How come life is so unfair, why is it that when you didn't want to get pregnant you spent your whole time worrying about being pregnant and now that you do want to get pregnant you are still worrying about the same thing - getting pregnant!
Worry and frustration are probably two of the biggest emotions experienced when trying to get pregnant and having problems conceiving.
Getting pregnant should be the easiest thing in the world - or so you would think! Well for some it is, for others however, it is downright difficult and the longer it takes the more difficult it seems to get.
Does that sound familiar?
We know that today, couples often leave it later to start a family, putting their careers first and as a result do not get married until they are perhaps in their mid 30s. Only then do they start to think about having a family and getting pregnant.
Then they embark on the process of trying to conceive. Looking forward to the day that they can share their exciting news with their family and friends that they are pregnant.
Research tells us that the longer you leave it to try and get pregnant the harder it becomes. Your chances of conceiving start to decline after the age of 30 years.
Well if you have been trying to get pregnant and it is just not happening for you, finding the right help to get pregnant can be a long and tiresome exercise.
I guess you have probably been taking advice from well meaning friends and relatives but the variety of information on getting pregnant is overwhelming to say the least. Some, no more than "old wives tales". How do you filter out the reliable information from the downright silly?
If you are trying to get pregnant and it is just not happening, do try to learn as much as you possibly can about increasing your chances to conceive.
Understand that both the man and the woman need to prepare when you are trying to get pregnant. Remember we are not all the same so different approaches are needed for different people. The key to success is understanding your own body.
If your period is late, your spirits rise, only to be dashed. You go to the loo every five minutes, looking for blood. You go through these cycles of emotion month after month. You begin to ask yourself what's wrong with you. You feel you have no control over your body or your life. Conception can become an obsession, and you start to feel isolated.
It often comes as a shock when you discover that you can't conceive when you are ready. Most of us take our fertility for granted. A diagnosis of infertility often creates feelings of loss of control and isolation. The emotional responses to infertility are many and varied, and can change over time. It is important to recognise that dealing with infertility is stressful. It may help to see a counselor and discuss coping skills and strategies so that infertility does not "take over" your life.
One way of taking back control is understanding the causes of infertility and what can be done about them. You will then be in a position to find out the options available to you.
If you have not conceived within a year of trying, it is time to see a doctor to discuss and start an infertility investigation. It is important to get the ball rolling promptly because age is one of the factors that can have a negative impact on your fertility. Your chance of becoming pregnant decreases as you age. Basic fertility investigations can be done by a GP, but referral to an infertility specialist should be done sooner rather than later.
Sometimes the problem is simple - making sure that you have intercourse at the time of the month when you are most fertile, or taking a course of tablets to aid ovulation may be all that is needed to conceive. For some couples, however, the attention of a fertility specialist and more invasive treatments, such as In-Vitro Fertilisation (IVF) may be necessary.
Whatever treatment is recommended, it is important that you have a good understanding of how it will impact on you physically, emotionally and financially. You also need to have a clear understanding of your chances of success with each treatment, and your alternatives if the proposed treatment does not work.
Having a good relationship with your doctor is essential, and you should expect to be partners in the treatment process. You should be involved in planning your treatment, and you should expect to get support in making informed decisions.
In summary, the keys to surviving infertility are:
1. Taking charge by being well-informed;
2. Being actively involved in decisions about your treatment; and
3. Seeking help when you need it for the stress that comes with infertility.
Again, because getting pregnant is less likely as you get older, if you think you are prepared to pursue infertility treatment, it is best to act sooner rather than later.
But first, make sure you understand how pregnancy happens when there are no infertility problems.
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