If you're not getting women, you need to know why. You probably think your best buddy with the big blue eyes is just cuter, and lucky. But that's not it. The reason some guys get women, even when they themselves are no big deal physically, is that they know how to come across like they can take care of things. They show all the signs of "survival of the fittest."

Our species has come this far because of basic Darwinism - survival of the fittest. People are pretty predictable. We are attracted to those who seem like the will win the natural selection game. Going back to the beginnings of the species, we know that early humans chose mates who appeared to be able to ensure survival - it's the way our species has made it this far!

So, cut to the 21st century. Women don't know it, but they're still looking for the guy that can club a scary dinosaur to death. It's natural.

The irony is, very often the guys who are genuinely capable of taking care of a wife and family, are not the ones who look that way. They may be every day guys, with education, and not necessarily, a ripped body,. That's OK. It's not even the washboard abs that broadcast to women that a man is one of the "fittest". For instance, my mother fell in love with my dory, engineer, father when, on a picnic with several couples in the mountains, he shimmied up a tall tree to get kindling to build a fire. He showed himself able to survive, to keep the species going, to keep my mother warm

How does this manifest for you - a great guy, who may, or may not have caveman qualities. It's simple: in every possible situation, be the guy in the room, or the car, or the baseball field, who has (or does) what it takes to win. There are a lot of ways to do this. If you're not the biggest stud, then you're the guy everybody counts on - a team captain type of guy. If you're not the best salesman in the office, you're the guy who knows the most - who has done his homework and can be there for every problem, every issue that needs a solution. If you're not the coolest guy at the party, your the one who keeps it together, and makes sure everyone has a good time and gets home safe.

In short. Step up. Be a man.