Wedding Vows Will you love her, comfort her, honour and protect her, and, forsaking all others, be faithful to her as long as you both shall live?" The groom answers "I will". The minister then says to the bride: Will you love him, comfort him, honour and protect him, and, forsaking all others, be faithful to him as long as you both shall live?" The bride answers "I will". In my opinion, these are three reason whey married men cheat: Ignorance, Selfishness and Lack of self discipline. 1. Ignorance Some people don't know themselves, how they are wired and what can easily tempt them hence they cannot avoid such situations and fall like a pack of cards. Some believe they are so spiritual that they cannot be tempted. The truth is that everyone gets tempted. The fact that you're married doesn't mean you will not find someone else more beautiful or handsome than your spouse. You have to be prepared to deal with those situations when they occur and stick to your wedding vows. Some are ignorant of the fact that marriage is 'hard work'. You have to work at it, it is an investments! Just like a businessman would take care of his investments, you have to devote time, money and resources to spice up your marriage and keep the love alive. If not you'll get bored and start to look for excitement outside marriage. Some don't know that men are from Mars and women from Venus. Totally different in the way they are wired. The man needs to study the woman and the woman likewise. Understand the different love languages, emotional variations especially 'during the time of the month', the man's ego and need for respect. The first 2 years in marriage is usually the teething period when the water is tested. Let's see the real you, dating and courtship often are not reality, welcome to the real world. No two human beings are compatible even identical twins are not. The excuse that you are incompatible hence the need to go outside is fallacy. It is immaturity and the refusal to compromise in the relationship that makes people stick to the incompatibility theory. Marriage requires give and take, love respect, effective communication and the guts to ride the storm when they come. If you think you just fall in love and get hitched and expect a bed of roses you are in for a big surprise and an early exit. Marriage is sweet, but you must know how to live it right. Roses have thorns but don't forget thorns have roses too. 2. Selfishness & Greed in Sex and with Money. The man just wants to offload without realizing that the woman requires her need to be met as well, even if she takes time to get to there. Selfishness on the man's part implies that the wife never gets satisfied and is left open to temptations so much that the nearest male seems a likely candidate. The same applies to the wife when she isn't in the mood but the man is loaded and ready to fire. You leave him open to temptation. A wise woman would probably marry a guy with potential and vision, a man that can take care of the family as a whole commitment to family life. This is not the same as marrying a man with just dream and sweet talk. The foolish woman would definitely run after the next sweet talker of rich guy when she discovers her man can't take care of her. 3. Lack of self discipline Some people cannot control themselves. The site of a nipple or anything in skirts sends thousands of volts to the brain and he loses common sense. Those people always say it's the devil. Tell me how the devil unzipped your trousers and took off your clothes and that of the girl. Some girls also cannot live without spreading; even the brutal act of circumcision cannot save those ones. Self discipline requires a conscious and determined effort to do what is right and doing it right even when no one is watching you. It is very important that one keeps him/her self chaste and pure for marriage. If while single you were moving from Peter to Paul or you were one of those guys saying Goodness and Mercy shall follow me, you'll find it very difficult to stick to one woman for life. Self discipline starts from your youth. No pre-marital sex, no fooling around keep yourself pure. Don't accept the lie that you must test drive to guarantee that you are sexually compatible before you get married. Again no two humans are sexually compatible. You have to learn the skills, positions and techniques to get yourselves to cloud 9 every time you get it on in marriage. If you invest in keeping your love life in your marriage hot, you will always be interested in your spouse whether she is size 6 or size 40, of whether he has peanuts or a pole. Size sometimes doesn't matter at all the time. If you are so concerned there are ways and things you can research or buy to spice things up. True love, wisdom, honesty and faithfulness will always prevail. There are faithful men and women in marriages, those that took their wedding vows and never looked back. A handful may be unhappy in their marriages but there are those that are happy and express the joy of their marriage. You may possess all right characteristics to remain faithful in marriage, the strength will and determination to remain faithful comes from within and the reverent fear of the almighty God.
If you are cheating you may have your reasons for doing it, most people do. If you are being cheated on you may be wondering what you have done wrong or what has happened in the relationship to cause your spouse to cheat. There are some very common reasons that people cheat, and though these are not the only reasons to step outside of a marriage they are some of the most commonly named. These common reasons for cheating are often:
Many people say that they began cheating because their needs were not being met by their partner so they looked outside the marriage.
A lot of people cheat because they didn't understand or respect the boundaries that were associated with their marriage. Many people who cheat have never been able to operate within boundaries in any aspect of their life.
Often people site cheating because they wanted some excitement in their life, which they found they can get through an affair.Quite a few people say that they cheat because the opportunity was presented to them and they couldn't turn it down.
A lot of people cheat because they have low self esteem and having sex with another person is their way of seeking for approval.Sex is a big issue in a lot of relationships and a lot of cheaters site this as their main reason for cheating. Either there was not enough sex or not the kind of sex that the cheater wanted.
A lot of people site that they cheated because they wanted to feel wanted or special and their spouse was no longer doing this for them. Some people simply lack commitment to their relationship or their partner and so they cheat because they can.
There are a lot of different reasons that people cheat and generally they are not the same from one affair to another. Regardless of the reason, most people who cheat do it because they have problem or a perceived problem and they believe that going outside of the relationship is the way that they can solve this problem for themselves. This almost never works out like they hoped that it would and affairs almost always create a whole new group of problems.
If you have cheated or you have been cheated on you should know that why the affair has taken place really isn't all that important. The reason is that even if someone cheats again they may not cheat for the same reason. If you want to repair your relationship after an affair you both have to be willing to work for it and you need to be committed to relationship first and foremost.
When you work on commitment you will find that neither person is as likely to cheat because there is a true loyalty to the relationship. Recovering from an affair is really difficult, so make sure that both of you want to be in on this recovery process, otherwise you are just wasting your time.
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