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The Jewish faith is one that is deeply ensconced in tradition. A traditional Jewish wedding follows a number of beautiful traditions that date back for thousands of years. The traditions include the signing of the Ketubah, the use of the chuppah as well as traditional dances that are performed at the wedding. The rings exchanged during a Jewish wedding also have traditional connotations.
The signing of the Ketubah is the traditional start to a Jewish wedding ceremony. The Ketubah is a written agreement that not only asserts that the bride is not already married but also outlines the expectations that the couple hold for each other in the marriage. This ornate document can later be framed and prominently displayed in the couple's home as a reminder of their commitment. After the bride and groom have signed the Ketubah, the groom takes one final look at his bride before lowering her veil and beginning the wedding procession. This tradition has biblical roots and recalls the story of Jacob who married the wrong woman because she was veiled and he did not realize his mistake in time.
The wedding party traditionally precedes the couple in the wedding procession. The bride and groom then proceed down the aisle together accompanied by both of their parents to symbolize that their union includes the union of both families and not just the bride and the groom. The couple ends their procession under a traditional canopy called a chuppah. This canopy symbolizes that God is present and that he is sheltering and protecting the couple.
After the couple exchanges their wedding vows, a rabbi reads 7 traditional blessings. After the blessings the groom steps on a wine glass to break the glass in a symbol of human frailty and the suffering that members of the Jewish faith have endured and this with a final blessing from the rabbi concludes the ceremony. Unlike other traditional weddings, there is usually not a receiving line at the conclusion of a Jewish wedding. Tradition holds that the couple spends a few minutes alone immediately following the wedding so many members of the Jewish faith honor this tradition by leaving the ceremony immediately and waiting until the reception to offer their well wishes to the couple. This togetherness time was traditionally an opportunity for the couple to consummate the marriage but in modern times it is more of chance for the couple to reflect on their wedding ceremony and the start of their life together before the chaos of the wedding.
Even the rings that a couple exchanges during a Jewish wedding have traditional values. Tradition holds that the couple exchange very simple rings that are devoid of gems, engravings or other distinguishing marks. With nothing to distinguish the beginning or the end of the ring, it is a beautiful symbol of a love that endures forever with no clear beginning or end. This symbolizes both the couples love for each other as well as God's love for his people.
A traditional Jewish wedding reception features many dances. An energetic dance called the Hora is performed at many traditional Jewish weddings. In this dance the bride and groom hold a handkerchief between them while they are seated in chairs and hoisted into the air by their guests. This dance is a celebration of the bride and groom and recognizes the significance of their union. If this wedding represents the last son or daughter of one of the parents to be married there are a few more traditional dances that may take place. If the bride was the last in her family to be married, she and her sisters may honor their mother in a tradition known as Krenzi. The mother is crowned with flowers and her daughters honor her in the form of dance. Also, if either the bride or groom was the youngest to be married both of the parents will be honored through the Mizinke dance. In this tradition all of the guests circle the parents and shower them with flowers and praise.
The Jewish faith is a faith that is full of history and tradition. Many couples and their guests choose to honor these traditions by incorporating them into their wedding ceremony and reception. Many of these traditions are the defining moments of the celebration and they lend an atmosphere of historical significance to the wedding.
“Mazeltov!” The common congratulatory pronouncement usually marks the end of the Jewish wedding ceremony with the crowd cheering on the newlywed couple. However, the congratulations are just one tradition found at a Jewish wedding. Here are some other rituals and traditions you may want to include in a Jewish wedding:
Tena'im
When a company is engaged they break a plate to symbolize the destruction of the temples in Jerusalem. The breaking of the plate is meant to remind everyone that they feel sad for the loss even during this time of celebration.
The Jewish Sabbath
When planning a Jewish wedding, the Sabbath is an important time to remember, because weddings cannot be held from Friday at sunset to Saturday at sunset. However, wedding dates can also not fall on the dates of major Jewish festivals like Passover or Shavuot.
Ufruf
The Ufruf is a special ceremony for the groom. The ceremony takes place at the synagogue and involves the groom being involved in the service. Then members then toss sweets at the groom. The ceremony is then followed by refreshments.
Mikveh
While the groom has the Ufruf, the bride has the Mikveh where she visits a ritual bath during the week before the wedding. The bath is meant to cleanse the bride so she is completely pure for the wedding.
Chupa
The Chupa is one of the most recognizable parts of the Jewish wedding ceremony, as it is a special canopy symbolizing the newlyweds future home. The chupa allows for weddings to be held anywhere as long as it is present.
Seeing the Bride and Groom
In the week before the wedding, traditional Jewish couples are not to see each other. However, this custom is not practiced as often today as it was in the past.
Ketubah
The Ketubah is a marriage contract that the couple usually signs at the start of the wedding ceremony. The contract outlines the legal terms of the marriage, a custom began by the Sanhedrin a few thousand years ago.
Seven
The number seven is an important number in the Jewish faith, and it is represented in the ceremony via seven glasses of wine drunk during the ceremony and during the reception.
The Ring
In a Jewish ceremony the ring must belong to the groom (it can't be borrowed), and it must be an unbroken circle so as to symbolize a harmonious marriage.
The Glass
At the end of the ceremony the groom will break the glass in order to symbolize the destruction of the temple. The glass is usually wrapped in a cloth to protect the groom's foot.