Going out and doing stuff with the girl. Getting to know her, and all that jazz.

Well, what if I told you that you had the completely WRONG idea about dating?

See, most guys use the concept of "going out" with a girl to mean that there is some romantic ulterior motive there, and that is not always the case.

Here is a small list of some of the more common mistakes a man can make while dating a woman.

Mistake #1: Guys use dates as opportunities to "Impress" women.

Often men might feel like they have something to prove while on a date, to get the woman to like them. They seem to think that taking a woman to some fancy and memorable place and bragging about their accomplishments makes them seem important.

Mistake #2: Buying your way into the heart of a woman.

Sadly, many men think that if they spend enough money on a woman, they can get her to sleep with them. This is always (and has always been) a bad idea. Aside from the gold diggers in the world, most women don't care how much you're spending on a date.

Mistake #3: Activities are a pointless waste of time!

Going out and doing things with someone does not mean as much as you think it might. Simply going to on dates does not encourage a womans interest for you. You cannot create romantic interest by just spending time together.

Mistake #4: Sabotaging yourself with boredom!

A date with no spark of chemistry is boring. Although many men become nervous while on dates, they often interrupt themselves by becoming boring. They often talk about their routines while displaying little to none of their distinct personality. This is going through the motions with hopes of not messing things up.

Mistake #5: Following a pattern for failure.

Some men think dates should go a certain way, they have their own ideas of how things are suppose to turn out, they then follow the same strict pattern of failure. They always go to the same places, while asking their dates the same questions they have asked all the other women they have dated. There is no fun or natural impulses offered into their interactions.

What does it mean to go on dates with a woman?

The answer is simple; dating is a means of encouraging and building comfort, attraction and emotional connections.

It does not matter how much you spend or where you may go, what does matter is how you build your connection with a woman, while encouraging her feelings for you.

You will notice that this is the major factor in the difference of going on cheap dates while truly romancing a woman and that of spending a great deal of money and getting nowhere fast.

You should completely focus on how you can increase your emotional connection with the woman you date.

You should be open to talking about your shared passions and interests, while trying to figure out what her hopes and dreams may be.

Take care to keep away from boring questions that involve work rather you might consider rephrasing your questions while adding interesting fun while on a date. As an example, you may ask her, If you were not held back by the laws of time and space and could do anything, what would you do.

Most importantly: HAVE FUN!

Crack jokes - even if they're not good. Have fun. Steer the conversation toward subjects she finds interesting. Be curious about who she is.

Above all, do not be to shy to bring up romance.

Too many guys are afraid to even broach the topic of sex while on a date. But you have to build the sexual tension to intensify the attraction.

Be a little wicked by flirting and joking with her, as this will encourage and build the attraction she has for you and then you can move on to the next level of your relationship.