Many people ask themselves, "What can I do to get my ex back?" after going through a breakup. They consider what they could have done differently or they may write apology letters and plan grand gestures in order to get back together with their ex. Trying to figure out what went wrong in the relationship is probably a waste of time. During an argument emotions run high and we say things in the heat of the moment that we later regret. And because small issues become larger during the course of a relationship, you probably won't get the full story on why it's over. Dwelling on why you broke up does more harm than good.
Instead, forget about the relationship for awhile. To answer the question, "What can I do to get my ex back?"?" try to find some perspective about how it broke up in the first place. The only successful way to do this is to take a break. Rather, go out and socialize. Expand your horizons and get out of your comfort zone.
Spending time apart from your ex can work wonders, and will give you the chance to regain your perspective and perhaps make some changes in your life. After thinking about how you view relationships you may have a clearer idea about how to move forward with your ex. Do you still want to get back together? Or are you ready to move on? If you decide that the relationship is worth salvaging, it's time to find out how your ex is feeling about you.
Be considerate but slightly aloof during this time. Maintain your focus on the goal. Make your conversations lighthearted and be a little aloof. Because of the significant amount of time spent apart, your ex is probably missing you just as badly as you miss them. Let your ex know that you've been doing really well since the break up and play a little hard to get. Avoid trying to make your ex jealous - this can backfire because they'll think you've moved on. Only by seeing your confidence and how much you've changed can help them to consider getting back together with you.
If the relationship is meant to be, here is where it will become apparent. Try not to over-analyze and be patient. It will take some time before you see results. Just remember that you've taken large strides in simply asking the question, "what can I do to get my ex back?" Follow this advice and your ex could very well be back in your arms in no time.
There are some things that a girl will be willing to overlook -- eventually. She won't forget, and you're likely to hear about it from time to time for the entire time your relationship lasts, but she will forgive you and let you near her again. This could be something like forgetting her birthday, forgetting an anniversary, not telling her that you weren't meeting her as usual on Friday because it was a special night out with the guys, or other minimal damage transgression.
The best way around this situation is to try and make amends with a peace offering that's proportionate to how badly you've messed up! Anything from flowers and chocolates, to a romantic dinner at an expensive restaurant (you pick up the tab!) may be required but you'll probably get back into her arms with a warning not to do it again.
If you've really screwed up however, and want her back having done something on the magnitude of cheating on her -- even if you didn't sleep with the other girl, cheating is cheating in a girlfriend's eyes -- then you've got a much bigger problem. This one might not go away and so you're going to have to work really hard to get her to forgive you.
Cheating isn't just the fact that you made a pass at, kissed, and/or dated another girl. It's the fact that you broke the trust your girlfriend had in you, and trust is a foundation stone for relationship. You've compromised that foundation, now if you want that relationship to stand; you've got to secure it again. It's going to take time and patience, but no matter how much you hear her say "I don't know if I can trust you" remember it was you that created the situation so don't get mad at her for keep going on about it!
You have to prove to her that you are back and you won't cheat again. Usually this means that you first have to get her speaking to you again! Once she's communicating, even if she's mad, at least you've got a chance of getting her back. You can't fight silence! If she's yelling at you, then at least she cares enough to show you how angry and hurt she is. You can deal with that. Explain. Apologize. Don't get mad at her -- she's the victim! You're in a mess you made yourself so don't dig the hole deeper by telling her it won't happen again and she should get over it! She's not going to "get over it" any time soon!
If you're sincere in your apology however, and sound sincere in how you talk to her about how you feel about your relationship and how much you want her back, and most importantly, how sorry you are about the mistake, in time she will forgive you.
Again, she's not going to forget what you did, and the trust issue will be around for a long time, but if she can see how genuinely sorry you are, and that you really do care about her, then she may at least come back to you and give the relationship another try.
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