed to salvage their relationship.
What is important here is that you there are a few things you must know. Most importantly, you must know what you must never do. Do them and it can spoil your relationship and makes it much harder for you to stop breakup.
So, how do I get my ex back by not doing the things I am not supposed to do?
You will not want to do the following:
1)You do not want to call your ex several times per day 2)You do not want to argue with your ex about the break up. 3)You do not want to harass his/her friends or family members. 4)You do not want to bump into him/her accidentally.
There are also other things that you will not want to do. One good guideline you can follow is that those things that make you look needy and desperate should be avoided at all cost. By not doing these things, you will be in a better position to stop breakup.
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