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[Y85]Your Own Life Coach
by Devlyn Steele, Dev
”Go-Go-Go” Is life coaching another American New Age fad, delivering yet another empty promise of helping us live better lives?

Whether we want to lose weight, get a new job, succeed in business, more education, relationship help, financial relief, smoking, drugs or alcohol cessation, help with depression, overall happiness and countless others, everyone has changes we’d like to see made in our lives.

We are forever setting goals and hoping for changes. New Years is a famous time, but rarely do we find success. Certain seasons and events in our lives push our buttons and we try over and over but rigid patterns of behavior prevent us from making the changes we want.

To make sweeping changes in our lives is difficult and we tend to feel stuck and helpless when we fail to do so. We often blame ourselves and become resigned to the idea that we are who we are and that change is impossible, repeating our patterns in an endless cycle of frustration. As Freud put it, “We tend to recreate in our lives that which we have not worked through.”

There are many professional approaches to assist in learning about ourselves and changing our patterns of behavior. Some approaches are better than others and sometimes one approach can have amazing effects on one individual and yield less than satisfactory results with another.

Life coaching is a relatively new approach to improving one’s overall condition and as such, some may feel unsure about its robustness. But consider that much of what is mainstream today was once viewed as new and cutting edge, even controversial is some cases, such as the notion of a round earth. People once held the strong conviction that the earth was flat until it was proved otherwise. Life coaching is becoming more mainstream because it is proactive and delivers positive results.

As its popularity grows, more people are starting to ask, “What is life coaching?” Think of life coaching as much like coaching sports. In sports the goals are clear and the techniques to accomplish them are learned by those playing them. Coaches review these techniques with players, making sure they practice the right steps to accomplish the desired results. During a game, a coach is watching to see if the proper techniques are applied, pushing and motivating the players to perform them.

Certain goals may seem too ambitious to confront or even know where to begin. As daunting as these goals may be, specific methods do exist to accomplish them. A qualified life coach can break down your goals so that you know where to start and what specific steps to take to ultimately accomplish them. However, just knowing what to do is often not enough because we get in our own way. We tell ourselves that we lack the time or the money; we’ll get to it later; we’ll start tomorrow; this one time is ok; I’ll have a last piece of cake, cigarette or drink; or it’s not my fault I don’t feel good. These fixed ideas are what prevent us from the changes we want.

Once goals are broken down into manageable steps, a life coach will be there to assess progress and motivate the individual toward consistent behavior patterns that produce results. Not only will permanent successful routines be established, but they will bring about new actions that achieve even higher levels of success. There won’t be any cheerleaders there to shout as you score, but you will certainly be smiling all the same as you are finally making the changes you want and enjoying new winning patterns and results in your life.

But don’t get too excited yet. Simply dialing your local life coach won’t guarantee success. As with all professions, there are varying degrees of expertise and ability. Life coaching also lacks conformity to a universal approach; however, as the practice continues to take hold, a standard methodology will become more defined.

To insure that you will obtain the results you want, find out if anyone you know has used a life coach before deciding on one. If not, ask the perspective coach for references and a clear picture of their overall approach. Also make sure you are comfortable with the person.

If you are ready to get into action and start living your life with new results, look into finding a qualified life coach and remember that we each do have the ability to change and create the lives we want.

The three core documents every Life Coach needs to prove what they say they can produce are an Emotional Checklist for Adults an Emotional Checklist for Ages 7-17 and a Workbook that literally puts the subconscious on paper so you can begin the process of taking control of what controls you. These documents have set a definitive standard by which all other Coaches are measured. This is a continuing effort to standardize the industry. A standard can only be set if you have the infrastructure to measure the results you claim you can produce and that is the purpose of these documents.

The Emotional Checklist for Adults that was used in clinical trials sponsored by Medifast and administered by RJ Koval, MD, BSP showed that clients experienced a 55.7% Improvement in Depression Symptoms, a 77.8% Improvement in Control over Eating Habits, a 25.3% Improvement in Relationship Satisfaction and a 44.6% Improvement in Motivation over a five-day period.

The first question every Life Coach, Counselor, Psychologist or Teacher must be able to answer is: "What determines human behavior?" How can you help someone move forward if you do not definitively know what is moving them forward? Everyone who makes it their business to help others with life issues must begin with a clear definition to this question. After this question is clearly answered you need to have a means of measuring what you are implementing.

Every Certified Life Coach must be trained to use the infrastructure of these documents to guide people through the process of how to Recognize, Access and Change subconscious programming that simply does not work. In the future all Life Coaches will be required to prove what they say they can produce. Following are the core documents used to do this.

• The Emotional Checklist for Adults – Establishes a baseline measurement for an adult's emotional intelligence; measures subconscious understanding and relationship satisfaction.

• The Emotional Checklist for ages 7-17 – Establishes a baseline measurement for a child's sense of emotional well-being and is a means by which to monitor improvements of their emotional state. You will never be able to stop the abuse of children from adults. What you can do is empower a child to take control of their subconscious so the abuse can not negatively affect the rest of their lives. There is no better way to protect a child then to make them independent thinkers.

• The Life Coaching Workbook – After a baseline is established for ones emotional state you will then literally put your subconscious on paper and begin the process of taking control of your emotional state and behavior.

If you do not know how the subconscious works you are guessing how to help your clients. The subconscious runs approximately four times faster than you can speak. This is why it is imperative that you not only understand how the subconscious works but also how to take control of it. If you do not know how the subconscious works you will always struggle with a new goal especially if there is a contrary program in the subconscious. In other words if you are not running the subconscious the subconscious is running you.

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Devlyn Steele has sinced written about articles on various topics from Flirting Tips, Health and Women. Devlyn Steele ("America's Leading Life-Coach") has been a public consultant and a private counselor for over 15 years. Born and raised in Manhattan, Devlyn stablished coaching practices in New York and Los Angeles before moving to Phoenix in 2003. A. Devlyn Steele's top article generates over 12100 views. to your Favourites.

Kelly Burris has sinced written about articles on various topics from Teachers, Health and Depression Cure. To become a with the only clinically proven Life Coach Training and Life Coach Certification for the Corporate, EQ, Spiritual or Personal Life Coach visit Kel. Kelly Burris's top article generates over 4400 views. to your Favourites.
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