We use words everyday to express our thoughts, ideas, needs and wants. We use them to express affection, praise and love as well. However, unfortunately words can be used to hurt and tear down another person's self-esteem. Words have a powerful effect on the people that they are spoken to. The words we choose to use can determine how a situation plays out. After all, words are very powerful.
Take a child who is struggling to read and has to read aloud in front of the whole class. As the child stands there struggling to read, the reaction of the teacher and other students can have a huge effect. Should the other students snicker and call that child names this can cause major issues to his/her self confidence to the point that he/she may give up.
Now imagine what would happen if while that child stood there struggling to read, the other students started giving words of encouragement. Offering words such as "you can do it, keep going", "your doing great" and other such affirming words. That child will now feel good about himself/herself and continue to work hard to learn how to read better.
It is how the child is spoken to by not only other children but by the adults in that child's life that will make all the difference in their self confidence. A parent that tells their children that they cannot do something is creating a self-fulfilling prophecy. Tell a child they cannot do something long enough and they will believe you and then not even try. Therefore, it is important to use words that are positive and encouraging to your children.
Adults are affected by words as well and these words can help to build an adult up or tear them down. Negative words spoken between parent and young adult can still have an impact on that young adult's view of themselves.
Words are powerful and the old saying of "if you can't say something nice then don't say anything at all", is something that we should all live by. Sometimes it is hard not to say something negative in the heat of the moment, but we must try.
We all need to know that we are somebody special, that we matter and have much worth. It is through the words that others speak to us that allow us to feel like we do matter. Think about how you feel when someone says something negative to you. Those feelings that you have should be what keeps you from saying them to someone else. Words should never be used to tear another person down. Instead, we should use our words to help build self confidence.
It's great that you have decided to build your self confidence. However, there are a few obstacles that can keep you from achieving your goal. Most of the time, these obstacles are so obvious that they do not seem like obstacles at all, and all you can see is that your resolve to be self-confident is not taking you anywhere.
Therefore, it is important to become aware of these seemingly harmless obstacles that have all the power to stop you in your path. Let's have a look at what could be the reasons that you are not moving ahead in top gear.
Are you undisciplined? Some people simply have the talent to waste a lot of time without realizing it. They lack the self-discipline to stop their actions that waste time. Imagine a situation wherein you have a list of tasks to be completed successfully as a part of your confidence building program.
However, the moment you enter your home you involuntarily grab the remote and start channel surfing on the idiot box. It's only after an hour that you realize that you have been vegetating in front of the T.V in the time you had scheduled to do other tasks.
You realize that you have already disturbed your schedule. In a self-development program, it's you and only you who has the power to change yourself. Nobody will come to monitor your actions and progress. You have to keep a watch on your inner graph and see to it that it goes up! Avoid temptations and stick to your schedule.
Are you lazy and keep procrastinating? Procrastination is one of the greatest and most silent killers of confidence. It does not let you complete your jobs and tasks in time; things keep mounting and finally you get overwhelmed by all the many things that have piled up and need your attention.
The very basics of building confidence start with listing little things that are doable. You gain more confidence to take on greater tasks and responsibilities by successfully completing the lighter tasks at hand.
However not being prompt and delaying important things till they become urgent makes you miss the opportunity of working on your confidence and puts you in danger of falling back again into your earlier cycle, thereby wasting all the effort and energy you had put in to becoming aware of your low confidence trap and getting out of it.
Does your old self keep pulling you back? Assume. Assume. Assume is the technique here. Assume that you are a different person with habits you wanted to inculcate. Imagine the way you would like to be. Imagine a self-confident you taking things in your stride.
Then try to bring into your daily actions the way you have imagined yourself to be. I dream by painting. Then I paint my dream was the technique what the great painter Vincent Van Gogh followed.
Your assumed self will make people react to you in a different way, according to your new self. This will establish your new self to the world and will help you keep up the new self before it becomes a habit a second nature!
If you behave indecisively and helplessly, you will invoke proportionate reactions from people around you, thereby reinforcing your previous self. This throws you back again. Remember that you cannot get ahead if you keep looking back. Realize this and stop sliding back.
Don't copy self-confidence. Do not try to become like someone else. One of the greatest mistakes that people make when trying to increase their low self-confidence is falling in love with an image of their icon who may be a sport star or a film star or any celebrity and then they try to be like them.
This is one of the greatest mistakes that people can commit when trying in increase their self-confidence. You have to be yourself at all costs.
Getting inspired is wonderful but merely aping these guys won't take you anywhere. There is no need for any two people in this universe to be exactly the same. The challenge is to be yourself in a world that is trying to make you like everyone else!
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