For as many men as there are in relationships there are likely as many reasons as to why men leave a relationship. I don't mean to try and oversimplify this or make light of it but in this article I will discuss a few reasons why men leave a relationship, at least some men that I know. This is not by any means a scientific survey but simply a summary of a conversation that I had with a bunch of my idiot friends. This information is not backed up with any psychological basis or theory. These are just the honest words spoken from the mouths of real guys in real relationships. Take from it what you will.
When one guy in the group made the statement "I'm thinking of leaving my girlfriend." Another responds "why would you want to leave her, that's a nice set up? Seems like you've got it made." The conversation starts. So why would he leave a relationship that seems to be going so well? His answer was tangential and scattered. He really didn't make any sense at all. Another guy jumps in and says answer the question with the first one or two words that pop into your tiny little brain. So he's asked again and this time he instantly says "I'm bored."
We decided to ask that question of everyone in the group with the challenge of stating the first one or two words that came to mind. Here's the responses: I'm bored (2); the thrill is gone (2); I miss the hunt (3); no variety (1); I can do better (2); I want my freedom (1). Looks like a common theme here. The majority of the responses are centered around boredom and routine. It sounds like the excitement has vanished and the relationship has lost its spark.
Our group of guys enhanced on this theme stating that in the initial phases of a relationship there is that excitement of trying to win over the lady. Trying to do anything that you can to make her notice you or express some interest in you. We are out there hunting and we want to capture our prey. The ritual of trying to impress a woman comes with a certain exhilarating thrill. Guys want an ego boost when it comes to women. We want that conquest and it really builds our egos when we make it happen.
So as long as we can keep the thrill of the hunt going we stand a better chance of keeping the relationship alive. Is that what it comes down to? Some of my bozo friends responded with a resounding yes! But how do you keep that feeling as you settle into a relationship and spontaneity is replaced with routine and responsibility? Our discussion came to a quick halt when our wives and girlfriends started to join us. We would have to solve the world's relationship problems on another day.
Do you have trouble understanding men that you date? Can't figure out why men seem distant and non-committal sometimes? You find that communicating with men is almost impossible sometimes, right? I'm sure you think that all men are from mars, too. Well, as a man myself, I can attest that we can be nuts, hard to figure out, and yes... surprise, maybe even a little afraid of making a commitment with a woman.
It doesn't have to be so difficult, and there are approaches you can take with your man to fully understand where he's coming from and how to make him more committed to you. One of the main reasons that you have such a hard time understanding men is the way that you communicate with each other.
Let's consider this situation. You date a guy for a while and things are going great. You feel a connection with him, and you think that he feels the same way. You want to start bombarding him with your feelings about how crazy you are about him and how you want to become more committed to each other. The only problem is that you fear that this will scare him away. To be honest, you're right. It very well could scare him away (if you do it wrong).
The fact is, the way you communicate with the man in your life is what will make or break your relationship. Learning to communicate with him in the right manner is vitally important if you want to have a successful, loving, and long lasting relationship.
I know it can be frustrating to try to understand why men change the way we act toward you as our relationship develops. At first, it seems that we are crazy about you. We're giving you tons of attention, buying you flowers, taking you on great dates, and calling you every day. Then as time goes on, we start to seem less interested, maybe becoming a little distant. We no longer surprise you with gifts. You think we might even be cheating on you. You don't understand what has happened between us and eventually your frustration builds up to the point where you blow up at us and let it all out.
It might be a big fight, or you are very emotional and crying, or complaining about the relationship. Whatever it may be, this comes off to the man as "too much drama", and can possibly make things even worse and make a man more distant. We might think that you are an emotional wreck or "have issues" or something similar.
I understand that you have legitimate reasons to be angry and emotional, and realize that it's not fair for men to think this way, but you have to realize that this is simply the way a man's mind works.
So how do you avoid these issues in a relationship, communicate better with men, and create a long-lasting fulfilling relationship? Well, there are hundreds of aspects we can talk about, but let's start with something very basic.
You need to understand exactly what's going on inside a man's mind. I'll be honest with you. Men have no clue what your expectations are of us and our relationship. You need to communicate with us as time goes on exactly what you want out of our relationship. Otherwise, most guys will never bring up this topic, so it's up to you. I know it sounds scary, but it's best to get it out in the open. If you don't, the man could string you along for months or years, and not really be serious about a committed relationship or marriage.
We'll expand on this discussion later, but hopefully you can take some steps for understanding men better and learning why men are from mars and how to create a more successful and loving relationship.
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