af-fec-tion (noun) - fond attachment, devotion, or love.
STOP and think about that for just a minute. What comes to mind when you think of showing affection? Is it a kiss on the cheek? A quick hug to celebrate good news? Well I'm here to tell you that affection MUST run so much deeper in your relationship, or else you will never truly have a real connection with your spouse.
So let's break this down, one definition at a time:
fond (adjective) - excessively tender or overindulgent; doting
at-tach-ment (noun) - a feeling that binds one to a person; devotion
de-vo-tion (noun) - profound dedication
love (noun) - a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person
So take a serious look at how intertwined these definitions are... it's no coincidence, trust me. Lack of affection is a fatal mistake made in so many marriages... but it doesn't have to happen! It's so easy to turn this aspect of your marriage around, but no one does it!
What's it going to take?
Just close your eyes for a minute and picture the marriage of your dreams. If your spouse knew every single stinkin' thing about you, what you were thinking, what you were expecting, what you wanted them to do, say or touch... How would that be? What would that be like for you? For them? For your marriage?
I'm going to show you how that dream marriage is right within reach and you don't even need heels to grab it? YES, it's that easy... there are 5 simple steps that I will walk you through to save your marriage through mastering true affection. But first, let's take a look at the definition of passion:
pas-sion (noun) - an instance or experience of strong love or sexual desire
Okay so the word "strong" jumps right out at me. We're not talking wimpy pecks on the cheek here folks, we're talking STRONG connection. Here are 5 simple steps that you can follow to master the art of affection:
1). Tender hugs and kisses upon every departure and arrival (when you leave for work, when you get home from running errands, etc).
2). Think of one thing you love about your spouse and share it with them every day!
3). Cuddle each other... whether it's in bed, during a brief encounter while passing in the hallway or in the kitchen while dinner is cooking.
4). Stay connected and honest... whenever an upset occurs, react lovingly and sensitively to resolve it instantly.
5). Acknowledge your spouse for all the big things AND small things they do!
So there you have it. I guarantee you, just by following these 5 simple steps, you will see an amazing shift in not only your relationship with your spouse but your marriage as a whole!
In relationships, nothing is perfect. You have to face travails and succeed in dealing with them together with your partner. You both have to learn from your mistakes and try not to do things that hurt each other the most in the course of being together. You have to learn how to save your marriage before a tiny problem can lead to damaging effects that might cause for your foundation to be dissolved.
You must build a strong foundation from the start. Marriage is a learning process. Sometimes, you may not want what you have learned but this doesn't mean that you must give up on everything. It only means that you are like others, your relationship is not perfect. So the best thing that you can do in order to save your marriage is learn to accept facts. You have to love your partner unconditionally. And you must be willing to bend according to changes and to accommodate everything that you might have found out in the process.
A good foundation will come in handy at times when your marriage becomes rocky. There will be lots of times wherein you have to start from scratch in order to save your marriage. But the good thing about this is that if you are very sure that it is all worth fighting for.
Building a strong foundation is one thing. If this foundation will be marred by intrigues, hatred and other problems, you have to keep trying and think about how strong that foundation was. This will give you better chances into holding on and keeping up with the fight.
Here are some recommendations as to what you can do when you have been faced with obstacles that almost dissolved such good foundation of your marriage.
1. Talk things out with your husband or wife. You have to let your partner know how you feel. You have to make them aware how much you are hurting. You must not process such feeling by yourself. There are maybe things that you don't fully understand because you are being blinded by your jealousy or hatred. By saying how you feel and what your thoughts are about the issues regarding your marriage, there is no other else that you should be speaking with but your partner.
In this process, you must also learn how to listen. This means that you have to open your mind and heart to possibilities and other things that you may not believe at the start. You must let your partner speak their feelings and you should give them a chance to be heard and understood.
2. You may find it hard to forgive, but in a relationship, you must perfect such act. No matter what your partner had done, if your heart tells you that they have to be forgiven, listen to it. Sometimes, your mind gives you 101 reasons why you should not forgive. But when you listen closely to what is the one thing that your heart is saying, your problems will be resolved and you will be able to see things at a different perspective.
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