Remember the song by Neil Sedaka "Breaking Up Is Hard To Do"? If you don't, I strongly suggest that you Google the song lyrics, as these words are very crucial to what I am about to discuss here regarding breaking up and making up. The key phrases in Neil Sedaka's song which really put things in perspective are: "They say that breaking up is hard to do Now I know, I know that it's true Don't say that this is the end Instead of breaking up I wish that we were making up again" (taken from "Breaking Up Is Hard To Do" by Neil Sedaka)
In many cases knowing what to say, how to say it and when to say it will mean all the difference in the world when you come the fork in the "relationship road". One path choice may result in a broken heart accompanied by depression, pain, guilt, second guessing, and the old "what if" syndrome. Yet another path may result in joy, happiness, romance and perhaps a life-long relationship with that very special someone in your life.
Most people need help, but from where or whom? For most of us, life did not prepare us on how to deal with relationships in trouble. To my knowledge there are no school courses or programs on how to effectively make up, to avoid a break up! Well not until recently that is!
A recent publication on how to effectively communicate with your significant "other" to avoid the painful stress, pain and depression often associated with an impending break up has taken the Internet e-publication world by storm. No longer do you have to feel distraught, helpless or even frustrated with your inability to take affirmative action to save a failing relationship.
The only wrong course of action is to throw youf hands in the air, feel self pity, and do absolutely nothing. Conversely you could "get mad", let your emotions rule the moment, and risk damaging your failing relationship beyond any hope of ever making up. Take charge of the situation! Whether you are 14 or 84, this publication will give you the necessary skills and support to effectively communication your feelings of love and attraction to your "special" person. So why risk a break up, if you truly want to make up?
If you are like most people, you are probably skeptical about how a book can really solve a failing relationship. Perhaps you have turned to your close friends or family for advice. While it is certainly helpful to have a support network for times of crisis, we both know how people's emotions can often cloud good judgment or decision making. In many cases it takes a "view from the outside" that is not tainted with the emotional side of the situation to provide thoughtful suggestions, not reactionary ones. In such situations, the advice and supported provided by the publication under discussion may be the "best of the best" options available for you.
Remember that second chances do not always come around, so make sure that you take the correct steps to save your failing relationship the first time! Learn affirmative actions to save your struggling or failing relationship now, before it is too late!
Anger, sadness or possibly denial.
Everyone deals with his or her emotions differently. Having some remedies handy will help you to get through it the best way you possibly can.
There are some that might suggest throwing caution to the wind by eating entire pints of ice cream, drinking tequila shots, shop till you drop therapy.
But others offer more practical advice like getting out with friends or practicing yoga. See which break-up antidotes will work for you.
1. Get a makeover. Try something different than what you have ever looked like before.
2. Use his picture as a dartboard. Get that anger out!
3. Going out to eat with friends
4. See a psychic just for the fun of it
5. Get a totally hot new outfit
6. Learn something NEW - Pole dancing, crocheting, skydiving, whatever
7. Go to the gym, workout, burn off anger and get really buff doing it.
8. Take a mini vacation if you can. Something as simple as getting away for a weekend can refresh you while helping you to see that this is for the best.
9. If you cannot get away for a vacation then use self tanner to look like you did. You will look totally hot and every one will think you went on a vacation to the Bahamas or somewhere else great.
10. Curl up with a blanket and let yourself cry but for no longer than 60 minutes. Then get up, dry your tears and get on with getting over him.
11. Get a cool new hairstyle. Try a totally different color with the corresponding make up changes. If your hair is long then consider a short haircut for something completely different. You will have heads turning!
12. Go ahead and do something that he always HATED to do. If he hated to do the things you used to love and you stopped doing them to make him happy then start enjoying them again. Remember; do not give up the things you love for anyone. You lose a part of yourself when you do that. No man is worth giving up what makes you happy.
13. Get dressed to the nines, go out and then Flirt Like Crazy just because you can!
14. Indulge in eating a pint of ice cream
15. Clean Clean Clean! It gets your mind off him, burns energy and you have a super clean home for your efforts.
16. CHOCOLATE! - Need I say more?
17. Tell him you lied when you told him that he was the best you have ever had?
18. Long walks on the beach
19. Learn Yoga
20. Try to remember that some people are in our life for a reason - to teach us something. Maybe he has taught you all that he was supposed to and now you can find the person you are meant to be with.
In conclusion, although breaking up is hard to do you will get through this and usually your life will end up better for it. That which does not kill us will make us stronger. This too shall pass.
Yes, these are all clichè(c)s but they have been around for years and that is because they are true and they work.
Like the old song says "I will Survive!" Yes, you really will.
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