A woman I know, an extremely spiritual person, recently shared with me the following: 'I used to have unfortunate beliefs about myself and I received back from external influences unfortunate results. When I decided to take control and raise my resonance, to be the change I wanted to become, to allow abundance and love come flow through me, absolutely everything fell into place. I am now living a life of leisure with a beautiful husband and I can draw what I want into my universe at will.'

What does it take to be magnetic? Can we really draw money, love or health simply by telling ourselves we are magnets for what we want?

It's easier than you think. It simply takes a shift in perception.

We choose what to focus on. We choose to be really bummed out when it rains, or we choose to appreciate the downpour as a great opportunity to take care of indoor activities, or even better, to leave the umbrella at home and go for a walk. One person's inconvenience is another's puddle splashing fun.

When we focus on good, good comes to us. When we focus on grief, we grieve. This is not to say there's no place for grief in life, it's just to say, we need to be mindful that we're not suffering over our own suffering. We do not need to be grief magnets.

The other day I overheard a girl in a cafe telling her friend, 'I'm a freak magnet. I can't leave my apartment without running into someone either clinically insane, someone whacked out on drugs or fanatical about some weirdness who wants to have extensive interaction with me.'

Her friend responded, 'That's strange. Your neighborhood is really nice. I can't imagine there would be too many freaks around there.'

She responded, 'I can't figure it out. The freaks find me wherever I am. They just seem to be waiting for me to leave the apartment so they can scream in my face or get me to join their cult.'

Of course, I didn't interrupt, but I thought to myself, how awful for this girl to believe this about herself. She's unconsciously drawing the lowest common denominator to her by putting out this energy into the world.

This is really how attraction works. What you think about yourself, you are. What you believe about the world, is your reality. What you speak, is your truth.

I was so tempted. . . I wanted to tell her, 'You're programming yourself to be a freak magnet. You could just as easily be a money magnet, or a parking space magnet. . .' but I realized that my intrusion would only further her self-diagnosis. She'd completely misinterpret my attempt at kindness as just another freak, as in, 'You wouldn't believe the freak that came up to me in the cafe. . . He seemed normal, but. . . '

So whatever your beliefs are about the world, I implore you, take this freak's advice and adjust it to bring you all that you ever wanted and not the lowest common denominator.