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[W115]Ways To Catch A Cheating Spouse

by Ed Opperman, Ed

All too many marriages fail due to the cheating of a spouse. At first, the innocent party will likely be in denial, out of fear of facing the truth. Eventually, that denial transforms itself into looking for ways to catch a cheating spouse so there will be incontrovertible proof. Here are a few ideas on how to catch a cheater.

1. Follow them - This may sound sneaky,but it is one way to catch your spouse cheating while in the act. Either you can follow them yourself, or get someone else to do it for you (a trusted friend or private investigator).

2. Check the numbers - In today's society, there are numbers for just about any transaction. Some people refer to this as a 'paper trail', and an easy way to catch your spouse cheating. Looking into credit card statements and phone bills can give clues to what your spouse is doing when they are not with you.

3. Go through their pockets - Finding a hand-written note that says "call me", a motel receipt, or a phone number written in lipstick are a few tell-tale signs that your spouse is having an affair. If you're worried about looking distrustful this can be done under the guise of doing their laundry for them.

4. Check their email - If you have a safe way to secretly read your spouse's email, then this can be a good way to find written evidence of cheating. A good tip is to check all of their email folders as they may be trying to hide the email messages from their lover. You may want to hire a PI to do a forensic examination of the computer to recover deleted emails and pics.

5. Online activity - Tracking down which sites your spouse visits and is registered at (such as pornography, dating, or singles sites) can help to nab them, too. This can be done by installing key logger software on your spouse's computer. Unfortunately, you can only install it on the computers you have physical access to. Another choice is to get a professional to do a check of the sites they are registered at. This is as easy as it is effective. All you have to do is provide your spouse's email address and they do the rest. Find out their secret dating site ads, Mypace page, and porn or escort service sites

Trying to catch your spouse cheating can be an emotional struggle. Guilt, denial, blaming yourself, and hatred are just a few of the feelings most people experience. Ultimately, it's better to make sure one way or the other, and that's why getting a professional on your side makes a lot of sense.

Copyright (c) 2008 Ed Opperman

That's how I felt when I suspected I was living with a cheating spouse. So what did I do to find out whether they were cheating or not. Well I used the following 3 easy ways to find out whether my spouse was cheating.

1. Look at their habits. When you live, or are around someone for a period of time you get accustomed to how they operate. People are creatures of habit so it is easy to notice if their habits have changed. If someone suddenly takes an interest in going out with friends that they never mentioned before on a Tuesday night then that will start alarm bells ringing. Also you can add a sudden interest in a hobby that just happens to take them out of the house and cannot involve you then this can also be read as an indication that the are up to something that they do not want you to be part of.

2. Look at their attitude. Again be on the lookout for changes in their attitude to you and how they answer questions. If you get the feeling that your spouse starts talking in a way that sounds vague, i.e. answers questions in a vague, non specific way like saying I'm going out with the girls/guys without at least mentioning anyone particular when questioned then they are trying not to give enough specifics to be caught out later. Someone without anything to hide will use specifics, like when questioned will say “…well Steve and John were there…” as opposed to replying “you know…the guys”

3. Look at their phone activity. When a spouse is cheating there will usually be a strange call somewhere. It is either one to be made or one that comes in at the wrong time. Most likely because they are lying to the other person as well and will have to make arrangements to meet or the other person isn't aware of the marital situation and calls inadvertently. So watch out for your spouse not answering calls because they do not recognise the number or changing rooms to make a call.

With today's technology it has become a lot easier to get the proof that your spouse is cheating and a lot of people have employed private detectives to spy on their spouses. That is no longer a necessary expense as a lot of the products are available over the counter and are capable of being used by everyone without any need for special training, only a determination to catch the cheating spouse. There are many services available today that simply were not available a few years ago meaning that a lot of heartache from the past need not be felt anymore.

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