Lets say a friend arranged a blind date with you and one of her colleagues. You have dated a few different people and you have had your share of blind dates. So blind dates is not new to you. But you feel as though this blind date will be unlike any other. Could this be your last date before you finally settle down?
Of course it's a natural instinct for you to ask some information about your would-be dates. Yet the friend who set you up wouldn't tell all. In fact, your friend would probably want you to find for yourself the things you want to know about your date. You are both excited and nervous at the same time. But because you trust your friend, you think that nothing bad is going to happen. What's the worst thing that could happen, anyway?
Blind dating puts dating on an all-new different level. In this case, there is an element of anonymity which adds to the excitement. This, however, could also bring fear among daters because more often than not, they do not know what to expect. So here are a few tips.
If you do not want to leave small details to chance, it is good for you to ask your would-be date's number (especially if you are a guy) and have a small conversation beforehand. Although this is not a general rule, it will somehow give you an idea on pretty much what to expect the moment you go out on a date with this person. This will give you some time to prepare.
Being attracted to a person at the first instance of meeting him or her could happen in real life. Yet this would entail some qualities that you find very appealing the moment you set your eyes on this person. Most likely, the cases of "love at first sight" are based on the physical aspect. So if your date is pretty or handsome, then it will open up more possibilities. But beauty is a relative word. What others find beautiful may actually look otherwise to you. So you should not go on a blind date expecting to fall in love with the person when you see them for the first time. Either you or your date may be disappointed. Lets face it, a relationship that is built purely on physical attraction, is not a very good relationship. There is more to love than what is seen by the naked eye.
You can treat it as a friendly date. Start the conversation as if you are talking to a friend. Keep your conversation light. It will take some of the pressure off your shoulders and you will have the opportunity to get to know your date even better. It may not turn out as romantically as you want it to be, but at least your date is a worthwhile experience—not to mention that you gain a new friend in the process. Who knows, you will end up with that same person someday. Friends can be lovers, too. But only time can really tell.
The first point to bear in mind about a blind date, is to beat around the bush. Do not just go on a blind date without any basic details or information on the person you wish to date. Plan your blind date procedure a few days ahead and let the plans go around in your mind so that you know what to do and how to deal with situations that may arise. Do not just trust your blind date completely and do not entrust your whole evening or your life in the hands of an unknown person.
If the blind date knows someone who you know well or has been set up by a person you know well, then there is a much larger element of trust there. If your blind date is someone you've met on the internet, then find out as much as you can about your date until you instinctively feel comfortable spending some time with this person.
Instead of making very fancy and elaborate plans on your very first blind date, it is far safer to plan your dating in a casual and crowded place where you both can have a relaxed conversation and be comfortable enough to share one another's views. Besides ensuring your safety, casual dating will also help both of you to get to know one another better. Also in a crowded or a cool place you should have plenty of subjects to talk about i.e. your environment. This helps steer the conversation away from the formal topics of where did you go to school, what did you study and the like.
Try to keep the blind date informal and do not over dress for the occasion. For a blind date you don't need to turn up wearing formal wear but you should not turn up in gym clothes either. Show some taste in dressing; keep it casual and smart. Keep all your special clothes, till say after two or three dates. And men should save their suits for their wedding day. Aim to strike a good balance and create a good lasting impression.
However best you prepare for your blind date it still might not go as good as you would have liked. The chemistry between you and your date might not work well but that doesn't mean you cannot trust or find the person interesting. It might just be a bad day for either or both of you. Keep your mind open, never pass judgement and don't be too rigid. It's easy to feel deflated if the date doesn't go well; the time investment and maybe even the financial investment, not to mention the hope. If you do get on really well, then you'll want to get together again. This is where you start playing the game of should I call her tomorrow or the day after. The conventional wisdom is not to arrange a next date at the end of the first of the date; to leave them wanting more. But this will be your call.
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