You have a sneaking suspicion that your wife may be cheating on you. Maybe you do not even have anything to go by other than a "gut feeling" that your wife may be talking to, or even sleeping with, another man. The feeling is a horrible one, to be sure. However, before you go and confront your wife on your suspicions, it is a good idea to have evidence of an extramarital affair, or one in the making, otherwise you may do irreparable harm to your marraige.
Identifying traits of an unfaithful wife
There are certain traits, or signs, that may indicate that your wife has started seeing, or at least talked to, another man. While these signs may present themselves for any number of reasons that have nothing to do with her having an extramarital affair, they are also telltale signs of a cheating wife -- especially if you notice several of them.
-Your wife has a renewed interest in "looking better" -- she may start up a gym membership, start jogging, or start to take a renewed interest in her general appearance. Your wife spends an unusual amount of time on the computer
-Your wife sets up a secret email account
-You receive strange calls at your home, or your wife starts to clear the Caller ID and/or voicemail out of the blue
-You find birth control pills, or even condoms, when they are not a part of your relationship with your wife
-Your wife becomes overly affectionate, or at least much more so than in the past
-Your wife seems distant, withdrawn, or even indifferent to what you say or think
-Your wife suddenly stops wanting to share her days' events with you, or her feelings about something that has happened
-Your wife's sexual drive changes -- either she wants to incorporate new ideas into your relationship, or she starts to make up excuses to avoid physical intimacy
Now, if your wife is displaying any of these signs, it could be an indicator that your wife is having an extramarital affair, or it could just be that she is going through one of life's many changes. Do not jump to conclusions, though -- accusations can make it more difficult to catch a cheater, and false accusations can destroy an otherwise good marraige.
How to catch a cheating wife
In today's high-tech world, a common starting place for an extramarital affair is on the internet. Because of this, investigation of extramarital infidelity requires a different approach than infidelity investigations of even the not-so-distant past. There are online services that will allow you to either confirm, or disprove, your suspicion that your wife may be cheating on you.
Do not harm your potentially good relationship over a gut instinct. While thinking that your wife is having an extramarital affair is a bad feeling, potentially destroying your marriage over a false accusation is the wrong way to go. Before you confront her, get evidence that she is, in fact, in a new relationship, or at least looking for one. Internet fidelity investigation services are a great place to start with your research.
Copyright (c) 2009 Ed Opperman
Signs of a Cheating Spouse:
1) You find birth-control pills in her medicine cabinet, and you've had a vasectomy.
2) Mutual friends start acting strangely toward you. (They either know about the cheating or have been told stories about what a horrible wife or girlfriend you are.)
3) Your cheating husband or wife stops confiding in you and seeking advice from you.
4) Sets up a new e-mail account and doesn't tell you about it.
5) He leaves the house in the morning smelling like Irish Spring and returns in the evening smelling like Safeguard.
6) She joins the gym and begins a rigorous workout program.
7) She buys a cell phone and doesn't let you know.
8) He sets up a separate cell phone account that is billed to his office.
9) The cheating husband carries condoms, and you are on the pill.
10) Begins to delete all incoming phone calls from the caller ID.
11) Deletes all incoming e-mails when they used to accumulate.
12) He becomes "accusatory," asking if you are being true to him, usually out of guilt.
13) Raises hypothetical questions such as, "Do you think it's possible to love more than one person at a time?"
14) He buys himself new underwear.
15) He insists the child seat, toys, etc., are kept out of his car.
16) The cheating wife stops wearing her wedding ring.
17) Has a sudden desire to be helpful with the laundry.
18) Has unexplained scratches or bruises on his or her neck or back.
19) Suddenly wants to try new love techniques.
20) He/she fairly suddenly stops having sex with you.
21) He/she suddenly wants more sex, more often.
22) Supposedly works a lot of overtime, but it never shows up on the pay stub.
23) Picks fights in order to stomp out of the house.
24) You find out by accident he or she took vacation day or personal time off from work - but supposedly worked on those days.
25) Shows a sudden interest in a different type of music.
26) Spouse's co-workers are uncomfortable in your presence.
27) Has a sudden preoccupation with his or her appearance.
28) Spends an excessive amount of time on the computer, especially after you have gone to bed.
29) He throws up a lot because he just ate at his mistress's house and had to eat the dinner you prepared when he got home.
30) Your spouse is away from home, either nights or on trips, more than previously.
31) His/her clothes smell of an unfamiliar perfume or after-shave. You see lipstick on your husband's shirt.
32) The amount of money being deposited into your checking account drops off.
33) You find items of intimate apparel or other small gift-type items that you did not give your spouse.
34) Your spouse seems less comfortable around you and is "touchy" and easily moved to anger.
35) You get calls where the caller hangs up when he or she hears your voice.
36) He/she loses attention in the activities in the home.
37) Your intuition (gut feeling) tells you that something is not right.
38) He/she has a definite change in attitude towards everyone in the home.
39) She uses a low voice or whisper on the phone or hangs up quickly.
40) She has a "glow" about her.
41) Atypical erratic behavior.
42) He sneaks out of the house.
43) She sleeps with her purse by the bed
44) She goes to the store for groceries and comes home 5 hours later.
45) He tells you can get hold of him at a different telephone number.
46) The telltale sign of a cheating spouse? Having to ask that question in the first place.
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