His love, passion and energy filled each of us with possibility. He taught us about the power of speaking from the heart.
Communication in divorce is so important. Mr. Brown's invited us "speak from the heart." I realized how often, particularly in face of potential conflict, I want to speak from my head instead. Speaking from my head makes me feel safer. It makes me feel clever at times. Have you ever had to make a request and felt you had to give reasons for what you want and why? That would be your head talking there. But in the emotionally charged arena of divorce, intellectual arguments often do not win the day or get you what you want.
We are always communicating with someone, whether it's our children, our ex-partners, our friends, our lawyers, ourselves. Many people are skilled at speaking "from their heads." What would our relationships be like if we were willing to speak from the heart? Yes, it would require a willingness to be vulnerable to another. Yes, you may find some raw emotions coming up when you speak openly and honestly from your heart. I suspect this is why so many people aren't comfortable with it. It feels safer and more in control to speak from your head, instead of your heart.
But think of a time someone spoke to you from their heart. Perhaps it was a child speaking to you of their fears. Maybe a friend shared about their sense of powerlessness with a problem they were having. That authentic vulnerability likely opened your heart up to a deeper listening to them. Sharing from your heart creates a strong sense of connection between the speaker and the listener.
My invitation to you is to simply notice where you tend to speak from. Are you speaking from your head or your heart? Identify one relationship that you might be struggling with right now and where you'd be willing to speak from your heart. Use the phrase, "What I'm really feeling is..." to get you started. Try it on as a new behavior. The worst thing that could happen is that your relationships don't improve. The alternative is that you'd create a whole new way of relating to another, and allow your authentic self to be heard.
As Les Brown said, "Who you are behind the words is more important than the words you speak."
We are all created with our talents attached to us. We each have characteristics that other people don't have. We have our own special abilities that make us different from other people. The only thing required of us with respect to these talents is that we should discover them and develop them into advanced skills. Although we are all created with our own special gifts, we also have some gifts in common that can be found in each and every one of us; however, in most cases these common gifts are the things that most of us take for granted. As a result, only a few people have developed the skills in the related fields. One field that we take for granted is the field of writing.
Writing is common to all of us. Most of us know how to write. It was first taught to us when we were children; yet, why is it that only a few people have learned the art of writing? It is because most of us don't find it as interesting as sports, movies, or music. The art of writing is basically same as the other fields of interest in the following way: It too should also be developed by constant practice and study. And the most important thing is that it should be learned by heart.
Writing, as well as other talents that we have, can also help us earn money. Doing a freelance writing job can develop our skill. The most important aspect of writing work is the development process. We are unable to appreciate what we have done until we develop our skills and perceptions to a much higher degree. So, freelance writing is the opportunity to develop our skills and our perceptions.
Writing can be an outlet for emotion. It can act as a channel from the soul of the author. It can show the reader the real personality and emotion of the writer. It can also show the past, the present and the future of a certain person. Writing can open one's door to reality. The one thing that you should know to be an effective writer is that you should write from the heart. Although research is needed in writing, one should not pull all of his knowledge from his head but he should pull it also from his heart. One should understand that for writings to be realistic and true, a person should write with her own emotions bound up in the writing. In this way he is communicating his thoughts and feelings not only to himself but also to others.
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